DH Bought a Gun

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.

Oh for the love...

It's not like he snuck it in. He goes shooting. She knows this. It's kinda hard to have shooting as a hobby without a gun. This is a reasonable, hobby-linked purchase that he disclosed.

You sound unhinged.

If it’s a hobby purchase, why can’t he keep it where he practices his hobby?

So I should keep my knitting needles at the yarn store, just like you keep your tennis racket at the court? Stupid argument, pp.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, he brought home a gun safe and ammo safe with it. He told me immediately and didn’t try to hide he purchased it, and I didn’t realize how against it I felt until I saw it in my home. I told him to lock it up and discuss with our kids that they are not to touch it. He’s not irresponsible and I know wont leave it laying around.

Clearly he’s keeping it and he’ll do it safely, but I don’t like it. He is a hobby shooter and I know he enjoys it, I’ve just never seen a gun close up in person before.

Why don’t you suggest he keep it at the shooting range where he actually practices and uses it? If he’s so irresponsible to bring this home without discussing it I doubt he’s actually responsible enough to keep it safe - forever - and away from your kids. He sounds impulsive and selfish. Two great traits of men who kill their spouse in fits of rage.

You sound unhinged, as well. It's not "so irresponsible" for a hobby shooter to bring home a gun, and a gun safe without getting a permission slip from his mommy/wife/manager first. You sound ridiculously controlling, and outright paranoid. I hope you get the help you need to unclench.

Yes I’m sure anyone you disagree with is “unhinged”. You sound like an irresponsible gun owner and negligent father and husband.

I'm a mother of two and former military and I don't currently own a gun, but go off half-cocked, I guess?

Mothers who don’t care about their children’s safety are rare, but not unheard of. Glad your gun brings you more joy than your kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gun lovers are by far the most fascinating group. Literally rejecting factual information on how dangerous they are to have in the home just to be a proud guntoting antiwoke freedom fighter. Who needs to discuss with the family? HES the man, his word rules over the women and children. Who cares about them or their massively increased risk of injury or death?

Some of you should really not be allowed around kids.

Where the hell did you get the basis for this ridiculous screed? People with such deficient reading comprehension and such overactive projection probably shouldn't breed...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, he brought home a gun safe and ammo safe with it. He told me immediately and didn’t try to hide he purchased it, and I didn’t realize how against it I felt until I saw it in my home. I told him to lock it up and discuss with our kids that they are not to touch it. He’s not irresponsible and I know wont leave it laying around.

Clearly he’s keeping it and he’ll do it safely, but I don’t like it. He is a hobby shooter and I know he enjoys it, I’ve just never seen a gun close up in person before.

Why don’t you suggest he keep it at the shooting range where he actually practices and uses it? If he’s so irresponsible to bring this home without discussing it I doubt he’s actually responsible enough to keep it safe - forever - and away from your kids. He sounds impulsive and selfish. Two great traits of men who kill their spouse in fits of rage.

You sound unhinged, as well. It's not "so irresponsible" for a hobby shooter to bring home a gun, and a gun safe without getting a permission slip from his mommy/wife/manager first. You sound ridiculously controlling, and outright paranoid. I hope you get the help you need to unclench.

Yes I’m sure anyone you disagree with is “unhinged”. You sound like an irresponsible gun owner and negligent father and husband.

I'm a mother of two and former military and I don't currently own a gun, but go off half-cocked, I guess?

Mothers who don’t care about their children’s safety are rare, but not unheard of. Glad your gun brings you more joy than your kids.

Me: "I don't currently own a gun"
You: (accuses me of not caring about my kids while prioritizing the gun I literally do not own)

Babe, log off. Take a walk. Breathe. You're crashing out, and it's embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.

Oh for the love...

It's not like he snuck it in. He goes shooting. She knows this. It's kinda hard to have shooting as a hobby without a gun. This is a reasonable, hobby-linked purchase that he disclosed.

