Has anyone else just resigned to being single?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I accepted I would never marry in my early/mid 20's, and have never dated. I'm pushing 50 and maybe some day I'll get a dog.

That was early to throw in the towel. Why?

[Anonymous]

I was a Division I athlete and lived a fast-paced life in college and throughout my twenties. In my thirties, I found great financial success and never imagined myself in a long-term relationship, let alone marriage—I was perfectly content being single. But when I turned forty, I met my incredible wife, who was twenty-five at the time, and the past ten years have been the happiest of my life. Being in love with someone truly is a wonderful thing.

[Anonymous]

No, I found someone really nice on the apps and got married, just took time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was a Division I athlete and lived a fast-paced life in college and throughout my twenties. In my thirties, I found great financial success and never imagined myself in a long-term relationship, let alone marriage—I was perfectly content being single. But when I turned forty, I met my incredible wife, who was twenty-five at the time, and the past ten years have been the happiest of my life. Being in love with someone truly is a wonderful thing.

She’ll leave you when you’re 60 and she’s 45.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Division I athlete and lived a fast-paced life in college and throughout my twenties. In my thirties, I found great financial success and never imagined myself in a long-term relationship, let alone marriage—I was perfectly content being single. But when I turned forty, I met my incredible wife, who was twenty-five at the time, and the past ten years have been the happiest of my life. Being in love with someone truly is a wonderful thing.

She’ll leave you when you’re 60 and she’s 45.

If she does, he will have no problem finding a new GF, and younger than her if he wants that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Division I athlete and lived a fast-paced life in college and throughout my twenties. In my thirties, I found great financial success and never imagined myself in a long-term relationship, let alone marriage—I was perfectly content being single. But when I turned forty, I met my incredible wife, who was twenty-five at the time, and the past ten years have been the happiest of my life. Being in love with someone truly is a wonderful thing.

She’ll leave you when you’re 60 and she’s 45.

If she does, he will have no problem finding a new GF, and younger than her if he wants that.

You do understand what a really weird statement this is considering that you’ve no idea of a single thing about this “man”. Honestly his initial post sounds like a dumb troll because it’s awfully weird for a 50 year old man to be on a mommy board on a Sunday morning when he has a nubile 35 year old making him so incredibly happy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Division I athlete and lived a fast-paced life in college and throughout my twenties. In my thirties, I found great financial success and never imagined myself in a long-term relationship, let alone marriage—I was perfectly content being single. But when I turned forty, I met my incredible wife, who was twenty-five at the time, and the past ten years have been the happiest of my life. Being in love with someone truly is a wonderful thing.

She’ll leave you when you’re 60 and she’s 45.

If she does, he will have no problem finding a new GF, and younger than her if he wants that.

You do understand what a really weird statement this is considering that you’ve no idea of a single thing about this “man”. Honestly his initial post sounds like a dumb troll because it’s awfully weird for a 50 year old man to be on a mommy board on a Sunday morning when he has a nubile 35 year old making him so incredibly happy.

35 is not nubile... :shock:

after 30, both parties need to hang their head down and find god first.

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son.

Apparently the majority of women are completely screwing up the raising of their children.

Or maybe, if you meet one man who is a poorly raised idiot, the problem was him, but if the majority of men you meet are poorly raised idiots, the problem is you.

[Anonymous]

Growing up I was always the girl with a boyfriend. Long term, generally happy good relationships.

