My girlfriend quietly collected her things and left without a word during an argument

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Anonymous wrote:That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Run, girl, run!

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

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What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Wait was this what you were yelling and arguing about?

Yes.

Do you have some sort of history that someone eliding the truth (the friend was with your girlfriend and fine for some definition of fine) sets you off that much? I have pretty high standards for not telling white lies myself, but can totally understand the pressure your girlfriend was under and totally NOT understand why you're concerned about this unless there's background in your own life.

If you were the child of an chronically lying addict or have been cheated on and burned by lies it maybe makes more sense, but then you need to work on that not freak out at your girlfriend.

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you get into arguments with someone you supposedly love?

Well, in real world your loved ones are the people you argue the most because your interests are tied and both of you know that argument is about the topic at hand, there is no animosity.

No, that shouldn't happen.

[Anonymous]

“But but she can’t have really left me—she still has a half bottle of Herbal Essences in my shower!”

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

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What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

I feel like this story sounds familiar. Did you post about this before, freaking out that your girlfriend "lied?"

Yes.

you are a loser. bye

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why would you get into arguments with someone you supposedly love?

Well, in real world your loved ones are the people you argue the most because your interests are tied and both of you know that argument is about the topic at hand, there is no animosity.

No, that shouldn't happen.

Yeah, I agree that you should not be arguing with your loved ones "the most". If you love them, you take their position into account and vice versa. You should *want* the best for your partner. And they should want the best for you. And the actual thing that happens will fall out naturally.

[Anonymous]

Oh my God it's you again!. I thought she was finally done with you hopefully she is this time and if this is a new woman I hope she's smart enough to stay away.

As always if you don't need to be dating anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Yeah, she’s done. At least mentally

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she's had ENOUGH of your bs. Maybe this time she won't come back.

Good for her.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone here is so dramatic.

It's entirely possible she is mature enough not to want to say something she'll regret, and so removed herself from the temptation. Text once to own your part of the argument and let her know how you feel, then leave the ball in her court.

See, I think her leaving is immature. I get if someone needs time to cool off but say that.

I think most people would say that yelling at her and calling her a liar is way more immature.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Sorry, what’s the lie? That she was “fine”? You tried to gaslight her over what she said and called her a liar because YOUR INTERPRETATION WAS WRONG?! Is that really what you blew up your relationship over??

You are a psycho. She is much better off. Good f#%^ing riddance to sh$&y men like you.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

What in the hell is wrong with you?

Have you answered yet why you want to continue to date someone you consider a liar that you hate?

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Anonymous wrote:Oh wait, I'm the PP who said people were being dramatic. I didn't see the part about you calling her a liar. If she smart, she's not coming back. No one has to stay with someone who calls them insulting childish names. YTA.

If someone lied/is liar what else do you say? Am I not supposed to call that out?

Big picture: why do you want a GF who is a liar?

+1

What did she lie about?

About 1.5 months ago her friend came over and they went to brunch. Her friend is 34 with two kids and a husband by the way. The friend got drunk and was throwing up. My girlfriend got a call from her mom I guess because she couldn’t reach her friend/daughter. My gf told her that she was fine and the friend was with her and she’d have her (the friend) call her (the mom). I called her out for lying then and there. She said her mom is a very worrying helicopter parent and telling her how she was drunk would’ve sent her into a tailspin. The friend’s sister called too and she told the sister what happened and the sister said she had avoided their mom’s call because she knows how her mom gets. So, I told my gf that she should’ve just ignored her mom like the sister did instead of lying. She said her mom called her twice and avoiding her would’ve made it even worse, that she’s known her mom since they were teens and knows how to handle her. This turned into an argument then. We moved on from it the next day.

Fast forward to last night, she had mentioned something about honesty so I laughed and brought up her lying to her friend’s mom. She said she didn’t lie because she was fine because the friend was with her. I told her that’s not all she said to the mom because I heard her say, “girl we’re walking on U street and she had a few drinks”. She said she never said that and she knew I was embellishing because she would never talk to anyone’s parent that way. That she and her friend were back home already so why would she tell her mom they were walking around U street still, and if she was avoiding telling her mom she was drunk why would she tell her mom the friend had been drinking. She said she’d happily call her mom right now to repeat back what she told her that night. That’s when I said she was such a liar and I hated that for her and she left shortly after.

Wait was this what you were yelling and arguing about?

Yes.

So you finally admit you were yelling at her.

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Good for her! That means she is over your BS for good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“But but she can’t have really left me—she still has a half bottle of Herbal Essences in my shower!”

😂😂😂
He will be smelling it and crying in the shower once he realizes she’s never coming back.