Divorced women in their 40s seem to be doing better in the dating market

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Anonymous wrote:I am 32 and single. I think women in their 40s are beautiful. But women in their 30s still find me attractive and I prefer dating them. If a divorced woman in her 40s were to approach me, would I date her? No. Not because she is old, it's because women my own age still want to date me. Everytime I go on OLD I don't have an issue finding dates. But right now I am solely focus on building myself and dating is not on my radar.

So no one is talking about you dude. 32 is young. I agree with you. You will probably be married by your late 30s so its a moot point anyway. But single men in their late 30s have much fewer options than you at 32.

Life comes at you fast. People on this board love to talk about how women are dried up by their late 30s but trust me, if you are a man who is never married in your late 30s there’s a huge stigma for a lot of a lot of women below 35… why hasn’t some hottie snapped you up?

My friends in their 40s who are dating younger men, the topic of this thread, are mostly dating mid to late 30s or early 40s divorced guys. No one is talking about a 32 year-old never married single guy.

Not really, there is a small pool of men looking for late 30s women its a weird age because they are almost too old for a family and need to come to terms with that and date older men who are already divorced with kids or are looking not to start a family. Most men in their 40s are either divorced with kids or are at a point where their career is established and are looking to start a family. If it's the later it will be seeking a younger woman in prime children bearing age which is late 20s and early 30s.

No, actually people date in their age range. 20 something women are not looking to date 40+ men. A 40+ man who is “looking to start a family” all of a sudden missed the boat, the same way a 40+ in that scenario did. But if he’s sincere, the best way to settle down would actually be to find a woman in her mid to late 30s.

Thats incorrect, a man 40+ can still have children without issues a woman after 35 faces fertility challenges so its not the same, sorry. Look at David grohl he got someone pregnant and they are having a child and he is 55

Mr Divorced Middle Aged Schlub, just because Dave Grohl, a rock star, did something, it doesn’t apply to you.

Sure, most of us aren't rock stars like Dave Grohl, but biology doesn't change just because someone isn't famous. The reality is that men can have children well into their 40s and beyond without facing the same fertility challenges that women do after 35. It's not just about celebrity examples—this is basic biology. Men can still be very much in demand by younger women, especially when they're established, successful, and looking to start a family. Women, on the other hand, face more time-sensitive fertility concerns. That's why men in their 40s often seek partners in their late 20s and early 30s when considering starting a family. It’s not just social, it’s biological.

Except women don’t experience fertility challenges after 35.

Actually, it’s a well-known fact that women do face fertility challenges after 35. According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, fertility starts to decline in the early 30s and drops more significantly after 35. By 40, the chances of conceiving each month are around 5%, compared to 20-25% in their 20s. Egg quality and quantity decline with age, increasing the risk of miscarriage and complications. So while pregnancy is still possible, the challenges after 35 are real and backed by medical data.

Fertility declines by 1% per year after 35, which is hardly anything. A 39 year old is pretty much as fertile as a 28 year old, on average.

Contrast that to men, whose sperm quality declines RAPIDLY with age, which is why sperm banks will not accept donations from men over age 30 or sometimes even 25.

Just biological reality, bro.

Men’s sperm quality declines slowly compared to women’s fertility. Starting at age 30, sperm motility drops by about 1% per year, so by 40, it’s around 90%, and by 60, it’s still at 70%. Compare this to women, whose chances of conceiving drop from 20% in their late 20s to about 5% by age 40. Men remain fertile much longer, even with gradual sperm quality decline.

But women don't have erection issues unlike you by 40 not only you are one and done but you could barely keep it up

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't have trouble on the dating market. But then again I'm conventionally attractive in the top ways OLD works for women (petite, Asian). I actually had to restrict the ages below and above me because I had too many messages. But when guys could get through, I got younger and older than I filtered for. At the time I was 40 and had some 29 year olds sneaking in.

Ask any man in his 20s about MILF. Regardless of how you look, it's a fantasy to sleep with a MILF. I am sure you are fully aware that it's not the way you look but it's about your age being older a MiLF it's fetish territory.

Are you saying men objectify women?

