Does your community pool have a dress code?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Why is this awkward for you? Your kid says “I can see her butt” and you say “Yes, I expect she likes that style of swimsuit. Don’t comment on other people’s appearances and style choices.”

Better:

“You’re right. It’s tacky and disrespectful. Always remember to have some class.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Is it that hard to say "a butt is just a body part" and move along?

I don't get the concern about THE CHILDREN. You can say you don't like seeing people's butts, which is a preference just like I don't like looking at scraggly beards or stringy, dirty hair or giant zits that people won't pop (yes i KNOW you shouldn't pop them), but i don't think kids are going to be damaged by butts in particular or its any more trying to say "yep thats a butt" as it is it to respond to any other kid comments

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Why is this awkward for you? Your kid says “I can see her butt” and you say “Yes, I expect she likes that style of swimsuit. Don’t comment on other people’s appearances and style choices.”

Better:

“You’re right. It’s tacky and disrespectful. Always remember to have some class.”

please tell me who is being disrespected by a 20yos butt cheek? what a strange comment. this is a pool and a random group of people deciding to go to the pool, its not a wedding or a college class where yes dressing outlandishly for the occasion would be disrespectful to those leading the event

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Oh please. Your daughter can dress like a girl without showing too much skin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Stop ogling women’s bodies, OP.

Woman here. You can't tell ppl to stop ogling women's bodies while strutting around in string bikinis--which screams "look at me!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

We just get to see their gross potbellies. Put on a rash guard guys, no one wants to see all that fat.

Yes!,

[Anonymous]

yes I find it very offensive and think my eyes should be protected from this abuse. I also find varicose veins, large c-section scars, thighs that are so fat they fold over themselves, large boobs that are dropping down within 5" of the belly button, bellies that fold over the top of mens swimsuits, and comb overs offensive to my eyes.

And its hard to look away if someone is just displaying themselves like that - its their job to cover these things, not my job to stop staring at and being grossed out by their varicose vein. if they leave them hanging out like that, they are asking to be stared at. and my children my comment on them and i don't know how to explain them or why someone would want to display something like that, where is their class?! so i'd like to add covering all of the dress code as well

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Parent better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Stop ogling women’s bodies, OP.

Woman here. You can't tell ppl to stop ogling women's bodies while strutting around in string bikinis--which screams "look at me!"

i think the PP is saying if its making the OP so uncomfortable, they should just stop looking. which is a reasonable thing to say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nope. Stop ogling women’s bodies, OP.

Woman here. You can't tell ppl to stop ogling women's bodies while strutting around in string bikinis--which screams "look at me!"

Not everything is about you. String bikinis are not "sceaming look at me". They are say... hey I want a tan with very few lines.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Is it that hard to say "a butt is just a body part" and move along?

I don't get the concern about THE CHILDREN. You can say you don't like seeing people's butts, which is a preference just like I don't like looking at scraggly beards or stringy, dirty hair or giant zits that people won't pop (yes i KNOW you shouldn't pop them), but i don't think kids are going to be damaged by butts in particular or its any more trying to say "yep thats a butt" as it is it to respond to any other kid comments

Butts are sexualized in our culture. Just like breasts and genitalia. Most parents do not want to expose their children to sexualization at young ages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a lot. I swear half the reason my preteen has decided they’re nonbinary is because they have no desire to dress like typical girls and is fairly horrified. Short shorts, crop tops, and cheeky bathing suits appall her. Since hitting puberty at age 10 she would rather cover it all up.

I try to remind myself it’s so great these kids have such body confidence - but I also find the suits distracting. And I’m not sexualizing anybody - just noticing the girls are nearly naked.

Funny how the men aren’t wearing banana hammocks with their checks hanging out.

Ugh. Gag. I have seen this in beaches (Key West) and also in other countries. I'm a straight woman, but I don't want to see other men like this. Frankly it's disgusting, particularly when there's zero trimming involved in the butt and the hair sticks out of the thong.

I too have seen thongs at our neighborhood pool on women. I wish I didn't have to see them, but I just look away. I'm not sure what the purpose is (tan lines? That was why I used to tan topless/partially topless as a teen). Yesterday I saw a long sleeve rash guard on top, thong on bottom of a mom chasing her toddler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:yes I find it very offensive and think my eyes should be protected from this abuse. I also find varicose veins, large c-section scars, thighs that are so fat they fold over themselves, large boobs that are dropping down within 5" of the belly button, bellies that fold over the top of mens swimsuits, and comb overs offensive to my eyes.

And its hard to look away if someone is just displaying themselves like that - its their job to cover these things, not my job to stop staring at and being grossed out by their varicose vein. if they leave them hanging out like that, they are asking to be stared at. and my children my comment on them and i don't know how to explain them or why someone would want to display something like that, where is their class?! so i'd like to add covering all of the dress code as well

Aww I don't think varicose veins and c section scars are in any of these categories.

My close friend had varicose vein surgery on her calves in her early 30s. She just got them when she was pregnant. Unless she wore long pants constantly, you could see them. She was in shape otherwise. They are a medical condition. The surgery is pretty intense too and involved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s gross but they do it at our pool too. The lifeguards on the swim team have “ racing swimsuits” which seems to mean less butt coverage then ever.

Gross? Really? Why people are so disgusted by women's bodies is beyond me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It awkward for families. My kids say things like - I can see her butt. I tell them to move along, but I wish they wore bathing suits that covers their butts. It’s the same at Whole Foods. Why are some shoppers in a bra and hot pants? It’s not a gym. People don’t wear clothes anymore.

Is it that hard to say "a butt is just a body part" and move along?

I don't get the concern about THE CHILDREN. You can say you don't like seeing people's butts, which is a preference just like I don't like looking at scraggly beards or stringy, dirty hair or giant zits that people won't pop (yes i KNOW you shouldn't pop them), but i don't think kids are going to be damaged by butts in particular or its any more trying to say "yep thats a butt" as it is it to respond to any other kid comments

Butts are sexualized in our culture. Just like breasts and genitalia. Most parents do not want to expose their children to sexualization at young ages.

Kids don't see butts and think of sex.