Is it your DH’s job to protect you?

[Anonymous]

My husband would do anything go try to protect me and the kids. I would do anything to protect him and the kids too. Just depends on the situation. We wouldn’t run out of gas (who runs out of gas anymore?) but if we had car trouble and somehow our phones weren’t working so we couldn’t call AAA, we would ideally go together to get help as I wouldn’t want to go for help alone or stay at an inoperable car by myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love questions like this because it assumes people or animals are just normally going around attacking. Like, what's he supposed to protect me from, bears? We're hikers he knows not to fight a bear. I don't want a husband who's out picking fights and if we were in some sort of physical danger, I would definitely be helping him, because we're a team and I'm an able bodied adult.

lmao anytime there is a fight video on YouTube, the woman's role is either standing there screaming incoherently or getting in the way trying to stop her man fighting the other guy. I've never seen a video where the woman actually contributes usefully to the fight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love questions like this because it assumes people or animals are just normally going around attacking. Like, what's he supposed to protect me from, bears? We're hikers he knows not to fight a bear. I don't want a husband who's out picking fights and if we were in some sort of physical danger, I would definitely be helping him, because we're a team and I'm an able bodied adult.

Hate to break it to you, sweetheart, but the average high school freshman boy is significantly stronger than the average able bodied adult woman.

So you'd just sit there if someone was attacking your spouse. Right.

She would. Women always freeze up when there's a fight. But that's ok because they'd just get hurt if they tried to intervene.

[Anonymous]

My DH would try his best to protect me. But he’s a deep sleeper and I’m a light sleeper and once someone was trying to break in to our house and he slept through the sound of them rattling the doorknob so I was the one to jump up and yell at the guy to get lost and call the cops and then I woke up my husband who would’ve slept through it all. I had to shake him awake yelling at him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love questions like this because it assumes people or animals are just normally going around attacking. Like, what's he supposed to protect me from, bears? We're hikers he knows not to fight a bear. I don't want a husband who's out picking fights and if we were in some sort of physical danger, I would definitely be helping him, because we're a team and I'm an able bodied adult.

lmao anytime there is a fight video on YouTube, the woman's role is either standing there screaming incoherently or getting in the way trying to stop her man fighting the other guy. I've never seen a video where the woman actually contributes usefully to the fight.

Those are examples of men being aggressive buffoons. You don't want to be with a man who gets into fights.

My Dad was a military guy. He also had three girls and taught us how to take care of ourselves and to end fights quickly. My sister was once groped in high school and kicked the kid in the balls. She got suspended for a week and Dad took her out for ice cream.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love questions like this because it assumes people or animals are just normally going around attacking. Like, what's he supposed to protect me from, bears? We're hikers he knows not to fight a bear. I don't want a husband who's out picking fights and if we were in some sort of physical danger, I would definitely be helping him, because we're a team and I'm an able bodied adult.

lmao anytime there is a fight video on YouTube, the woman's role is either standing there screaming incoherently or getting in the way trying to stop her man fighting the other guy. I've never seen a video where the woman actually contributes usefully to the fight.

Those are examples of men being aggressive buffoons. You don't want to be with a man who gets into fights. [These are all kinds of fights, including ones where people are attacked without provocation.]

My Dad was a military guy. He also had three girls and taught us how to take care of ourselves and to end fights quickly. My sister was once groped in high school and kicked the kid in the balls. She got suspended for a week and Dad took her out for ice cream.

You're living in a fantasy world if you think a woman can "end a fight quickly". Men are simply ridiculously stronger than women.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love questions like this because it assumes people or animals are just normally going around attacking. Like, what's he supposed to protect me from, bears? We're hikers he knows not to fight a bear. I don't want a husband who's out picking fights and if we were in some sort of physical danger, I would definitely be helping him, because we're a team and I'm an able bodied adult.

Hate to break it to you, sweetheart, but the average high school freshman boy is significantly stronger than the average able bodied adult woman.

So you'd just sit there if someone was attacking your spouse. Right.

No my job is to grab the kids and run. You should always try to flea a life threatening situation.

