Learned girlfriend cheated early in the relationship

[Anonymous]

As far as I'm concerned, OP is sending up way more red flags than the girlfriend. "Chopping veggies?" Right. OP was snooping. OP is controlling and a sap. Please make sure to your GF all of this so she has the chance to run.

[Anonymous]

OP: dump her. She belongs to the streets.

[Anonymous]

You two weren’t exclusive. She had a last fling with an old bf.

You’ve been happy together for 2 years. Let this go. Again- you weren’t exclusive. When you asked her in the beginning if she was seeing anyone else, she wasn’t. That’s not a lie. The night with her ex does not seem planned and it more or less just happened spontaneously.

Again, you weren’t exclusive.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, this sucks, OP. I’m sorry, but I do not this is the right woman for you. Do you see how many people on here disagree with each other? Some people say she’s a cheater, some say you’re controlling. Lots of different opinions, right?

The thing is you need to build your life with someone who is on the same page as you, not a woman with completely different values.

I, personally, would never meet up with an ex after meeting a great guy and sleeping with him, with or without the exclusivity talk. I’d just be too into the new guy and I am monogamous by nature. Sounds like you are, too.

Find a woman you are compatible with, someone who doesn’t bend the truth or work with ambiguities. This one isn’t right for you. It’ll be heartache if you stay with her.

Good luck!!!

[Anonymous]

Pull the plug dude. She can’t be trusted.

[Anonymous]

If you weren't exclusive,it doesn't count. Sorry. My BF and I didn't have that talk for a few months because he was freshly divorced and not ready for much. We weren't seeing each other often at that point and I didn't really think we'd make it. So I hooked up with an ex about three weeks in. Never happened again. Has no bearing on my relationship with my BF. If he'd had a similar thing, I wouldn't hold it against him. Then we got exclusive and I take that seriously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: dump her. She belongs to the streets.

Rude. The girkfriend isn't the problem

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pull the plug dude. She can’t be trusted.

If the dude had done what she did you would suppoet the dude. They weren't exclusive. She has been with him faithfully for two years? She did nithing wrong

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Pull the plug dude. She can’t be trusted.

If the dude had done what she did you would suppoet the dude. They weren't exclusive. She has been with him faithfully for two years? She did nithing wrong

It’s not black and white, but a grey area. She gave OP the impression that she wasn’t sleeping with anyone else, but then went ahead and did it. She obviously has no problem with being morally ambiguous. How do know she’s been faithful? Besides, two years is nothing. Giver her time, she’ll find an excuse to at the very least have an emotional affair.

[Anonymous]

You need to let this go. 6-8 weeks in is early.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to let this go. 6-8 weeks in is early.

Or he could just let her go and find someone who will be satisfied with one sexual partner at a time….

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She is trouble. Don’t commit because she certainly can’t. You might be seen as a simp you stand by her side.

PP Honestly this is wrong. She has been with op for two years! I'm assuming she didn't get on the text and say come on over? How was she supposed to know that you would date longer than two months. If you are the type to lord it over on her than it might be better for her that you break up

She's been with him 2 years, but she's told multiple lies, hoping OP wouldn't find out. LEt's be real if OP were a woman you'd tell her to move on.

Wrong. They were not exclusive. Not lying. Not cheating.

she lied.

None of his business. They were not exclusive. There is no harm here.

There is harm to the trust OP has in the relationship.

She did nothing wrong whatsoever. They were not exclusive. Everyone is free until the couple decides to be an exclusive couple. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once a cheater always a cheater. Save yourself a lifetime of misery and heartbreak.

Early in my relationship with my now DH I had trouble shaking my ex who I broke up with for now DH, and we hooked up a few times. Now at 30 years together and married for 25+ I have never cheated again.

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Anonymous wrote:Once a cheater always a cheater. Save yourself a lifetime of misery and heartbreak.

Early in my relationship with my now DH I had trouble shaking my ex who I broke up with for now DH, and we hooked up a few times. Now at 30 years together and married for 25+ I have never cheated again.

Yeah, but your husband has probably continued cheating the whole time. And you haven’t had a chance in at least 15 years.

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Anonymous wrote:Once a cheater always a cheater. Save yourself a lifetime of misery and heartbreak.

Early in my relationship with my now DH I had trouble shaking my ex who I broke up with for now DH, and we hooked up a few times. Now at 30 years together and married for 25+ I have never cheated again.

Yeah, but your husband has probably continued cheating the whole time. And you haven’t had a chance in at least 15 years.

What a strangely hostile, not to mention juvenile, comment.