| You have to always have a full stable. One leaves you fund another. I juggled over 5 before, it's about the chase, the variety, that challenge of getting them to do different things in the bedroom. |
But why not advertise you are this way? |
Because they don't want her to also have other partners, or they want to have options they wouldn't have if they were honest both in terms of who they date and what she is willing to do with him. |
If it’s so easy for you to secure sex from women there shouldn’t be a concern about loosing access to sex . You just sleep for variety and should tell your partners |
I agree - if you are seeing multiple women they need to know about each other to keep the relationship fair. If you want variety have at it but don't expect the women to only be with you. Leading them on this way is wrong and hurtful, the women will feel betrayed. |
They just want to fool her around that she somehow needs to “deserve” exclusivity of show him she’s the best for him to commit, and for it to grow into a LTR. But in reality it’s just ego striking for him, he’s not looking to build any relationship with anyone. |
It's really cruel to play with someone's emotions like that. I would want to know if my man was seeing/talking to other women so I would not put my whole heart into the relationship and possible have a few on the side as well. Totally unfair for the guy to convince each woman they are his one and only then surprise there are others. This really makes me mad. Men need to man up and be honest. |
Exactly. I suspect a very large percentage of women advertising on “poly” sites have mental issues and/or are extremely unattractive. He wants his “stable” filled with higher value women. |
If you're letting yourself be fooled by this guy and being monogamous while he's not, you're certainly "higher value" to him. |
She actually is. |
| OP - what did you end up deciding. Did you really cut it off? |
But doesn’t this result in quantity over quantity? A decent woman is going to figure out pretty quickly what’s going on and isn’t going to even sleep with you if you’re seeing other people. So seems like you get to have 5 sleazy women at your beck and call… |
I think not enough attention is paid to the fact that these men lie to get sex under conditions they wouldn’t have gotten sex otherwise. Sex is sort of non consensual in this case, and more attention should be made by dating platforms to such users who abuse other people. There should be a way to report it to dating platforms |
Exactly. These men can’t get decent women without deceit but they think they’re just really good gamers and tell themselves it’s the women who are fools for falling for them in order to pump up their incredibly fragile egos. |
I cut him off. He's blocked. Still feels so hard and like I’m going to end up giving in the future. |