Men who juggle 4+ women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I recently learned a guy I was casually seeing is also seeing 4 other women of all ages. Younger and older than him. 2 of whom he’s on relationships with. They don’t know of these other women.

I knew we casual, but shocked it was that many. What do men get out of this? Isn’t that hard to keep up? Harder than a relationship.

OP what do you mean "in relationships with" ... the other person thinks its exclusive?

The real question is will you keep seeing him, which I'm sure you will. In fact would not be surprised if the others knew too

In addition to variety and the reliable access multiple people provides him- probably boosts his ego a bit and creates some intrigue around him with you and others in the trough

Yes the person thinks it’s exclusive.

No I do still want to see him of course. But I’m not. I’m starting fresh but hurting right now.

I get the ego boost thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I believe that these crazy stories mainly happen when women themselves just let it slide through fingers. They don't ask a man before having sex if he's sleeping with others, waiting for "exclusivity" talk. This is BS - if a man really likes a woman, he would stop seeing others to sleep just with her. If he likes a variety, she will never be "the one".

In my experience, men don't like sex when they feel like they led woman or coerced her into it. I tell a new guy that I never sleep with 2 people in parallel, and take STD tests in between relationships. Ask him when he had the last sex and if he can take a 3-weeks break between me and other women to test and sleep with me. That I would consider it not consensual sex if he had lied to me about not having other partners. I would go explicit and explain I would feel really sick and would not desire to do a BJ to a man if he's possibly having anal sex with other women on other days.

After that convo multi daters disappear, those who really want you will stick around

You're assuming that these women are interested in a long term relationship with the guy and that's often not the case. When a man is dating and sleeping with multiple women, the women are probably sleeping or looking to sleep with other men.

Nah, women in OP’s story believed they were exclusive. There must have been a convo with him and the guy just lied

Men often lie to get a variety, women not so interested in sleeping with communal d..k

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was me at some point in my 20s. The variety (in bed) was fun, but also they had different personaliteis/interests. One enjoyed doing outdoors stuff on Saturdays; another liked to go to hip hop clubs; another liked to meet for lunch during the week and then have me come by after a night out with my buddies on the weekend.

I picked the types that did not generally like to date around. No STD issues.

Yet they slept with you. Someone that sleeps around. They choose your type when they want sex.

Do you not understand how STDs are transmitted?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I recently learned a guy I was casually seeing is also seeing 4 other women of all ages. Younger and older than him. 2 of whom he’s on relationships with. They don’t know of these other women.

I knew we casual, but shocked it was that many. What do men get out of this? Isn’t that hard to keep up? Harder than a relationship.

OP what do you mean "in relationships with" ... the other person thinks its exclusive?

The real question is will you keep seeing him, which I'm sure you will. In fact would not be surprised if the others knew too

In addition to variety and the reliable access multiple people provides him- probably boosts his ego a bit and creates some intrigue around him with you and others in the trough


Sorry you are going through this OP. Nothing wrong with multiple partners (not my thing but understand the ethics). But misleading two people into thinking they are exclusive relationships- pretty cruel and heartless. Should out this person on "are we dating the same guy"

Think it's going to be hard to stop seeing him, if anything the fact he shared all this with you means he trusts you. But respect yourself and don't, it's only going to hurt more later

Yes the person thinks it’s exclusive.

No I do still want to see him of course. But I’m not. I’m starting fresh but hurting right now.

I get the ego boost thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually men like different things in women

1. The one he actually likes
2. The one who likes him a little more
3. The one who doesn’t have any commitments and is okay with causal s3x
4. The new girl that might be something

Men are weird

The summer after my divorce there was the woman my exact age (41) who I really liked and was hoping would become something long-term (she was a parent also and with our schedules we saw each other a half dozen-ish times over those three months), the woman a decade younger who was crazy about me and talked about marriage, and the 21-year-old who was insane in bed.

That's how I thought things would go forever.

What makes a woman insane in bed?

Curious about this too

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually men like different things in women

1. The one he actually likes
2. The one who likes him a little more
3. The one who doesn’t have any commitments and is okay with causal s3x
4. The new girl that might be something

Men are weird

The summer after my divorce there was the woman my exact age (41) who I really liked and was hoping would become something long-term (she was a parent also and with our schedules we saw each other a half dozen-ish times over those three months), the woman a decade younger who was crazy about me and talked about marriage, and the 21-year-old who was insane in bed.

That's how I thought things would go forever.

What makes a woman insane in bed?

Curious about this too

What can a female do in bed to make it memorable to a man?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually men like different things in women

1. The one he actually likes
2. The one who likes him a little more
3. The one who doesn’t have any commitments and is okay with causal s3x
4. The new girl that might be something

Men are weird

The summer after my divorce there was the woman my exact age (41) who I really liked and was hoping would become something long-term (she was a parent also and with our schedules we saw each other a half dozen-ish times over those three months), the woman a decade younger who was crazy about me and talked about marriage, and the 21-year-old who was insane in bed.

That's how I thought things would go forever.

What makes a woman insane in bed?

Curious about this too

What can a female do in bed to make it memorable to a man?

- don’t make s3x a commitment thing, don’t use it as leverage

- don’t be shy when performing, this isn’t the time to play good. Be free and open.

- have clean hygiene

- oral (a lot)

- let him finish wherever

I’d give you some more but I’d have to charge you 😂

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually men like different things in women

1. The one he actually likes
2. The one who likes him a little more
3. The one who doesn’t have any commitments and is okay with causal s3x
4. The new girl that might be something

Men are weird

The summer after my divorce there was the woman my exact age (41) who I really liked and was hoping would become something long-term (she was a parent also and with our schedules we saw each other a half dozen-ish times over those three months), the woman a decade younger who was crazy about me and talked about marriage, and the 21-year-old who was insane in bed.

