Does your community pool have a dress code?

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Thank you. The emperor has no clothes in this situation (literally), and children are the only ones who will point it out. People are showing parts of their body that are not socially acceptable to show anywhere else in our culture.

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Is it that hard to say "a butt is just a body part" and move along?

I don't get the concern about THE CHILDREN. You can say you don't like seeing people's butts, which is a preference just like I don't like looking at scraggly beards or stringy, dirty hair or giant zits that people won't pop (yes i KNOW you shouldn't pop them), but i don't think kids are going to be damaged by butts in particular or its any more trying to say "yep thats a butt" as it is it to respond to any other kid comments

Butts are sexualized in our culture. Just like breasts and genitalia. Most parents do not want to expose their children to sexualization at young ages.

Nope.

Muscular arms and 6-pack abs are too... wanna ban those?

Teach your kids to control themselves.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Thank you. The emperor has no clothes in this situation (literally), and children are the only ones who will point it out. People are showing parts of their body that are not socially acceptable to show anywhere else in our culture.

Kids will also say, hey they are fat or why is that kid in a wheelchair or her hair is purple.

So what, your the one the puts some insane meaning to those children's observations.

[Anonymous]

Technically it could fall under indecent exposure:

https://www.findlaw.com/state/maryland-law/maryland-indecent-exposure-laws.html

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Is it that hard to say "a butt is just a body part" and move along?

I don't get the concern about THE CHILDREN. You can say you don't like seeing people's butts, which is a preference just like I don't like looking at scraggly beards or stringy, dirty hair or giant zits that people won't pop (yes i KNOW you shouldn't pop them), but i don't think kids are going to be damaged by butts in particular or its any more trying to say "yep thats a butt" as it is it to respond to any other kid comments

Butts are sexualized in our culture. Just like breasts and genitalia. Most parents do not want to expose their children to sexualization at young ages.

Nope.

Muscular arms and 6-pack abs are too... wanna ban those?

Teach your kids to control themselves.

yeah the average kid finds a butt hilarious - they're not getting turned on by them. you're the one sexualizing children by thinking that giggling about a butt must mean SEX to them

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Anonymous wrote:yes I find it very offensive and think my eyes should be protected from this abuse. I also find varicose veins, large c-section scars, thighs that are so fat they fold over themselves, large boobs that are dropping down within 5" of the belly button, bellies that fold over the top of mens swimsuits, and comb overs offensive to my eyes.

And its hard to look away if someone is just displaying themselves like that - its their job to cover these things, not my job to stop staring at and being grossed out by their varicose vein. if they leave them hanging out like that, they are asking to be stared at. and my children my comment on them and i don't know how to explain them or why someone would want to display something like that, where is their class?! so i'd like to add covering all of the dress code as well

Aww I don't think varicose veins and c section scars are in any of these categories.

My close friend had varicose vein surgery on her calves in her early 30s. She just got them when she was pregnant. Unless she wore long pants constantly, you could see them. She was in shape otherwise. They are a medical condition. The surgery is pretty intense too and involved.

i was using those as ridiculous examples! of course everyone should be able to show their body in whatever form its in without concern for whether some ninny finds it "gross"

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Is it that hard to say "a butt is just a body part" and move along?

I don't get the concern about THE CHILDREN. You can say you don't like seeing people's butts, which is a preference just like I don't like looking at scraggly beards or stringy, dirty hair or giant zits that people won't pop (yes i KNOW you shouldn't pop them), but i don't think kids are going to be damaged by butts in particular or its any more trying to say "yep thats a butt" as it is it to respond to any other kid comments

Butts are sexualized in our culture. Just like breasts and genitalia. Most parents do not want to expose their children to sexualization at young ages.

Nope.

Muscular arms and 6-pack abs are too... wanna ban those?

Teach your kids to control themselves.

Again, not according to the law, which specifically mentions buttocks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Thank you. The emperor has no clothes in this situation (literally), and children are the only ones who will point it out. People are showing parts of their body that are not socially acceptable to show anywhere else in our culture.

