Learned girlfriend cheated early in the relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP grow up! Stuff like this happens. What it tells you is that you are with someone attractive who someone else would like to bone. Congrats! Now go and be happy. If she hasn’t done anything else questionable MOVR ON.

Good advice right here. But spell it MOVE ON

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:the timeline doesn't make sense so either OP or Gf is lying.

What timeline are you talking about? OP said that she slept with her ex between 6-8 weeks into their relationship.

The timeline where he now finds out about I, and the bf just randomly decides to text her and he supposedly got her number from FB. I just don't buy it.

You can’t read. OP said that she gave her bf her new number years ago over FB. That’s when they hooked up. Maybe you’re not memorable but he had exes message me months/years later to see how I was doing.

[Anonymous]

Most people don’t have an “ exclusive” talk. OP and his gf confirming neither were sleeping together prior to being intimate basically means they were exclusive at that point. Thai is how almost all my relationships became exclusive. She cheated.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you have a conversation about being exclusive prior to that point?

OP here. We never said we were exclusive but we discussed if we were seeing others and we both said no.

I had a boyfriend who was seeing others while seeing me before we had the exclusive talk. I found out much later but I always felt like he cheated on me. I was young and naive back then.

Now I would everyone was seeing others, has an ex, former booty calls, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:She is trouble. Don’t commit because she certainly can’t. You might be seen as a simp you stand by her side.

PP Honestly this is wrong. She has been with op for two years! I'm assuming she didn't get on the text and say come on over? How was she supposed to know that you would date longer than two months. If you are the type to lord it over on her than it might be better for her that you break up

She's been with him 2 years, but she's told multiple lies, hoping OP wouldn't find out. LEt's be real if OP were a woman you'd tell her to move on.

Wrong. They were not exclusive. Not lying. Not cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the timeline doesn't make sense so either OP or Gf is lying.

What timeline are you talking about? OP said that she slept with her ex between 6-8 weeks into their relationship.

The timeline where he now finds out about I, and the bf just randomly decides to text her and he supposedly got her number from FB. I just don't buy it.

You can’t read. OP said that she gave her bf her new number years ago over FB. That’s when they hooked up. Maybe you’re not memorable but he had exes message me months/years later to see how I was doing.

lly.

I also don't buy he just randomly decided to text her.


So she lied initia

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is trouble. Don’t commit because she certainly can’t. You might be seen as a simp you stand by her side.

PP Honestly this is wrong. She has been with op for two years! I'm assuming she didn't get on the text and say come on over? How was she supposed to know that you would date longer than two months. If you are the type to lord it over on her than it might be better for her that you break up

She's been with him 2 years, but she's told multiple lies, hoping OP wouldn't find out. LEt's be real if OP were a woman you'd tell her to move on.

Wrong. They were not exclusive. Not lying. Not cheating.

she lied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people don’t have an “ exclusive” talk. OP and his gf confirming neither were sleeping together prior to being intimate basically means they were exclusive at that point. Thai is how almost all my relationships became exclusive. She cheated.

In what world? Yes, they do! Every relationship has had an exclusive talk…initiated by the man.

Not cheating. You are nuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is trouble. Don’t commit because she certainly can’t. You might be seen as a simp you stand by her side.

PP Honestly this is wrong. She has been with op for two years! I'm assuming she didn't get on the text and say come on over? How was she supposed to know that you would date longer than two months. If you are the type to lord it over on her than it might be better for her that you break up

She's been with him 2 years, but she's told multiple lies, hoping OP wouldn't find out. LEt's be real if OP were a woman you'd tell her to move on.

Wrong. They were not exclusive. Not lying. Not cheating.

she lied.

None of his business. They were not exclusive. There is no harm here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:the timeline doesn't make sense so either OP or Gf is lying.

What timeline are you talking about? OP said that she slept with her ex between 6-8 weeks into their relationship.

The timeline where he now finds out about I, and the bf just randomly decides to text her and he supposedly got her number from FB. I just don't buy it.

You can’t read. OP said that she gave her bf her new number years ago over FB. That’s when they hooked up. Maybe you’re not memorable but he had exes message me months/years later to see how I was doing.

I still have one-and-done dating app dates text me 4‐6 years later!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Did you have a conversation about being exclusive prior to that point?

OP here. We never said we were exclusive but we discussed if we were seeing others and we both said no.

ah yes the old "are you seeing others" question.

whenever a guy has asked me that or said that, i feel like it's a little evasive. there is a difference between "are you seeing anyone else" and "are you ready to agree not to see other people"?

Technically, she may not have cheated on you.

[Anonymous]

Yu're going to get a lot of people telling you it's no big deal because a) you're a man and on this forum women can do no wrong and b) their are a lot of unethical people on this forum who are miserable in their relationships and cheating, so they need to believe there's nothing wrong with dishonesty and cheating.


She lied. you know this..

I would hold off on proposing.

You have some more observing to do.

[Anonymous]

Has she blocked him?
Did she tell him she's no longer available?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yu're going to get a lot of people telling you it's no big deal because a) you're a man and on this forum women can do no wrong and b) their are a lot of unethical people on this forum who are miserable in their relationships and cheating, so they need to believe there's nothing wrong with dishonesty and cheating.


She lied. you know this..

I would hold off on proposing.

You have some more observing to do.

+1.

[Anonymous]

Kick her to the curb.