The kids know this, they don’t stay back and try to help dad it makes him more vulnerable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love questions like this because it assumes people or animals are just normally going around attacking. Like, what's he supposed to protect me from, bears? We're hikers he knows not to fight a bear. I don't want a husband who's out picking fights and if we were in some sort of physical danger, I would definitely be helping him, because we're a team and I'm an able bodied adult.

lmao anytime there is a fight video on YouTube, the woman's role is either standing there screaming incoherently or getting in the way trying to stop her man fighting the other guy. I've never seen a video where the woman actually contributes usefully to the fight.

Those are examples of men being aggressive buffoons. You don't want to be with a man who gets into fights. [These are all kinds of fights, including ones where people are attacked without provocation.]

My Dad was a military guy. He also had three girls and taught us how to take care of ourselves and to end fights quickly. My sister was once groped in high school and kicked the kid in the balls. She got suspended for a week and Dad took her out for ice cream.

You're living in a fantasy world if you think a woman can "end a fight quickly". Men are simply ridiculously stronger than women.

I think it’s both ridiculous to think a woman can fight a man and that a woman can’t end a fight.

Balls… gouge eyes… run

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The funny thing is the people I know who say this about their significant others, they're hot heads who pick fights with people. Absolutely not, a guy who gets into fights is a guy who makes ME less safe.

Why are u talking about fights?

We are talking protection.

My friends H tackled a guy running for the cockpit and he (with 2 other guys) held him down until it landed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My DH is 6'4" and is strong and physically fit, and looks pretty intimidating. He definitely takes the lead on being protective. He is also in charge of getting rid of all bugs. If it is a non-poisonous type, he captures it and takes it outside. It makes me smile every time I see this giant dude gently cupping a little bug to carry it outside.

Do you often encounter poisonous bugs? Can I assume you don't live in the DC area?

DP

We have wolf spiders.

Wolf spiders are not harmful to humans.

Wrong

My son got a staph infection and a plastic surgeon had to take a ping pong-tennis ball ball size of flesh from his thigh to save his leg.

[Anonymous]

Yes. But he doesn’t think it is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I love questions like this because it assumes people or animals are just normally going around attacking. Like, what's he supposed to protect me from, bears? We're hikers he knows not to fight a bear. I don't want a husband who's out picking fights and if we were in some sort of physical danger, I would definitely be helping him, because we're a team and I'm an able bodied adult.

lmao anytime there is a fight video on YouTube, the woman's role is either standing there screaming incoherently or getting in the way trying to stop her man fighting the other guy. I've never seen a video where the woman actually contributes usefully to the fight.

Those are examples of men being aggressive buffoons. You don't want to be with a man who gets into fights. [These are all kinds of fights, including ones where people are attacked without provocation.]

My Dad was a military guy. He also had three girls and taught us how to take care of ourselves and to end fights quickly. My sister was once groped in high school and kicked the kid in the balls. She got suspended for a week and Dad took her out for ice cream.

You're living in a fantasy world if you think a woman can "end a fight quickly". Men are simply ridiculously stronger than women.

I think it’s both ridiculous to think a woman can fight a man and that a woman can’t end a fight.

Balls… gouge eyes… run

You're living in movie fantasyland. Assuming you land the blow, which is not a given, hits on the groin and eyes are highly variable and unpredictable. Sometimes the guy drops, other times he doesn't even notice. And the reaction can be delayed, in other words, he gets to attack you for some time before he drops.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's his job to protect me/the kids. But he often thinks I'm just being anxious when there are sounds to investigate at night (largely true!) so he doesn't, and he absolutely will not kill bugs or mice in the house, so that's on me.

[Anonymous]

I don't think anyone has made the significant point that whatever you may think about whose job it is to protect you, your DH certainly thinks that is his job (unless he's a truly pathetic and broken specimen) and has likely put more thought into it than you give him credit for.

[Anonymous]

No, it's not my husband's job to protect me and the kids. It's my job to protect them. I would investigate the noise at night. I would walk to the gas station at night.
I'm stronger than my husband. I would beat him in a fight.