Dating and exclusivity

[Anonymous]

PP. Got an STI test after breaking up with someone who I was no longer dating. Didn’t sleep with multiple women at one time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman here and still very curious to hear from men/PP who said they wouldn’t commit to exclusivity before sex.
How many women do you tryout, does sex actually differ from woman to woman or there is usually one you like most and have sex with her? If a woman won’t do BJ in non -exclusive situation do you discard her as “bad in sex”? How do you navigate that logistically (do you tell women you are busy while you sleep with others)?
And how soon does this elaborate tryout process result in selecting “the one”?

For me, the sexual experience varies a lot even though the sex acts are more or less the same for most. With some women I feel much stronger attraction. Some women seem to enjoy me much more than others (which matters to me a lot). Some women are also much more attuned to my body, or are more skilled, but the other two things are much more important to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here and still very curious to hear from men/PP who said they wouldn’t commit to exclusivity before sex.
How many women do you tryout, does sex actually differ from woman to woman or there is usually one you like most and have sex with her? If a woman won’t do BJ in non -exclusive situation do you discard her as “bad in sex”? How do you navigate that logistically (do you tell women you are busy while you sleep with others)?
And how soon does this elaborate tryout process result in selecting “the one”?

For me, the sexual experience varies a lot even though the sex acts are more or less the same for most. With some women I feel much stronger attraction. Some women seem to enjoy me much more than others (which matters to me a lot). Some women are also much more attuned to my body, or are more skilled, but the other two things are much more important to me.

Well that seems like you are tryout it out with many women in parallel: how do you navigate this logistically? Is there any unprotected sex (eg BJ)? Are they aware you are sleeping with others and still willing to do unprotected acts ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here and still very curious to hear from men/PP who said they wouldn’t commit to exclusivity before sex.
How many women do you tryout, does sex actually differ from woman to woman or there is usually one you like most and have sex with her? If a woman won’t do BJ in non -exclusive situation do you discard her as “bad in sex”? How do you navigate that logistically (do you tell women you are busy while you sleep with others)?
And how soon does this elaborate tryout process result in selecting “the one”?

For me, the sexual experience varies a lot even though the sex acts are more or less the same for most. With some women I feel much stronger attraction. Some women seem to enjoy me much more than others (which matters to me a lot). Some women are also much more attuned to my body, or are more skilled, but the other two things are much more important to me.

Well that seems like you are tryout it out with many women in parallel: how do you navigate this logistically? Is there any unprotected sex (eg BJ)? Are they aware you are sleeping with others and still willing to do unprotected acts ?

Yes. They are aware we are not exclusive. Yes there is some unprotected sex. Most prefer that because it is hotter and feels better. There have been as many as three tryouts in one month. Logistics can be a little awkward but I don't lie. Sometimes someone will ask "Are you seeing other women?" and I'll respond "Do you really want to know?" or "Yes, but do you really want to know the details?" and the conversation on that topic almost always ends.

Quite a few women do this too, and many women who don't do it will admit that they have gone through phases where they did. I've also discovered that a few women were doing this but lied and said they weren't (but then I figured it out). More than men, some women find it really embarrassing because some people will think they are "sluts," so don't admit it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Woman here and still very curious to hear from men/PP who said they wouldn’t commit to exclusivity before sex.
How many women do you tryout, does sex actually differ from woman to woman or there is usually one you like most and have sex with her? If a woman won’t do BJ in non -exclusive situation do you discard her as “bad in sex”? How do you navigate that logistically (do you tell women you are busy while you sleep with others)?
And how soon does this elaborate tryout process result in selecting “the one”?

For me, the sexual experience varies a lot even though the sex acts are more or less the same for most. With some women I feel much stronger attraction. Some women seem to enjoy me much more than others (which matters to me a lot). Some women are also much more attuned to my body, or are more skilled, but the other two things are much more important to me.

You place way to much emphasis on sex. There's "it's important" and then there's you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here and still very curious to hear from men/PP who said they wouldn’t commit to exclusivity before sex.
How many women do you tryout, does sex actually differ from woman to woman or there is usually one you like most and have sex with her? If a woman won’t do BJ in non -exclusive situation do you discard her as “bad in sex”? How do you navigate that logistically (do you tell women you are busy while you sleep with others)?
And how soon does this elaborate tryout process result in selecting “the one”?