Since my divorce though I have lost faith in relationships. I would love to be truly loved, I have a lot of gifts and blessings to share and would love to find a great man to nurture- it just feels very hard to meet that person. I live in a very married suburb and there just aren’t a ton of good ways to meet men. I won’t do the apps anymore and I don’t want to meet a guy at a bar (ex is alcoholic). I miss cooking dinner for someone, or having someone to write a little note to to brighten their day. I miss being driven- I hate always driving I’ve been single since 2018. I still have two high schoolers at home, maybe as my nest empties a good man will enter the picture. That would be nice- but at this point I’ve stopped having a lot of hope and kind of focus on making myself happy and trying to be a light in my community. I can nurture friends and continue to focus on my kids and be grateful for the love I have in my life or I can focus on the missing romantic love. I choose the former.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was a Division I athlete and lived a fast-paced life in college and throughout my twenties. In my thirties, I found great financial success and never imagined myself in a long-term relationship, let alone marriage—I was perfectly content being single. But when I turned forty, I met my incredible wife, who was twenty-five at the time, and the past ten years have been the happiest of my life. Being in love with someone truly is a wonderful thing.

She’ll leave you when you’re 60 and she’s 45.

If she does, he will have no problem finding a new GF, and younger than her if he wants that.

You do understand what a really weird statement this is considering that you’ve no idea of a single thing about this “man”. Honestly his initial post sounds like a dumb troll because it’s awfully weird for a 50 year old man to be on a mommy board on a Sunday morning when he has a nubile 35 year old making him so incredibly happy.

35 is not nubile... :shock:

after 30, both parties need to hang their head down and find god first.

Okay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Growing up I was always the girl with a boyfriend. Long term, generally happy good relationships.

Since my divorce though I have lost faith in relationships. I would love to be truly loved, I have a lot of gifts and blessings to share and would love to find a great man to nurture- it just feels very hard to meet that person. I live in a very married suburb and there just aren’t a ton of good ways to meet men. I won’t do the apps anymore and I don’t want to meet a guy at a bar (ex is alcoholic). I miss cooking dinner for someone, or having someone to write a little note to to brighten their day. I miss being driven- I hate always driving I’ve been single since 2018. I still have two high schoolers at home, maybe as my nest empties a good man will enter the picture. That would be nice- but at this point I’ve stopped having a lot of hope and kind of focus on making myself happy and trying to be a light in my community. I can nurture friends and continue to focus on my kids and be grateful for the love I have in my life or I can focus on the missing romantic love. I choose the former.

a mature response.

after your kids leave for school, sell the home and move to a hyper walkable area -- back bay boston, the west village...you aren't going to find what you want in the burbs.

[Anonymous]

These posts make me sad, having a life partner is a really incredible thing. Besides companionship, sex, etc., relationships stretch you and make you grow as a person in a way that nothing else can. It’s true there are trade offs … you might actually have to make compromises and not do what you want to do all the time, and there may be times when you actually feel like you’re pulling much more than your weight (gasp!), and you need to be OK. Marriages are built over msny years, rough patches happen and are to be expected. But in my opinion it’s worth it. We are growing up in a time where selfishness is praised as a virtue. Yes, an abusive relationship would suck, but not all relationships are abusive just because they involve compromise. Sure, most people you meet you won’t be compatible with, but sometimes things that are worth having to work. It’s worth it to actively seek out a good partner. Don’t throw the baby out the bathwater.

[Anonymous]

After a surprise grey divorce, I doubt I will ever be interested in dating again. It feels like so much work to get back out there. Kudos to those who can, but I’m just not cut out for OLD. I last dated in the late 90s. Much as I never imagined I’d end up single this way, I’m trying to view it as time off for good behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just wondering, why are you over dating?

I don’t need the financial support and I’m okay with not having kids. I’m also okay not having some deep long term emotional connection with someone at this point. I’m on the precipice of just becoming a middle aged lady anyway.

You are nowhere near middle aged! Not too late at all to have kids.

Mid thirties is middle aged. A lot of people don't live past 70.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

I'm with you, but for very different reasons. I'm 40, very happily going through a divorce, and determined never to let another man into my life or house. Men are a massive waste of time. The whole time I was married, I felt anything else in the world would have been a better use of my life than dealing with my MIL's poorly raised idiot son. Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son. My life is worth more. All a man can do for me at this point is provide sex--and it better be good or I'm stopping midstream and showing him the door--and then get lost.

You married it.

And I'm divorcing it! Thanks for playing!