Men who juggle 4+ women

[Anonymous]

Women do it to so... at least he was honest with you lol.

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Anonymous wrote:This was me at some point in my 20s. The variety (in bed) was fun, but also they had different personaliteis/interests. One enjoyed doing outdoors stuff on Saturdays; another liked to go to hip hop clubs; another liked to meet for lunch during the week and then have me come by after a night out with my buddies on the weekend.

I picked the types that did not generally like to date around. No STD issues.

Yet they slept with you. Someone that sleeps around. They choose your type when they want sex.

Do you not understand how STDs are transmitted?

Point is, I dated a bunch of them like this and didn't get an STD. I know people on here think the slightest contact for a few seconds and you end up with a list of STDs, but that's just not always the case.

A few seconds?
Those poor women.

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Anonymous wrote:Im not the poster who said his young gf was "insane in bed" but I can describe a few situations that were very memorable. These are different women from over several years of dating.

She wanted to have sex as soon as we got home. We were up against the refrigerator with coats and clothes on the kitchen floor in no time.

She wanted to do it standing up with window shades open. (I can't believe how many women have wanted to do this, not that I'm complaining)

Yelled loudly so neighbors could hear.

She asked if we could park in a parking lot because she had an urgent need to stop. I thought she needed to go to the bathroom but she actually wanted to go down on me.

Woke me up in the middle of the night by putting my hand where she wanted to be touched.

After we had done it once, she brought me to a state of arousal again, asked me not to move, and rubbed against me.

She invited me for brunch, dragged me into bedroom before cooking, made brunch, and threw me on sofa for second time.

I'm in my 50s. Some of these women were also in their 50s. You can be insane at any age. The premenopausal ones tended to get more lubricated, which is nice, but the older ones were fine once they got going.

I'm sure other guys can tell stories about varied locations, making use of the great outdoors, varied positions, varied orifices, uses of teeth, begging, uses of toys, inflictions of pain, requests for punishment, etc. There are plenty of ways to be "insane in bed."

Different men have different tastes and preferences. I only slept with 5, and all of them told me they didn't like when a woman yells like crazy. Being quiet helps to concentrate on getting yourself and your partner to the point of no return. I only scream when I finish, and talk or slightly moan from particular pleasurable things prior to... Also standing sex is not possible for all height/weight combination and could be unsafe for a man

Yes to other things (and I'm much crazier than that list above)

Wow, as women, we are very insecure. Lord.

I'm silent not because I'm insecure, it just prevents me from focusing on my body and on what I'm doing with partner. I give a lot of oral in between transitions or in parallel with other types of stimulation, so it's impossible to scream when my mouth keeps working almost all the time. And then ...BANG!

You are insecure because you chose to explain your own bedroom behavior to a stranger on the internet lest he think you not insane in bed because you prefer other things.

No I just don't find the things he listed particular extraordinary and some (like being awaken at night or screaming) would be annoying. You are presumptious.

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Anonymous wrote:Usually men like different things in women

1. The one he actually likes
2. The one who likes him a little more
3. The one who doesn’t have any commitments and is okay with causal s3x
4. The new girl that might be something

Men are weird

The summer after my divorce there was the woman my exact age (41) who I really liked and was hoping would become something long-term (she was a parent also and with our schedules we saw each other a half dozen-ish times over those three months), the woman a decade younger who was crazy about me and talked about marriage, and the 21-year-old who was insane in bed.

That's how I thought things would go forever.

What makes a woman insane in bed?

Curious about this too

What can a female do in bed to make it memorable to a man?

Among other things:

Be explicit on fantasies and private desires/kinks. Swallow. Anal.

A recent 50+ GF in the DMV did this and more.

You asked. Memorable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I recently learned a guy I was casually seeing is also seeing 4 other women of all ages. Younger and older than him. 2 of whom he’s on relationships with. They don’t know of these other women.

I knew we casual, but shocked it was that many. What do men get out of this? Isn’t that hard to keep up? Harder than a relationship.