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Anonymous wrote:I am 32 and single. I think women in their 40s are beautiful. But women in their 30s still find me attractive and I prefer dating them. If a divorced woman in her 40s were to approach me, would I date her? No. Not because she is old, it's because women my own age still want to date me. Everytime I go on OLD I don't have an issue finding dates. But right now I am solely focus on building myself and dating is not on my radar.

So no one is talking about you dude. 32 is young. I agree with you. You will probably be married by your late 30s so its a moot point anyway. But single men in their late 30s have much fewer options than you at 32.

Life comes at you fast. People on this board love to talk about how women are dried up by their late 30s but trust me, if you are a man who is never married in your late 30s there’s a huge stigma for a lot of a lot of women below 35… why hasn’t some hottie snapped you up?

My friends in their 40s who are dating younger men, the topic of this thread, are mostly dating mid to late 30s or early 40s divorced guys. No one is talking about a 32 year-old never married single guy.

Not really, there is a small pool of men looking for late 30s women its a weird age because they are almost too old for a family and need to come to terms with that and date older men who are already divorced with kids or are looking not to start a family. Most men in their 40s are either divorced with kids or are at a point where their career is established and are looking to start a family. If it's the later it will be seeking a younger woman in prime children bearing age which is late 20s and early 30s.

No, actually people date in their age range. 20 something women are not looking to date 40+ men. A 40+ man who is “looking to start a family” all of a sudden missed the boat, the same way a 40+ in that scenario did. But if he’s sincere, the best way to settle down would actually be to find a woman in her mid to late 30s.

Thats incorrect, a man 40+ can still have children without issues a woman after 35 faces fertility challenges so its not the same, sorry. Look at David grohl he got someone pregnant and they are having a child and he is 55

Mr Divorced Middle Aged Schlub, just because Dave Grohl, a rock star, did something, it doesn’t apply to you.

Sure, most of us aren't rock stars like Dave Grohl, but biology doesn't change just because someone isn't famous. The reality is that men can have children well into their 40s and beyond without facing the same fertility challenges that women do after 35. It's not just about celebrity examples—this is basic biology. Men can still be very much in demand by younger women, especially when they're established, successful, and looking to start a family. Women, on the other hand, face more time-sensitive fertility concerns. That's why men in their 40s often seek partners in their late 20s and early 30s when considering starting a family. It’s not just social, it’s biological.

Except women don’t experience fertility challenges after 35.

Actually, it’s a well-known fact that women do face fertility challenges after 35. According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, fertility starts to decline in the early 30s and drops more significantly after 35. By 40, the chances of conceiving each month are around 5%, compared to 20-25% in their 20s. Egg quality and quantity decline with age, increasing the risk of miscarriage and complications. So while pregnancy is still possible, the challenges after 35 are real and backed by medical data.

Fertility declines by 1% per year after 35, which is hardly anything. A 39 year old is pretty much as fertile as a 28 year old, on average.

Contrast that to men, whose sperm quality declines RAPIDLY with age, which is why sperm banks will not accept donations from men over age 30 or sometimes even 25.

Just biological reality, bro.

Men’s sperm quality declines slowly compared to women’s fertility. Starting at age 30, sperm motility drops by about 1% per year, so by 40, it’s around 90%, and by 60, it’s still at 70%. Compare this to women, whose chances of conceiving drop from 20% in their late 20s to about 5% by age 40. Men remain fertile much longer, even with gradual sperm quality decline.

Yes, men’s sperm motility drops pretty drastically, to the point where a 55 year old has 55% lower sperm motility than a 30 year old. But additionally, old sperm contains severe genetic defects and issues that increase chances of autism, dwarfism, and various syndromes. That’s exactly why sperm banks will not even accept sperm from older men, period. The quality is just not there. Women also intuitively know this, which is why young women lust over photos timothee chalamet and Jacob Elordi rather than aged Jude Law.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't have trouble on the dating market. But then again I'm conventionally attractive in the top ways OLD works for women (petite, Asian). I actually had to restrict the ages below and above me because I had too many messages. But when guys could get through, I got younger and older than I filtered for. At the time I was 40 and had some 29 year olds sneaking in.

Ask any man in his 20s about MILF. Regardless of how you look, it's a fantasy to sleep with a MILF. I am sure you are fully aware that it's not the way you look but it's about your age being older a MiLF it's fetish territory.

