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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am 47 divorced 2 years. I am very attractive good hobbies great job that I love and most importantly 2 beautiful.kids that I love so much.

However I am broke and this has honestly kept me from dating. Between child support, saving for college, emergency fund and retirement while I am not paycheck to paycheck for most women in the DMV I am sure they won't come anywhere near me. Women dl often say they have their own and don't need yours and I believe them. However it doesn't mean they are open to date a man who is barely making it.

I could be wrong. But I don't even want the discussion to come up so for now I just won't date.[/quote]

I'm 45f, divorced a year and working to become financially independent (was a trailing SAH spouse supporting my ex's career) by the time my 2 kids are off to college and it would be hard to make our situations work financially.

I'm attractive, fit and all that, but I live in a small town in Florida so end up dating older men who have grown kids and partially retired and living on boats or otherwise downsized. It works for now, but feel like in 10 years, I'll be looking for more.

In 10 years, I bet you'll be looking to date my situation now.
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Do you live in sarasota? I do, and was just out for dinner with a group of women and many were divorced and describe what you do. Lots of 55 year old women with 75 year old private jet and yacht retirees. [/quote]

Got to love you they shamelessly seek men of means [/quote]

Why would they not? Gen X men want you to cook, clean, fulfill all of their sexual needs, deal with any kids they may have, and help pay bills. No thanks. [/quote]

I'm confused about people posting this.  Most of the dcum relationship forum is women complaining about their husbands, but that they can't leave because the women wouldn't be able to financially support their lifestyle.  Given the fact that 99% of divorces result in men paying child support and alimony, I don't understand how all these divorced women are complaining that they were financially floating their exes.  (side note: you should handle the kids and housework if you're not contributing meaningfully to household finances).  [/quote]

There is a difference between doing all of the housework and childcare because you are not contributing meaningfully to the household finances and not contributing meaningfully to the household finances because you are doing all of the housework and childcare.  
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