You sound unhinged.

If it’s a hobby purchase, why can’t he keep it where he practices his hobby?

So I should keep my knitting needles at the yarn store, just like you keep your tennis racket at the court? Stupid argument, pp.

Tennis rackets don’t kill thousands of kids per year. Try using real argument.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.

Oh for the love...

It's not like he snuck it in. He goes shooting. She knows this. It's kinda hard to have shooting as a hobby without a gun. This is a reasonable, hobby-linked purchase that he disclosed.

You sound unhinged.

You don't understand why someone wants to discuss a significant and dangerous purchase BEFORE he brings it home?

I know all you gunphobic types are gonna find this hard to believe, but guns are inanimate objects. They don't get up and walk around, shooting people. The gun, in and of itself, isn't dangerous. How it's treated, how it's stored, how the kids are trained to address it... these things create (or negate) the potential harm.

The gun is inert until acted upon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Yes, he brought home a gun safe and ammo safe with it. He told me immediately and didn’t try to hide he purchased it, and I didn’t realize how against it I felt until I saw it in my home. I told him to lock it up and discuss with our kids that they are not to touch it. He’s not irresponsible and I know wont leave it laying around.

Clearly he’s keeping it and he’ll do it safely, but I don’t like it. He is a hobby shooter and I know he enjoys it, I’ve just never seen a gun close up in person before.

Why don’t you suggest he keep it at the shooting range where he actually practices and uses it? If he’s so irresponsible to bring this home without discussing it I doubt he’s actually responsible enough to keep it safe - forever - and away from your kids. He sounds impulsive and selfish. Two great traits of men who kill their spouse in fits of rage.

You sound unhinged, as well. It's not "so irresponsible" for a hobby shooter to bring home a gun, and a gun safe without getting a permission slip from his mommy/wife/manager first. You sound ridiculously controlling, and outright paranoid. I hope you get the help you need to unclench.

Yes I’m sure anyone you disagree with is “unhinged”. You sound like an irresponsible gun owner and negligent father and husband.

I'm a mother of two and former military and I don't currently own a gun, but go off half-cocked, I guess?

Mothers who don’t care about their children’s safety are rare, but not unheard of. Glad your gun brings you more joy than your kids.

Me: "I don't currently own a gun"
You: (accuses me of not caring about my kids while prioritizing the gun I literally do not own)

Babe, log off. Take a walk. Breathe. You're crashing out, and it's embarrassing.

If you don’t own a gun why are so fervently against people who want to keep them out of our homes? Bizarre flex “babe”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.

Oh for the love...

It's not like he snuck it in. He goes shooting. She knows this. It's kinda hard to have shooting as a hobby without a gun. This is a reasonable, hobby-linked purchase that he disclosed.

You sound unhinged.

You don't understand why someone wants to discuss a significant and dangerous purchase BEFORE he brings it home?

I know all you gunphobic types are gonna find this hard to believe, but guns are inanimate objects. They don't get up and walk around, shooting people. The gun, in and of itself, isn't dangerous. How it's treated, how it's stored, how the kids are trained to address it... these things create (or negate) the potential harm.

The gun is inert until acted upon.

Yup, like by toddlers shooting other toddlers or themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.

Oh for the love...

It's not like he snuck it in. He goes shooting. She knows this. It's kinda hard to have shooting as a hobby without a gun. This is a reasonable, hobby-linked purchase that he disclosed.

You sound unhinged.

If it’s a hobby purchase, why can’t he keep it where he practices his hobby?

So I should keep my knitting needles at the yarn store, just like you keep your tennis racket at the court? Stupid argument, pp.

Tennis rackets don’t kill thousands of kids per year. Try using real argument.

With an idiot? Hard pass. PPs upthread have already explained the logistics of why storing the gun offsite isn't a great option. What more needs to be said?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.

Oh for the love...

