DH Bought a Gun

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.

Oh for the love...

It's not like he snuck it in. He goes shooting. She knows this. It's kinda hard to have shooting as a hobby without a gun. This is a reasonable, hobby-linked purchase that he disclosed.

You sound unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Here’s one from cdc: https://www.cdc.gov/firearm-violence/php/rese...nd-teen-impacts.html

“Firearm injuries were the leading cause of death among children and teens age 1-19”

[Anonymous]

Man, these gun lovers are just as viciously argumentative as the pot moms over in the other thread.
OP, take care of yourself and please please protect those kids. Make a safety plan and talk to kids about it asap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.

Oh for the love...

It's not like he snuck it in. He goes shooting. She knows this. It's kinda hard to have shooting as a hobby without a gun. This is a reasonable, hobby-linked purchase that he disclosed.

You sound unhinged.

If it’s a hobby purchase, why can’t he keep it where he practices his hobby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, he brought home a gun safe and ammo safe with it. He told me immediately and didn’t try to hide he purchased it, and I didn’t realize how against it I felt until I saw it in my home. I told him to lock it up and discuss with our kids that they are not to touch it. He’s not irresponsible and I know wont leave it laying around.

Clearly he’s keeping it and he’ll do it safely, but I don’t like it. He is a hobby shooter and I know he enjoys it, I’ve just never seen a gun close up in person before.

Why don’t you suggest he keep it at the shooting range where he actually practices and uses it? If he’s so irresponsible to bring this home without discussing it I doubt he’s actually responsible enough to keep it safe - forever - and away from your kids. He sounds impulsive and selfish. Two great traits of men who kill their spouse in fits of rage.

You sound unhinged, as well. It's not "so irresponsible" for a hobby shooter to bring home a gun, and a gun safe without getting a permission slip from his mommy/wife/manager first. You sound ridiculously controlling, and outright paranoid. I hope you get the help you need to unclench.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.

Oh for the love...

It's not like he snuck it in. He goes shooting. She knows this. It's kinda hard to have shooting as a hobby without a gun. This is a reasonable, hobby-linked purchase that he disclosed.

You sound unhinged.

You don't understand why someone wants to discuss a significant and dangerous purchase BEFORE he brings it home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This reads like a troll post trying to stir up an argument. So many troll posts lately. Probably all the same person.

+1 Total shitpost.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, he brought home a gun safe and ammo safe with it. He told me immediately and didn’t try to hide he purchased it, and I didn’t realize how against it I felt until I saw it in my home. I told him to lock it up and discuss with our kids that they are not to touch it. He’s not irresponsible and I know wont leave it laying around.

Clearly he’s keeping it and he’ll do it safely, but I don’t like it. He is a hobby shooter and I know he enjoys it, I’ve just never seen a gun close up in person before.

So... Your responsible adult partner brought something you don't like into the house, responsibly, and you just don't like it? And since it's a gun, you figured you'd get a bunch of liberal biddyhens up in arms about the "oh HELL no" factor of a gun, when, realistically, this is not any different than any other major purchase, save that you don't feel comfortable around guns?

OP, be a good partner and learn how to shoot. You'll be a lot more comfortable having the gun in the house, and a lot more useful in a bad scenario, and you'll get to spend some quality time with your spouse.

Unless you have some sort of "you must discuss purchases over $___ with me in advance" agreement, this is a non-issue. Deal with your gun phobia and educate yourself. You'll feel better.

Oh, another one comparing buying a deadly weapon and bringing it home to children with a cute lil shopping trip. A gun is not the same as any ole large purchase. It’s a serious red flag that he didn’t discuss this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, he brought home a gun safe and ammo safe with it. He told me immediately and didn’t try to hide he purchased it, and I didn’t realize how against it I felt until I saw it in my home. I told him to lock it up and discuss with our kids that they are not to touch it. He’s not irresponsible and I know wont leave it laying around.

Clearly he’s keeping it and he’ll do it safely, but I don’t like it. He is a hobby shooter and I know he enjoys it, I’ve just never seen a gun close up in person before.

Why don’t you suggest he keep it at the shooting range where he actually practices and uses it? If he’s so irresponsible to bring this home without discussing it I doubt he’s actually responsible enough to keep it safe - forever - and away from your kids. He sounds impulsive and selfish. Two great traits of men who kill their spouse in fits of rage.

You sound unhinged, as well. It's not "so irresponsible" for a hobby shooter to bring home a gun, and a gun safe without getting a permission slip from his mommy/wife/manager first. You sound ridiculously controlling, and outright paranoid. I hope you get the help you need to unclench.

Yes I’m sure anyone you disagree with is “unhinged”. You sound like an irresponsible gun owner and negligent father and husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, he brought home a gun safe and ammo safe with it. He told me immediately and didn’t try to hide he purchased it, and I didn’t realize how against it I felt until I saw it in my home. I told him to lock it up and discuss with our kids that they are not to touch it. He’s not irresponsible and I know wont leave it laying around.

Clearly he’s keeping it and he’ll do it safely, but I don’t like it. He is a hobby shooter and I know he enjoys it, I’ve just never seen a gun close up in person before.