Exactly. That’s why so many women do so well on the dating scene. Actually it seems in Hollywood almost ever single hot young guy is with an older woman

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't have trouble on the dating market. But then again I'm conventionally attractive in the top ways OLD works for women (petite, Asian). I actually had to restrict the ages below and above me because I had too many messages. But when guys could get through, I got younger and older than I filtered for. At the time I was 40 and had some 29 year olds sneaking in.

Ask any man in his 20s about MILF. Regardless of how you look, it's a fantasy to sleep with a MILF. I am sure you are fully aware that it's not the way you look but it's about your age being older a MiLF it's fetish territory.

Are you saying men objectify women?

Don’t you think men who are on dating apps desiring no strings attached sex from women 20 years their senior are a self-selecting group of particularly objectifying men? Do you really think this specific group of men are there because your personalities are so dazzling and you’re just so darn educated?

By seeking out unserious men and cutting bait with those who are serious, a woman has objectified herself. The market is merely responding appropriately.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't have trouble on the dating market. But then again I'm conventionally attractive in the top ways OLD works for women (petite, Asian). I actually had to restrict the ages below and above me because I had too many messages. But when guys could get through, I got younger and older than I filtered for. At the time I was 40 and had some 29 year olds sneaking in.

Ask any man in his 20s about MILF. Regardless of how you look, it's a fantasy to sleep with a MILF. I am sure you are fully aware that it's not the way you look but it's about your age being older a MiLF it's fetish territory.

Are you saying men objectify women?

Don’t you think men who are on dating apps desiring no strings attached sex from women 20 years their senior are a self-selecting group of particularly objectifying men? Do you really think this specific group of men are there because your personalities are so dazzling and you’re just so darn educated?

By seeking out unserious men and cutting bait with those who are serious, a woman has objectified herself. The market is merely responding appropriately.

I think you missed the joke, bro.

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Anonymous wrote:It's easy to date at that age point, but it is much more difficult to find a genuine relationship. Most good men in their forties who are single will be divorced and have kids who are still at home. They are both busy and if they are out there, they are generally looking for a real relationship. They quickly find that there are lots of women in their 30s who are marriage minded. Maybe they want kids. Maybe they don't. Maybe they're fine with assuming a stepmom role. But in any event, there are a lot of relationship-minded younger women out there. That's probably what good men in their 40s are going to gravitate towards when it comes to relationships. Of course for flings women in their 40s will have no shortage of options. But for real relationships, they will more likely be looking toward men in their 50s with kids who are already grown and out of the house. Or they get involved with men a decade younger, but that almost never works over the long term if she doesn't want children. 40 something is a complicated age.

Interesting.

Your defintion of a genuine relationship seems to be centered around women caring for men and their children. Women in their 40s are looking for more "genuine" than that.

I have never found younger men attractive, but I'd never date a man with children if I were single.

These divorced women dating younger are smart!

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't have trouble on the dating market. But then again I'm conventionally attractive in the top ways OLD works for women (petite, Asian). I actually had to restrict the ages below and above me because I had too many messages. But when guys could get through, I got younger and older than I filtered for. At the time I was 40 and had some 29 year olds sneaking in.

Ask any man in his 20s about MILF. Regardless of how you look, it's a fantasy to sleep with a MILF. I am sure you are fully aware that it's not the way you look but it's about your age being older a MiLF it's fetish territory.

Exactly. That’s why so many women do so well on the dating scene. Actually it seems in Hollywood almost ever single hot young guy is with an older woman

Men just want a wet hole. Wrinkly pu**sy lips, sagging skins, droopy boobs, wrinkly face, aging spots are not features that a man under 30 is going to loose sleep over okay.

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't have trouble on the dating market. But then again I'm conventionally attractive in the top ways OLD works for women (petite, Asian). I actually had to restrict the ages below and above me because I had too many messages. But when guys could get through, I got younger and older than I filtered for. At the time I was 40 and had some 29 year olds sneaking in.

Ask any man in his 20s about MILF. Regardless of how you look, it's a fantasy to sleep with a MILF. I am sure you are fully aware that it's not the way you look but it's about your age being older a MiLF it's fetish territory.

Are you saying men objectify women?

