DH having emotional affair
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Anonymous
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Do you have evidence that it's romantic, and not friendly?
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Anonymous
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Op here- it's def not platonic
He has lots of female friends and I'm 100% fine w that. |
Anonymous
Yes |
Anonymous
| Even if it’s innocuous would anyone really want their spouse texting someone else nonstop? Slippery slope. |
Anonymous
Capture screenshots. |
Anonymous
They're deleted now |
Anonymous
So he knows you know? |
Anonymous
| What does "finances horrible" mean? Do you work? Are you funding college? |
Anonymous
He doesn't know how much I know but knows I'm suspicious and knows I know they talked on the phone |
Anonymous
I'm sorry, OP. Who earns more? |
Anonymous
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Emotional affairs can be very addictive if you are struggling with feeling empty. I think they say more about where you are emotionally than where your marriage is.
I had a long running emotional affair and it spanned highs and lows in my marriage. In my mind I called it a friendship but it was definitely more meaningful to me than that. My husband knew about it and ignored the whole thing and eventually I cut off contact with the guy on my own because it was just an exhausting and fraught relationship, not a healthy friendship. |
Anonymous
Him but business doing very poorly. Zero chance we could afford divorce right now |
Anonymous
He might have a different opinion. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
People divorce even when they're poor, OP. Don't think this protects you. And staying just because you want to keep a certain lifestyle is really sad. He needs to arrive, somehow, at the realization that this emotional affair is not good for him. |