Causal dating isn't hard. What is difficult about seeing multiple girls at the same time if it's casual? See one girl Thursday. See another one Saturday. What's more fun is enjoying the company of more than one girl who you find attractive. And of course more chance for sex and you find out real quick who's good and who's not.

In the end, if you are dating casual it shouldn't be a big deal.

What's even more fun is two of them at the same time.

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Anonymous wrote:Usually men like different things in women

1. The one he actually likes
2. The one who likes him a little more
3. The one who doesn’t have any commitments and is okay with causal s3x
4. The new girl that might be something

Men are weird

The summer after my divorce there was the woman my exact age (41) who I really liked and was hoping would become something long-term (she was a parent also and with our schedules we saw each other a half dozen-ish times over those three months), the woman a decade younger who was crazy about me and talked about marriage, and the 21-year-old who was insane in bed.

That's how I thought things would go forever.

What makes a woman insane in bed?

Curious about this too

What can a female do in bed to make it memorable to a man?

Among other things:

Be explicit on fantasies and private desires/kinks. Swallow. Anal.

A recent 50+ GF in the DMV did this and more.

You asked. Memorable.

Did you always use protection for A? STD tested before oral so she could swallow ? I’m fine doing all that. But a recent partner brought in a fecal bacteria into my V. He had unprotected anal with previous GF and it was in his semen. I had a terrible vaginitis nearly couldn’t pee until I took 2 weeks round of antibiotics . We broke up

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Anonymous wrote:I recently learned a guy I was casually seeing is also seeing 4 other women of all ages. Younger and older than him. 2 of whom he’s on relationships with. They don’t know of these other women.

I knew we casual, but shocked it was that many. What do men get out of this? Isn’t that hard to keep up? Harder than a relationship.

Causal dating isn't hard. What is difficult about seeing multiple girls at the same time if it's casual? See one girl Thursday. See another one Saturday. What's more fun is enjoying the company of more than one girl who you find attractive. And of course more chance for sex and you find out real quick who's good and who's not.

In the end, if you are dating casual it shouldn't be a big deal.

What's even more fun is two of them at the same time.

As long as all parties are informed it’s casual and not on drugs it’s nobody business.
But OPs story is about a man who lied. He got not consensual sex by lying . If women knew he had others, they would not have slept with him
I think OP should post him on Facebook to prevent him spreading deceases and heartbreak

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Anonymous wrote:I recently learned a guy I was casually seeing is also seeing 4 other women of all ages. Younger and older than him. 2 of whom he’s on relationships with. They don’t know of these other women.

I knew we casual, but shocked it was that many. What do men get out of this? Isn’t that hard to keep up? Harder than a relationship.

Causal dating isn't hard. What is difficult about seeing multiple girls at the same time if it's casual? See one girl Thursday. See another one Saturday. What's more fun is enjoying the company of more than one girl who you find attractive. And of course more chance for sex and you find out real quick who's good and who's not.

In the end, if you are dating casual it shouldn't be a big deal.

What's even more fun is two of them at the same time.

As long as all parties are informed it’s casual and not on drugs it’s nobody business.
But OPs story is about a man who lied. He got not consensual sex by lying . If women knew he had others, they would not have slept with him
I think OP should post him on Facebook to prevent him spreading deceases and heartbreak

Totally agree. He's disgusting

[Anonymous]

I'm actually a bit worried about OP- she knows its wrong to see him but I have a feeling she will. I mean what has really changed here other than his ethics? Physical is probably the same, already comfortable, and not like you were ever doing his character anyways

Know it must be a huge let down- bummer

[Anonymous]

I’m very much into the activities that posters have written about regarding what makes sex memorable to a guy.
However I could never do any of that with a casual hookup. Casual hookup is protected PIV sex. I like it spicy but I won’t do more than that if it’s casual.

Someone I have strong feelings for and am in a committed relationship with, yes, I’m game for just about anything.