Don’t you think men who are on dating apps desiring no strings attached sex from women 20 years their senior are a self-selecting group of particularly objectifying men? Do you really think this specific group of men are there because your personalities are so dazzling and you’re just so darn educated?

By seeking out unserious men and cutting bait with those who are serious, a woman has objectified herself. The market is merely responding appropriately.

MOST men are seeking out no strings attached sex with women, as proven by the 40 year old balding dude on here bragging about doing that to 20 somethings. That’s just the male degenerate nature, and by their 40s, most women know the game very well, and can easily play it, especially against a 25 year old. The vast majority of marriages have started with men “just wanting sex” and then getting lured into a serious relationship by a woman who knows what she’s doing

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Anonymous wrote:It's easy to date at that age point, but it is much more difficult to find a genuine relationship. Most good men in their forties who are single will be divorced and have kids who are still at home. They are both busy and if they are out there, they are generally looking for a real relationship. They quickly find that there are lots of women in their 30s who are marriage minded. Maybe they want kids. Maybe they don't. Maybe they're fine with assuming a stepmom role. But in any event, there are a lot of relationship-minded younger women out there. That's probably what good men in their 40s are going to gravitate towards when it comes to relationships. Of course for flings women in their 40s will have no shortage of options. But for real relationships, they will more likely be looking toward men in their 50s with kids who are already grown and out of the house. Or they get involved with men a decade younger, but that almost never works over the long term if she doesn't want children. 40 something is a complicated age.

Interesting.

Your defintion of a genuine relationship seems to be centered around women caring for men and their children. Women in their 40s are looking for more "genuine" than that.

I have never found younger men attractive, but I'd never date a man with children if I were single.

These divorced women dating younger are smart!

They are smart as long as they understand that it's a win win scenario solely for sex. I'm not going to introduce a 40 years old woman as a 26 years old man to my parents

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't have trouble on the dating market. But then again I'm conventionally attractive in the top ways OLD works for women (petite, Asian). I actually had to restrict the ages below and above me because I had too many messages. But when guys could get through, I got younger and older than I filtered for. At the time I was 40 and had some 29 year olds sneaking in.

Ask any man in his 20s about MILF. Regardless of how you look, it's a fantasy to sleep with a MILF. I am sure you are fully aware that it's not the way you look but it's about your age being older a MiLF it's fetish territory.

Are you saying men objectify women?

Don’t you think men who are on dating apps desiring no strings attached sex from women 20 years their senior are a self-selecting group of particularly objectifying men? Do you really think this specific group of men are there because your personalities are so dazzling and you’re just so darn educated?

By seeking out unserious men and cutting bait with those who are serious, a woman has objectified herself. The market is merely responding appropriately.

So the divorced men in their 40s were so serious that their ex-wives cut them loose. Most men are divorced because their ex- wives left them. Why should divorced women trade in their damaged men for equally damaged men who have been rejected by fellow divorced women? Most of these men are unserious rejects.

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Anonymous wrote:It's easy to date at that age point, but it is much more difficult to find a genuine relationship. Most good men in their forties who are single will be divorced and have kids who are still at home. They are both busy and if they are out there, they are generally looking for a real relationship. They quickly find that there are lots of women in their 30s who are marriage minded. Maybe they want kids. Maybe they don't. Maybe they're fine with assuming a stepmom role. But in any event, there are a lot of relationship-minded younger women out there. That's probably what good men in their 40s are going to gravitate towards when it comes to relationships. Of course for flings women in their 40s will have no shortage of options. But for real relationships, they will more likely be looking toward men in their 50s with kids who are already grown and out of the house. Or they get involved with men a decade younger, but that almost never works over the long term if she doesn't want children. 40 something is a complicated age.

Interesting.

Your defintion of a genuine relationship seems to be centered around women caring for men and their children. Women in their 40s are looking for more "genuine" than that.

I have never found younger men attractive, but I'd never date a man with children if I were single.

These divorced women dating younger are smart!