For me, the sexual experience varies a lot even though the sex acts are more or less the same for most. With some women I feel much stronger attraction. Some women seem to enjoy me much more than others (which matters to me a lot). Some women are also much more attuned to my body, or are more skilled, but the other two things are much more important to me.

Well that seems like you are tryout it out with many women in parallel: how do you navigate this logistically? Is there any unprotected sex (eg BJ)? Are they aware you are sleeping with others and still willing to do unprotected acts ?

Yes. They are aware we are not exclusive. Yes there is some unprotected sex. Most prefer that because it is hotter and feels better. There have been as many as three tryouts in one month. Logistics can be a little awkward but I don't lie. Sometimes someone will ask "Are you seeing other women?" and I'll respond "Do you really want to know?" or "Yes, but do you really want to know the details?" and the conversation on that topic almost always ends.

Quite a few women do this too, and many women who don't do it will admit that they have gone through phases where they did. I've also discovered that a few women were doing this but lied and said they weren't (but then I figured it out). More than men, some women find it really embarrassing because some people will think they are "sluts," so don't admit it.

Why be so coy about it? She's asking, so obv she wants to know and putting her on the spot with a cutesy remark is not respectful. Be a man. Be honest. "Yes, im seeing X women and we are being intimate." If you can't do that, you are not being honest or upfront.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here and still very curious to hear from men/PP who said they wouldn’t commit to exclusivity before sex.
How many women do you tryout, does sex actually differ from woman to woman or there is usually one you like most and have sex with her? If a woman won’t do BJ in non -exclusive situation do you discard her as “bad in sex”? How do you navigate that logistically (do you tell women you are busy while you sleep with others)?
And how soon does this elaborate tryout process result in selecting “the one”?

For me, the sexual experience varies a lot even though the sex acts are more or less the same for most. With some women I feel much stronger attraction. Some women seem to enjoy me much more than others (which matters to me a lot). Some women are also much more attuned to my body, or are more skilled, but the other two things are much more important to me.

You place way to much emphasis on sex. There's "it's important" and then there's you.

Woman here and I agree with this male poster. It absolutely differs. I don’t want a relationship where the sex is mediocre. I’d rather go without.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here and still very curious to hear from men/PP who said they wouldn’t commit to exclusivity before sex.
How many women do you tryout, does sex actually differ from woman to woman or there is usually one you like most and have sex with her? If a woman won’t do BJ in non -exclusive situation do you discard her as “bad in sex”? How do you navigate that logistically (do you tell women you are busy while you sleep with others)?
And how soon does this elaborate tryout process result in selecting “the one”?

For me, the sexual experience varies a lot even though the sex acts are more or less the same for most. With some women I feel much stronger attraction. Some women seem to enjoy me much more than others (which matters to me a lot). Some women are also much more attuned to my body, or are more skilled, but the other two things are much more important to me.

Well that seems like you are tryout it out with many women in parallel: how do you navigate this logistically? Is there any unprotected sex (eg BJ)? Are they aware you are sleeping with others and still willing to do unprotected acts ?

Yes. They are aware we are not exclusive. Yes there is some unprotected sex. Most prefer that because it is hotter and feels better. There have been as many as three tryouts in one month. Logistics can be a little awkward but I don't lie. Sometimes someone will ask "Are you seeing other women?" and I'll respond "Do you really want to know?" or "Yes, but do you really want to know the details?" and the conversation on that topic almost always ends.

Quite a few women do this too, and many women who don't do it will admit that they have gone through phases where they did. I've also discovered that a few women were doing this but lied and said they weren't (but then I figured it out). More than men, some women find it really embarrassing because some people will think they are "sluts," so don't admit it.

This is tacky and just what my dermatologist told me. They see many women with oral and genital papillmatosis, genital herpes and lice.

If a woman declines to have unprotected and wants to use condom for oral, do you weed her out as “not into sex” or “mediocre sex”?

