Has anyone else just resigned to being single?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not "resigned" to it. I like being single. I make all the choices, I get what I want, nobody has any standing to have an opinion about how I live my life... Being single is pretty great. I don't get lonely because I have work to do and friends and a hobby (several, actually) that I love. I have pets for generic affection. I've always been able to get myself off just fine, and the thought of having another human around to "provide sex" is disgustingly transactional to me (not judging; you do you/yours however you like, provided it's consensual).

I've been happily single for long enough that it would take a minor miracle for me to ever couple up again. I'm not inherently opposed, but a potential partner's presence has to be better than my solitude. I don't need someone to complete me, or pay for me, or take care of me. I don't want someone who needs to be completed, or carried, or managed. That's a pretty slim window of opportunity. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, I'm good. I'm definitely not looking to give up my solitude to whatever nonsense headgames people are playing on dating apps and the like. I'm old-fashioned, or maybe just old, but OLD isn't for me.

It’s so sad to hear. You must have been traumatized by the men you dated.
You need therapy.

New poster. There’s nothing sad about anything she said at all. Are you just one of those people who thinks that if someone makes different choices than you that they’re wrong?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

Of course. We call them “old maids.” The male versions are “confirmed bachelors.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

I'm with you, but for very different reasons. I'm 40, very happily going through a divorce, and determined never to let another man into my life or house. Men are a massive waste of time. The whole time I was married, I felt anything else in the world would have been a better use of my life than dealing with my MIL's poorly raised idiot son. Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son. My life is worth more. All a man can do for me at this point is provide sex--and it better be good or I'm stopping midstream and showing him the door--and then get lost.

You married it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

Of course. We call them “old maids.” The male versions are “confirmed bachelors.”

They call me a “spinster.”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

Of course. We call them “old maids.” The male versions are “confirmed bachelors.”

They call me a “spinster.”

Yes, that is another term that is frequently used.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

Of course. We call them “old maids.” The male versions are “confirmed bachelors.”

They call me a “spinster.”

Yes, that is another term that is frequently used.

It is hurtful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

Of course. We call them “old maids.” The male versions are “confirmed bachelors.”

They call me a “spinster.”

Yes, that is another term that is frequently used.

It is hurtful.

You’ll live.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

I'm with you, but for very different reasons. I'm 40, very happily going through a divorce, and determined never to let another man into my life or house. Men are a massive waste of time. The whole time I was married, I felt anything else in the world would have been a better use of my life than dealing with my MIL's poorly raised idiot son. Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son. My life is worth more. All a man can do for me at this point is provide sex--and it better be good or I'm stopping midstream and showing him the door--and then get lost.

Wow. You must make your mother so proud.

I do! She lost 32 years to my father and wishes she had left a lot sooner. But, as I tell her, she walked so I could run. It's precisely because I watched her and other wonderful woman waste the best years of their lives on ungrateful, hateful pricks like you that I learned to throw trash away.

At least you're not bitter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

Of course. We call them “old maids.” The male versions are “confirmed bachelors.”

They call me a “spinster.”

Yes, that is another term that is frequently used.

It is hurtful.

You’ll live.

No thanks to you.

[Anonymous]

I did. I'm mid 40s, was married for 20 years and have one grown up child. I enjoy being on my own at home, reading financial news, watching a movie, or spending time at a gym. I am very busy, running several startups, splitting my time between two states and constantly traveling with my family. When I have time, I do date pretty successfully but end up leaving all men I meet as I get very bored with them quickly. Not on OLD, I'm a member of an elite gym, and a business union club in my city; also meet men through professional connections. But at this point I am more interested in pretty young women and would love to try some extreme sexual experience. Sex clubs, threesomes, swingers vacations is what I'm craving for. Not really interested in plain straight dating for LTR or marriage. I like to be submissive, bound and called a wh...e. Men say I'm very good in bed but by at large I only care for them if there are interesting to me professionally (have ideas for my business) and provide good sex.

[Anonymous]

I prefer confirmed bachelorette, thanks!

Sometimes I get pondering what ifs and get melancholy over the marriage I dreamed of - but then my rational mind kicks in and I remember that in 50+ years I’ve not seen a marriage I envied or would wish to trade my complete independence for, never mind have I ever met a man I felt compelled to do domestic labor in support of and that’s something they all seem to expect.

My only real regrets are about not having a child and even those are greatly tempered by the state of the environment and outrageous income inequality so I’m good with dog as my copilot and a life that’s been full of adventure compared to the quiet desperation of most.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

Why don’t you date your single male friends?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

Of course. We call them “old maids.” The male versions are “confirmed bachelors.”

**Newsflash** it’s 2025!

[Anonymous]

You want to stay single and the world will happily grant you that wish. Who says there aren’t any happy endings?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m a mid 30s woman who has never married. At this point I’m not interested in dating. The dating apps are off the phone and if I just live by myself forever and never date again I’m very okay with that. A few male friends seem to be doing this same thing. Anyone else just over it?

I'm with you, but for very different reasons. I'm 40, very happily going through a divorce, and determined never to let another man into my life or house. Men are a massive waste of time. The whole time I was married, I felt anything else in the world would have been a better use of my life than dealing with my MIL's poorly raised idiot son. Unfortunately, the majority of men are someone's poorly raised idiot son. My life is worth more. All a man can do for me at this point is provide sex--and it better be good or I'm stopping midstream and showing him the door--and then get lost.

Please do yourself and any prospective partner a favor: keep that energy and stay single.