They are smart as long as they understand that it's a win win scenario solely for sex. I'm not going to introduce a 40 years old woman as a 26 years old man to my parents

And yet plenty of men do exactly that, men who are much more desirable than you. For example: harry styles, Aaron Taylor Johnson, Ryan gosling, nick jonas, Chris hemsworth, machine gun Kelly, mark estes, etc

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Anonymous wrote:I didn't have trouble on the dating market. But then again I'm conventionally attractive in the top ways OLD works for women (petite, Asian). I actually had to restrict the ages below and above me because I had too many messages. But when guys could get through, I got younger and older than I filtered for. At the time I was 40 and had some 29 year olds sneaking in.

Ask any man in his 20s about MILF. Regardless of how you look, it's a fantasy to sleep with a MILF. I am sure you are fully aware that it's not the way you look but it's about your age being older a MiLF it's fetish territory.

Are you saying men objectify women?

Don’t you think men who are on dating apps desiring no strings attached sex from women 20 years their senior are a self-selecting group of particularly objectifying men? Do you really think this specific group of men are there because your personalities are so dazzling and you’re just so darn educated?

By seeking out unserious men and cutting bait with those who are serious, a woman has objectified herself. The market is merely responding appropriately.

So the divorced men in their 40s were so serious that their ex-wives cut them loose. Most men are divorced because their ex- wives left them. Why should divorced women trade in their damaged men for equally damaged men who have been rejected by fellow divorced women? Most of these men are unserious rejects.

For women this is also an issue. My sister divorced her husband, did therapy, met a great mam(at the time) and now she is going through divorce again..she said that man who was younger turned out exactly like her ex husband. I think women date younger just to f**k and that's okay. The issue that women have with men are sadly not isolated to one man. The themes seem to be the same over and over again

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Anonymous wrote:It's easy to date at that age point, but it is much more difficult to find a genuine relationship. Most good men in their forties who are single will be divorced and have kids who are still at home. They are both busy and if they are out there, they are generally looking for a real relationship. They quickly find that there are lots of women in their 30s who are marriage minded. Maybe they want kids. Maybe they don't. Maybe they're fine with assuming a stepmom role. But in any event, there are a lot of relationship-minded younger women out there. That's probably what good men in their 40s are going to gravitate towards when it comes to relationships. Of course for flings women in their 40s will have no shortage of options. But for real relationships, they will more likely be looking toward men in their 50s with kids who are already grown and out of the house. Or they get involved with men a decade younger, but that almost never works over the long term if she doesn't want children. 40 something is a complicated age.

Interesting.

Your defintion of a genuine relationship seems to be centered around women caring for men and their children. Women in their 40s are looking for more "genuine" than that.

I have never found younger men attractive, but I'd never date a man with children if I were single.

These divorced women dating younger are smart!

They are smart as long as they understand that it's a win win scenario solely for sex. I'm not going to introduce a 40 years old woman as a 26 years old man to my parents

The bolded is pretty obvious. Most of these women have quality friendships and quality finances. What else do you think they are looking for in these relationships?

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Anonymous wrote:It's easy to date at that age point, but it is much more difficult to find a genuine relationship. Most good men in their forties who are single will be divorced and have kids who are still at home. They are both busy and if they are out there, they are generally looking for a real relationship. They quickly find that there are lots of women in their 30s who are marriage minded. Maybe they want kids. Maybe they don't. Maybe they're fine with assuming a stepmom role. But in any event, there are a lot of relationship-minded younger women out there. That's probably what good men in their 40s are going to gravitate towards when it comes to relationships. Of course for flings women in their 40s will have no shortage of options. But for real relationships, they will more likely be looking toward men in their 50s with kids who are already grown and out of the house. Or they get involved with men a decade younger, but that almost never works over the long term if she doesn't want children. 40 something is a complicated age.

Interesting.

Your defintion of a genuine relationship seems to be centered around women caring for men and their children. Women in their 40s are looking for more "genuine" than that.

I have never found younger men attractive, but I'd never date a man with children if I were single.

These divorced women dating younger are smart!

They are smart as long as they understand that it's a win win scenario solely for sex. I'm not going to introduce a 40 years old woman as a 26 years old man to my parents

And yet plenty of men do exactly that, men who are much more desirable than you. For example: harry styles, Aaron Taylor Johnson, Ryan gosling, nick jonas, Chris hemsworth, machine gun Kelly, mark estes, etc

Plenty of men in the real world hahaha. Hey dad this is Lisa she just turned 40 I love her so much. GtFO