So... Your responsible adult partner brought something you don't like into the house, responsibly, and you just don't like it? And since it's a gun, you figured you'd get a bunch of liberal biddyhens up in arms about the "oh HELL no" factor of a gun, when, realistically, this is not any different than any other major purchase, save that you don't feel comfortable around guns?

OP, be a good partner and learn how to shoot. You'll be a lot more comfortable having the gun in the house, and a lot more useful in a bad scenario, and you'll get to spend some quality time with your spouse.

Unless you have some sort of "you must discuss purchases over $___ with me in advance" agreement, this is a non-issue. Deal with your gun phobia and educate yourself. You'll feel better.

Oh, another one comparing buying a deadly weapon and bringing it home to children with a cute lil shopping trip. A gun is not the same as any ole large purchase. It’s a serious red flag that he didn’t discuss this.

Why? Seriously. What is the rationale here? He goes shooting. If "guy touches gun" is a red flag, he has already disclosed it. He now has a legal firearm and a gun safe, and OP knows this because he told her. Why does he need her permission upfront? It's not an out-of-the-blue purchase, and it was handled responsibly. Why the automatic presumption that it means he has a killer instinct and not, you know, rational thinking about "adult buys adult thing adultly" which it is?

[Anonymous]

Bringing a gun into a house with small children without any discussion with their spouse is grounds for divorce - for lots of different reasons.

[Anonymous]

Gun lovers are by far the most fascinating group. Literally rejecting factual information on how dangerous they are to have in the home just to be a proud guntoting antiwoke freedom fighter. Who needs to discuss with the family? HES the man, his word rules over the women and children. Who cares about them or their massively increased risk of injury or death?

Some of you should really not be allowed around kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, he brought home a gun safe and ammo safe with it. He told me immediately and didn’t try to hide he purchased it, and I didn’t realize how against it I felt until I saw it in my home. I told him to lock it up and discuss with our kids that they are not to touch it. He’s not irresponsible and I know wont leave it laying around.

Clearly he’s keeping it and he’ll do it safely, but I don’t like it. He is a hobby shooter and I know he enjoys it, I’ve just never seen a gun close up in person before.

Why don’t you suggest he keep it at the shooting range where he actually practices and uses it? If he’s so irresponsible to bring this home without discussing it I doubt he’s actually responsible enough to keep it safe - forever - and away from your kids. He sounds impulsive and selfish. Two great traits of men who kill their spouse in fits of rage.

You sound unhinged, as well. It's not "so irresponsible" for a hobby shooter to bring home a gun, and a gun safe without getting a permission slip from his mommy/wife/manager first. You sound ridiculously controlling, and outright paranoid. I hope you get the help you need to unclench.

Yes I’m sure anyone you disagree with is “unhinged”. You sound like an irresponsible gun owner and negligent father and husband.

I'm a mother of two and former military and I don't currently own a gun, but go off half-cocked, I guess?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man, these gun lovers are just as viciously argumentative as the pot moms over in the other thread.
OP, take care of yourself and please please protect those kids. Make a safety plan and talk to kids about it asap.

Nobody's being "vicious" on the pro-gun side. A lot of y'all are calling OP's spouse a killer simply for having a hobby he has fully disclosed. I'd say that's pretty nasty of you, not us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, he brought home a gun safe and ammo safe with it. He told me immediately and didn’t try to hide he purchased it, and I didn’t realize how against it I felt until I saw it in my home. I told him to lock it up and discuss with our kids that they are not to touch it. He’s not irresponsible and I know wont leave it laying around.

Clearly he’s keeping it and he’ll do it safely, but I don’t like it. He is a hobby shooter and I know he enjoys it, I’ve just never seen a gun close up in person before.

So... Your responsible adult partner brought something you don't like into the house, responsibly, and you just don't like it? And since it's a gun, you figured you'd get a bunch of liberal biddyhens up in arms about the "oh HELL no" factor of a gun, when, realistically, this is not any different than any other major purchase, save that you don't feel comfortable around guns?

OP, be a good partner and learn how to shoot. You'll be a lot more comfortable having the gun in the house, and a lot more useful in a bad scenario, and you'll get to spend some quality time with your spouse.

Unless you have some sort of "you must discuss purchases over $___ with me in advance" agreement, this is a non-issue. Deal with your gun phobia and educate yourself. You'll feel better.

Oh, another one comparing buying a deadly weapon and bringing it home to children with a cute lil shopping trip. A gun is not the same as any ole large purchase. It’s a serious red flag that he didn’t discuss this.

Why? Seriously. What is the rationale here? He goes shooting. If "guy touches gun" is a red flag, he has already disclosed it. He now has a legal firearm and a gun safe, and OP knows this because he told her. Why does he need her permission upfront? It's not an out-of-the-blue purchase, and it was handled responsibly. Why the automatic presumption that it means he has a killer instinct and not, you know, rational thinking about "adult buys adult thing adultly" which it is?

It’s not about touching it, clearly he shoots recreationally. That’s fine. I don’t agree that it needs to be in my house around my young children.

How can you say it wasn’t an out of the blue purchase when he didn’t even discuss with her? How is that your version of responsible “I’ll do whatever I want, no harpy will stop me!!”