Dating and exclusivity

[Anonymous]

In your 40s, if you want to be exclusive before sleeping with someone you date, how does that work? What conversations do you have? Will quality men looking for a relationship respect that?

Want to screen out players and also not interested in ONS. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

I’m not single but just turned 50 and if I were dating I would only be dating men who are into sleeping with one woman at a time. So however you phrase it—that’s the result.

[Anonymous]

As a woman, I always ask before having sex if he is sleeping with someone already. If he does, to me it means he's not single so we need to wait with being physical until he ends that relationship(s) and does std testing. I can't relax if I think my partner is sticking it into someone else in parallel. I explain that I simply want him to take a break to see if we are compatible physically, and it takes time to me to start enjoying sex.

I would say to me in 70% cases men do provide paperwork; 30% disappear (maybe for good).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I always ask before having sex if he is sleeping with someone already. If he does, to me it means he's not single so we need to wait with being physical until he ends that relationship(s) and does std testing. I can't relax if I think my partner is sticking it into someone else in parallel. I explain that I simply want him to take a break to see if we are compatible physically, and it takes time to me to start enjoying sex.

I would say to me in 70% cases men do provide paperwork; 30% disappear (maybe for good).

That’s pretty good. Curious if this is how it works for most people.

[Anonymous]

If this is hooking up why is it an issue? If you want a relationship then let him know that so you're exclusive. Say you won't have sex without a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is hooking up why is it an issue? If you want a relationship then let him know that so you're exclusive. Say you won't have sex without a relationship.

The issue is that men on OLD have group sex, anal sex with multiple women without protection etc. Heard it from these men’s friends and my dermatologist . Of course it’s okay when some women are also ok with that. Maybe these women love BJs on communal Ds!
But there is something in between hookup and having sex with many people: just stopping this activity to have sex with one person. Then if things don’t work, move on to next person and so on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is hooking up why is it an issue? If you want a relationship then let him know that so you're exclusive. Say you won't have sex without a relationship.

The issue is that men on OLD have group sex, anal sex with multiple women without protection etc. Heard it from these men’s friends and my dermatologist . Of course it’s okay when some women are also ok with that. Maybe these women love BJs on communal Ds!
But there is something in between hookup and having sex with many people: just stopping this activity to have sex with one person. Then if things don’t work, move on to next person and so on.

Pardon, meant to say there is an area in between hookups and a relationship. That’s as the PP said, having sex with one person at a time, to see if you both want a relationship. As a woman I also wouldn’t want to call a man my BF until I’m certain sex and day to day compatibility are there. But I also don’t want to f..k if he f..ks someone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this is hooking up why is it an issue? If you want a relationship then let him know that so you're exclusive. Say you won't have sex without a relationship.

Do men respect this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is hooking up why is it an issue? If you want a relationship then let him know that so you're exclusive. Say you won't have sex without a relationship.

The issue is that men on OLD have group sex, anal sex with multiple women without protection etc. Heard it from these men’s friends and my dermatologist . Of course it’s okay when some women are also ok with that. Maybe these women love BJs on communal Ds!
But there is something in between hookup and having sex with many people: just stopping this activity to have sex with one person. Then if things don’t work, move on to next person and so on.

Why is your dermatologist so knowledgeable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is hooking up why is it an issue? If you want a relationship then let him know that so you're exclusive. Say you won't have sex without a relationship.

The issue is that men on OLD have group sex, anal sex with multiple women without protection etc. Heard it from these men’s friends and my dermatologist . Of course it’s okay when some women are also ok with that. Maybe these women love BJs on communal Ds!
But there is something in between hookup and having sex with many people: just stopping this activity to have sex with one person. Then if things don’t work, move on to next person and so on.

Why is your dermatologist so knowledgeable?

One word: rashes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is hooking up why is it an issue? If you want a relationship then let him know that so you're exclusive. Say you won't have sex without a relationship.

The issue is that men on OLD have group sex, anal sex with multiple women without protection etc. Heard it from these men’s friends and my dermatologist . Of course it’s okay when some women are also ok with that. Maybe these women love BJs on communal Ds!
But there is something in between hookup and having sex with many people: just stopping this activity to have sex with one person. Then if things don’t work, move on to next person and so on.

Why is your dermatologist so knowledgeable?

One word: rashes.

Herpes rashes. Spread the love. Yuck 🤮

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is hooking up why is it an issue? If you want a relationship then let him know that so you're exclusive. Say you won't have sex without a relationship.

The issue is that men on OLD have group sex, anal sex with multiple women without protection etc. Heard it from these men’s friends and my dermatologist . Of course it’s okay when some women are also ok with that. Maybe these women love BJs on communal Ds!
But there is something in between hookup and having sex with many people: just stopping this activity to have sex with one person. Then if things don’t work, move on to next person and so on.

Those that are on old for group sex and unprotected anal probably wouldn't be interested in a relationship or any exclusively with anybody. They are fck boys and there to fck only plain and simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is hooking up why is it an issue? If you want a relationship then let him know that so you're exclusive. Say you won't have sex without a relationship.

The issue is that men on OLD have group sex, anal sex with multiple women without protection etc. Heard it from these men’s friends and my dermatologist . Of course it’s okay when some women are also ok with that. Maybe these women love BJs on communal Ds!
But there is something in between hookup and having sex with many people: just stopping this activity to have sex with one person. Then if things don’t work, move on to next person and so on.

Those that are on old for group sex and unprotected anal probably wouldn't be interested in a relationship or any exclusively with anybody. They are fck boys and there to fck only plain and simple.

You would be surprised how many of those lie they want an LTR to get sex. Lots of poly men are looking for female partners not disclosing their relationship status. Few women would be interested, it takes a long time for them to find sex so they just lie

[Anonymous]

In my experience if a man wants to be exclusive he will let you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this is hooking up why is it an issue? If you want a relationship then let him know that so you're exclusive. Say you won't have sex without a relationship.

The issue is that men on OLD have group sex, anal sex with multiple women without protection etc. Heard it from these men’s friends and my dermatologist . Of course it’s okay when some women are also ok with that. Maybe these women love BJs on communal Ds!
But there is something in between hookup and having sex with many people: just stopping this activity to have sex with one person. Then if things don’t work, move on to next person and so on.

This sounds like urban legend hyperbolic hysteria. Yes, it might happen, and maybe this happening if you’re on Feeld or some similar kind of place, but it’s certainly not every guy on OLD who is looking for a relationship. Many of them would argue they can’t get in person dates, much less a gang bang. If they really want that, there are lots of easier places.