It seems like it has in fact become socially acceptable in our culture. this thread proves that, its happening every where, not just in miami and cancun. And tale as old as time, the people that are no longer the age to define our cultural style, will clutch their pearls over it just like other generations have over skirt lengths, bikinis, women wearing pants, bra straps and thong tops showing, and, cropped tops, sports bras etc etc. And yes "but this is different......" just like each one of those was considered too extreme by the old farts

I'm 40 - I don't want to show my butt and i don't want to look at butts. and yet I realize that there is no sense in 30+ yos getting upset over the latest trends no matter how naked they make seem versus the level of naked we had that shocked our parents

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Thank you. The emperor has no clothes in this situation (literally), and children are the only ones who will point it out. People are showing parts of their body that are not socially acceptable to show anywhere else in our culture.

Kids will also say, hey they are fat or why is that kid in a wheelchair or her hair is purple.

So what, your the one the puts some insane meaning to those children's observations.

NP here. My kids never say those things bc they know it’s inappropriate and unkind to comment on body size, disabilities, and/or differences in physical appearance. They do comment on people exposing themselves in public.

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Thank you. The emperor has no clothes in this situation (literally), and children are the only ones who will point it out. People are showing parts of their body that are not socially acceptable to show anywhere else in our culture.

Kids will also say, hey they are fat or why is that kid in a wheelchair or her hair is purple.

So what, your the one the puts some insane meaning to those children's observations.

NP here. My kids never say those things bc they know it’s inappropriate and unkind to comment on body size, disabilities, and/or differences in physical appearance. They do comment on people exposing themselves in public.

If your kid is old enough not to comment on people’s weight, disability aid usage, and hair colour, they are old enough to know comment rudely about other people’s clothing choices is also inappropriate and unkind. Get onto that. Tell them to avoid people wearing less clothes than you approve of if you must, but understand that the acceptable amount of clothing will vary depending on the person and situation and there’s nothing to be gained from pointing out that someone else doesn’t fit your narrow cultural norms.

I’ve never worn a string bikini in my life and never want to but I really don’t get the pearl clutching about them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Is it that hard to say "a butt is just a body part" and move along?

I don't get the concern about THE CHILDREN. You can say you don't like seeing people's butts, which is a preference just like I don't like looking at scraggly beards or stringy, dirty hair or giant zits that people won't pop (yes i KNOW you shouldn't pop them), but i don't think kids are going to be damaged by butts in particular or its any more trying to say "yep thats a butt" as it is it to respond to any other kid comments

Why do you hate children?

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Thank you. The emperor has no clothes in this situation (literally), and children are the only ones who will point it out. People are showing parts of their body that are not socially acceptable to show anywhere else in our culture.

Kids will also say, hey they are fat or why is that kid in a wheelchair or her hair is purple.

So what, your the one the puts some insane meaning to those children's observations.

NP here. My kids never say those things bc they know it’s inappropriate and unkind to comment on body size, disabilities, and/or differences in physical appearance. They do comment on people exposing themselves in public.

Wow you let them comment on people's clothing? Thats bizarre - do they point out headscarfs? people that wear gender non-conforming clothes?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Thank you. The emperor has no clothes in this situation (literally), and children are the only ones who will point it out. People are showing parts of their body that are not socially acceptable to show anywhere else in our culture.

Kids will also say, hey they are fat or why is that kid in a wheelchair or her hair is purple.

So what, your the one the puts some insane meaning to those children's observations.

NP here. My kids never say those things bc they know it’s inappropriate and unkind to comment on body size, disabilities, and/or differences in physical appearance. They do comment on people exposing themselves in public.

Wow you let them comment on people's clothing? Thats bizarre - do they point out headscarfs? people that wear gender non-conforming clothes?

NP. Reading comprehension isn’t your strong suit is it

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I have no desire to police girls’ bodies but privately, viscerally, I don’t like it. I don’t think it is great. And of course it is about sexuality/attention for girls.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Thank you. The emperor has no clothes in this situation (literally), and children are the only ones who will point it out. People are showing parts of their body that are not socially acceptable to show anywhere else in our culture.

Kids will also say, hey they are fat or why is that kid in a wheelchair or her hair is purple.

So what, your the one the puts some insane meaning to those children's observations.

NP here. My kids never say those things bc they know it’s inappropriate and unkind to comment on body size, disabilities, and/or differences in physical appearance. They do comment on people exposing themselves in public.

Wow you let them comment on people's clothing? Thats bizarre - do they point out headscarfs? people that wear gender non-conforming clothes?

I said nothing about clothing. They comment on people exposing themselves in public.