It's not like he snuck it in. He goes shooting. She knows this. It's kinda hard to have shooting as a hobby without a gun. This is a reasonable, hobby-linked purchase that he disclosed.

You sound unhinged.

If it’s a hobby purchase, why can’t he keep it where he practices his hobby?

So I should keep my knitting needles at the yarn store, just like you keep your tennis racket at the court? Stupid argument, pp.

Tennis rackets don’t kill thousands of kids per year. Try using real argument.

With an idiot? Hard pass. PPs upthread have already explained the logistics of why storing the gun offsite isn't a great option. What more needs to be said?

It’s fine, I know gun lovers don’t actually like facts about how dangerous they are. Keep your head in the sand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.

Oh for the love...

It's not like he snuck it in. He goes shooting. She knows this. It's kinda hard to have shooting as a hobby without a gun. This is a reasonable, hobby-linked purchase that he disclosed.

You sound unhinged.

You don't understand why someone wants to discuss a significant and dangerous purchase BEFORE he brings it home?

I know all you gunphobic types are gonna find this hard to believe, but guns are inanimate objects. They don't get up and walk around, shooting people. The gun, in and of itself, isn't dangerous. How it's treated, how it's stored, how the kids are trained to address it... these things create (or negate) the potential harm.

The gun is inert until acted upon.

Yup, like by toddlers shooting other toddlers or themselves.

Or teenagers. https://www.washingtonpost.com/dc-md-va/2025/05/22/dc-teen-killed-social-media-accidental-shooting/

[Anonymous]

Honestly doesn't even matter how you feel about guns. The reality is you don’t make a purchase like that without talking to your spouse. If the guy bought the kids a trampoline or a motorcycle for the kids without talking to his wife, he'd also be crappy. And those kill way fewer kids every year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.

Oh for the love...

It's not like he snuck it in. He goes shooting. She knows this. It's kinda hard to have shooting as a hobby without a gun. This is a reasonable, hobby-linked purchase that he disclosed.

You sound unhinged.

If it’s a hobby purchase, why can’t he keep it where he practices his hobby?

So I should keep my knitting needles at the yarn store, just like you keep your tennis racket at the court? Stupid argument, pp.

Tennis rackets don’t kill thousands of kids per year. Try using real argument.

Cars do. Where should those be kept?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.

Oh for the love...

It's not like he snuck it in. He goes shooting. She knows this. It's kinda hard to have shooting as a hobby without a gun. This is a reasonable, hobby-linked purchase that he disclosed.

You sound unhinged.

You don't understand why someone wants to discuss a significant and dangerous purchase BEFORE he brings it home?

I know all you gunphobic types are gonna find this hard to believe, but guns are inanimate objects. They don't get up and walk around, shooting people. The gun, in and of itself, isn't dangerous. How it's treated, how it's stored, how the kids are trained to address it... these things create (or negate) the potential harm.

The gun is inert until acted upon.

I hate this arguement. It's a NRA/Gun loving talking point, but you know while it may be true, GUNS are designed to kill people. They're designed to invoke death.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He's taken up shooting as a hobby in the past few months and recently decided to purchase a gun. He came home with it without discussion. We have elementary age kids, and I just don't want it in the house. He doesn't care, says it's for his hobby and he'll keep it locked up. Am I unreasonable? Is he?

Not discussing it with you is a major red flag. What was he hiding. He may be planning to eliminate you.
You should be concerned about your safety. Keep your eyes open.

Oh for the love...

It's not like he snuck it in. He goes shooting. She knows this. It's kinda hard to have shooting as a hobby without a gun. This is a reasonable, hobby-linked purchase that he disclosed.

You sound unhinged.

If it’s a hobby purchase, why can’t he keep it where he practices his hobby?

So I should keep my knitting needles at the yarn store, just like you keep your tennis racket at the court? Stupid argument, pp.

Tennis rackets don’t kill thousands of kids per year. Try using real argument.

Cars do. Where should those be kept?

So you keep your car in your office? Weird