Is it ok if I cry? I'm feeling super fragile. |
NP. Of course. Why wouldn't you? It's a tough spot to be in. You (assuming you are OP) posted a few pages back that you're barely eating. My DH had an EA two years ago that blew up into a sort of mental health crisis for him. I lost 25 lbs--and I didn't have more than 5-10lbs to lose. I get it. We're in a better place than before, he got therapy and we did marriage counseling. If your DH is willing to work on things, you can get through this. |
Crying means you're being honest about how you feel. Anyone who can't honor that doesn't deserve a relationship with you. |
He is not having an emotional affair women do that. |
Texting pics phone calls etc. she's not local. |
She is capable of travel, right? Is your husband glued to your side 24/7? |
No she can travel so it could turn physical soon. I get it |
EVERYTHING is cheaper than a divorce. Keep working on your marriage and get therapy and as much help from others as possible- Church groups, male relatives, etc. Affairs thrive in secret. He needs help to pull him away from his worst impulses, otherwise he will begin making you the villain and sabotaging your marriage. I say this all as a woman whose marriage didn’t survive the emotional/physical affair |
How do you know all of this? If this was happening with DH I would have no clue and would have no idea where to start finding information out. How did you even find her name? |
Considering it's only a couple weeks, and she is already "overt" this doesn't sound like an EA--it sounds like it could just be flirting without the emotional components of an EA |
I hope you're right for OP's sake. |
By reading the responses from women here maybe I should an affair too. Geez all it takes is therapy and marriage counseling for you guys to forgive..nice! |
OP my dear friend had an emotional affair 20 years ago with a married colleague. It turned into a 2 year physical affair. I disapproved but kept my mouth shut. I believe they were deeply infatuated and maybe even in love (she called him her soul mate). This is what the wife did, which worked: she put the affair out in the open. Got their pastor to talk to him. Got her mother in law to talk to him. Got his brother to talk to him. Lots of mini-interventions from people in his orbit. It worked. They are still married. My friend was dropped and never married. Good luck to you. |
Does your husband know that you are aware of his emotional affair OP?? |
+1000 |