Do you ever test for Sti ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here and still very curious to hear from men/PP who said they wouldn’t commit to exclusivity before sex.
How many women do you tryout, does sex actually differ from woman to woman or there is usually one you like most and have sex with her? If a woman won’t do BJ in non -exclusive situation do you discard her as “bad in sex”? How do you navigate that logistically (do you tell women you are busy while you sleep with others)?
And how soon does this elaborate tryout process result in selecting “the one”?

For me, the sexual experience varies a lot even though the sex acts are more or less the same for most. With some women I feel much stronger attraction. Some women seem to enjoy me much more than others (which matters to me a lot). Some women are also much more attuned to my body, or are more skilled, but the other two things are much more important to me.

You place way to much emphasis on sex. There's "it's important" and then there's you.

Woman here and I agree with this male poster. It absolutely differs. I don’t want a relationship where the sex is mediocre. I’d rather go without.

Woman here, too. Mediocre sex is what the above male poster describes; I’ll never put my heart and effort into sex with someone if I know he’s sleeping with others. At best we will have mechanical condomed PIV and I don’t think I would have an O with that information at hand. Im extremely prissy about mixing my bodily fluids with many people. It will be mediocre sex by default .

I had under 5 partners in a lifetime, these were all men I was very passionate about and we were sexually exclusive from the start. The sex was amazing from my perspective with all of them, even when there were small physical incompatibilities.

I chose the person first, then had sex with them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here and still very curious to hear from men/PP who said they wouldn’t commit to exclusivity before sex.
How many women do you tryout, does sex actually differ from woman to woman or there is usually one you like most and have sex with her? If a woman won’t do BJ in non -exclusive situation do you discard her as “bad in sex”? How do you navigate that logistically (do you tell women you are busy while you sleep with others)?
And how soon does this elaborate tryout process result in selecting “the one”?

For me, the sexual experience varies a lot even though the sex acts are more or less the same for most. With some women I feel much stronger attraction. Some women seem to enjoy me much more than others (which matters to me a lot). Some women are also much more attuned to my body, or are more skilled, but the other two things are much more important to me.

You place way to much emphasis on sex. There's "it's important" and then there's you.

Woman here and I agree with this male poster. It absolutely differs. I don’t want a relationship where the sex is mediocre. I’d rather go without.

What the male PP poster describes is a definition of sneaky mediocre sex. He doesn’t even tell women that he sleeps with someone in parallel

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Woman here and still very curious to hear from men/PP who said they wouldn’t commit to exclusivity before sex.
How many women do you tryout, does sex actually differ from woman to woman or there is usually one you like most and have sex with her? If a woman won’t do BJ in non -exclusive situation do you discard her as “bad in sex”? How do you navigate that logistically (do you tell women you are busy while you sleep with others)?
And how soon does this elaborate tryout process result in selecting “the one”?

For me, the sexual experience varies a lot even though the sex acts are more or less the same for most. With some women I feel much stronger attraction. Some women seem to enjoy me much more than others (which matters to me a lot). Some women are also much more attuned to my body, or are more skilled, but the other two things are much more important to me.

Well that seems like you are tryout it out with many women in parallel: how do you navigate this logistically? Is there any unprotected sex (eg BJ)? Are they aware you are sleeping with others and still willing to do unprotected acts ?

Yes. They are aware we are not exclusive. Yes there is some unprotected sex. Most prefer that because it is hotter and feels better. There have been as many as three tryouts in one month. Logistics can be a little awkward but I don't lie. Sometimes someone will ask "Are you seeing other women?" and I'll respond "Do you really want to know?" or "Yes, but do you really want to know the details?" and the conversation on that topic almost always ends.

Quite a few women do this too, and many women who don't do it will admit that they have gone through phases where they did. I've also discovered that a few women were doing this but lied and said they weren't (but then I figured it out). More than men, some women find it really embarrassing because some people will think they are "sluts," so don't admit it.

Curious which city do you find has the most slutty women? Also which app are these women in and have you caught anything?

[Anonymous]

I didn't have a problem with it though everything I read said that men in that age group are sex starved.

The men I dated were interested in serious relationships and stated so from the start. My boyfriend probably would've waited however long I wanted. We made out on the third date and probably slept together at five. I was the one holding out on being "official" (though I did not sleep with anyone or go on any dates after I met him, I still had my dating app profiles up and chatted with a few men).