[Anonymous]

My Ex - married, seeing me pretty regularly, 2 other women on the side when he traveled. I have no idea how he kept it all straight and I do not understand why a married man having an affair with cheat with others. Just made me realize I would never be enough.

[Anonymous]

I think people need to distinguish between a guy who cheats and a guy who manages to be honest but still find multiple women who are willing to have sexual relationships with him despite the guy's having sex with other women.

For me, I sometimes find women who just want to keep things very casual and non-exclusive. No problem with them.

There are other women who want to be with me but say they want exclusivity. I basically tell those women I care about them but don't want to make promises I can't keep. Some of them walk at that point. I don't even get to that conversation for some of them because they make their expectations pretty obvious early.

A few women like that will make out with me on a sofa or in a car or sometimes even on a bed, so we can get a sense of chemistry, but they won't have full sex unless we are exclusive. Or they won't have sex a second time.

Some of those come back a few days or weeks later and tell me they want to see me anyway. They just prefer me to the guys who are willing to be exclusive.

Four women at one time would be a lot at any one time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think people need to distinguish between a guy who cheats and a guy who manages to be honest but still find multiple women who are willing to have sexual relationships with him despite the guy's having sex with other women.

For me, I sometimes find women who just want to keep things very casual and non-exclusive. No problem with them.

There are other women who want to be with me but say they want exclusivity. I basically tell those women I care about them but don't want to make promises I can't keep. Some of them walk at that point. I don't even get to that conversation for some of them because they make their expectations pretty obvious early.

A few women like that will make out with me on a sofa or in a car or sometimes even on a bed, so we can get a sense of chemistry, but they won't have full sex unless we are exclusive. Or they won't have sex a second time.

Some of those come back a few days or weeks later and tell me they want to see me anyway. They just prefer me to the guys who are willing to be exclusive.

Four women at one time would be a lot at any one time.

I am one of these women who never have sex before his assurances he's not sleeping with others/I'm confident he doesn't. It's just nauseating to have sex like that for me. Yes, I make out on sofa/kiss etc to get a sense if he makes me hot.

This "exclusivity" is only sexual: all that a man is required to do is stop sleeping with others. I am not asking him to be my BF or any sort of commitment beside sexual that early on. He can still go out with other women socially, but I do expect him available to me for sex over the weekend, a good level of communication etc. But if someone is not ready to stop sleeping with others in parallel with me, and his communication is sporadic IMHO they are just not into me, and I have to pass. I don't see much value to me in casual sex vs female electronic health devices. I never focus seriously on these connections and normally able to find someone to be exclusive in 4-6 months if I don't get "stuck" in these temporary casual relationships.

I do get that some other women are ok with casual, or do it out of hope for something bigger. I don't have this hope if he wants to sleep with others while sleeping with me, and I do not want him at that point, anyway.

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Anonymous wrote:I think people need to distinguish between a guy who cheats and a guy who manages to be honest but still find multiple women who are willing to have sexual relationships with him despite the guy's having sex with other women.

For me, I sometimes find women who just want to keep things very casual and non-exclusive. No problem with them.

There are other women who want to be with me but say they want exclusivity. I basically tell those women I care about them but don't want to make promises I can't keep. Some of them walk at that point. I don't even get to that conversation for some of them because they make their expectations pretty obvious early.

A few women like that will make out with me on a sofa or in a car or sometimes even on a bed, so we can get a sense of chemistry, but they won't have full sex unless we are exclusive. Or they won't have sex a second time.

Some of those come back a few days or weeks later and tell me they want to see me anyway. They just prefer me to the guys who are willing to be exclusive.

Four women at one time would be a lot at any one time.

May I ask you if these "casual" partners do anal or oral for you unprotected? Or it's just condomed PIV? Sex like that would be very limiting for me, and I think my partner wouldn't be even able to see my real bedroom abilities or desires.

[Anonymous]

Why can't these people just date on non monogamous dating preferences sites?