That's how I thought things would go forever.

What makes a woman insane in bed?

Curious about this too

What can a female do in bed to make it memorable to a man?

- don’t make s3x a commitment thing, don’t use it as leverage

- don’t be shy when performing, this isn’t the time to play good. Be free and open.

- have clean hygiene

- oral (a lot)

- let him finish wherever

I’d give you some more but I’d have to charge you 😂

Happy to pay if I can pick up some tips and ticks here 😜

[Anonymous]

Im not the poster who said his young gf was "insane in bed" but I can describe a few situations that were very memorable. These are different women from over several years of dating.

She wanted to have sex as soon as we got home. We were up against the refrigerator with coats and clothes on the kitchen floor in no time.

She wanted to do it standing up with window shades open. (I can't believe how many women have wanted to do this, not that I'm complaining)

Yelled loudly so neighbors could hear.

She asked if we could park in a parking lot because she had an urgent need to stop. I thought she needed to go to the bathroom but she actually wanted to go down on me.

Woke me up in the middle of the night by putting my hand where she wanted to be touched.

After we had done it once, she brought me to a state of arousal again, asked me not to move, and rubbed against me.

She invited me for brunch, dragged me into bedroom before cooking, made brunch, and threw me on sofa for second time.

I'm in my 50s. Some of these women were also in their 50s. You can be insane at any age. The premenopausal ones tended to get more lubricated, which is nice, but the older ones were fine once they got going.

I'm sure other guys can tell stories about varied locations, making use of the great outdoors, varied positions, varied orifices, uses of teeth, begging, uses of toys, inflictions of pain, requests for punishment, etc. There are plenty of ways to be "insane in bed."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im not the poster who said his young gf was "insane in bed" but I can describe a few situations that were very memorable. These are different women from over several years of dating.

She wanted to have sex as soon as we got home. We were up against the refrigerator with coats and clothes on the kitchen floor in no time.

She wanted to do it standing up with window shades open. (I can't believe how many women have wanted to do this, not that I'm complaining)

Yelled loudly so neighbors could hear.

She asked if we could park in a parking lot because she had an urgent need to stop. I thought she needed to go to the bathroom but she actually wanted to go down on me.

Woke me up in the middle of the night by putting my hand where she wanted to be touched.

After we had done it once, she brought me to a state of arousal again, asked me not to move, and rubbed against me.

She invited me for brunch, dragged me into bedroom before cooking, made brunch, and threw me on sofa for second time.

I'm in my 50s. Some of these women were also in their 50s. You can be insane at any age. The premenopausal ones tended to get more lubricated, which is nice, but the older ones were fine once they got going.

I'm sure other guys can tell stories about varied locations, making use of the great outdoors, varied positions, varied orifices, uses of teeth, begging, uses of toys, inflictions of pain, requests for punishment, etc. There are plenty of ways to be "insane in bed."

Different men have different tastes and preferences. I only slept with 5, and all of them told me they didn't like when a woman yells like crazy. Being quiet helps to concentrate on getting yourself and your partner to the point of no return. I only scream when I finish, and talk or slightly moan from particular pleasurable things prior to... Also standing sex is not possible for all height/weight combination and could be unsafe for a man

Yes to other things (and I'm much crazier than that list above)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im not the poster who said his young gf was "insane in bed" but I can describe a few situations that were very memorable. These are different women from over several years of dating.

She wanted to have sex as soon as we got home. We were up against the refrigerator with coats and clothes on the kitchen floor in no time.

She wanted to do it standing up with window shades open. (I can't believe how many women have wanted to do this, not that I'm complaining)

Yelled loudly so neighbors could hear.

She asked if we could park in a parking lot because she had an urgent need to stop. I thought she needed to go to the bathroom but she actually wanted to go down on me.

Woke me up in the middle of the night by putting my hand where she wanted to be touched.

After we had done it once, she brought me to a state of arousal again, asked me not to move, and rubbed against me.

She invited me for brunch, dragged me into bedroom before cooking, made brunch, and threw me on sofa for second time.

I'm in my 50s. Some of these women were also in their 50s. You can be insane at any age. The premenopausal ones tended to get more lubricated, which is nice, but the older ones were fine once they got going.

I'm sure other guys can tell stories about varied locations, making use of the great outdoors, varied positions, varied orifices, uses of teeth, begging, uses of toys, inflictions of pain, requests for punishment, etc. There are plenty of ways to be "insane in bed."

Different men have different tastes and preferences. I only slept with 5, and all of them told me they didn't like when a woman yells like crazy. Being quiet helps to concentrate on getting yourself and your partner to the point of no return. I only scream when I finish, and talk or slightly moan from particular pleasurable things prior to... Also standing sex is not possible for all height/weight combination and could be unsafe for a man

Yes to other things (and I'm much crazier than that list above)

Wow, as women, we are very insecure. Lord.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was me at some point in my 20s. The variety (in bed) was fun, but also they had different personaliteis/interests. One enjoyed doing outdoors stuff on Saturdays; another liked to go to hip hop clubs; another liked to meet for lunch during the week and then have me come by after a night out with my buddies on the weekend.

I picked the types that did not generally like to date around. No STD issues.

Yet they slept with you. Someone that sleeps around. They choose your type when they want sex.

Do you not understand how STDs are transmitted?

Point is, I dated a bunch of them like this and didn't get an STD. I know people on here think the slightest contact for a few seconds and you end up with a list of STDs, but that's just not always the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im not the poster who said his young gf was "insane in bed" but I can describe a few situations that were very memorable. These are different women from over several years of dating.

She wanted to have sex as soon as we got home. We were up against the refrigerator with coats and clothes on the kitchen floor in no time.

She wanted to do it standing up with window shades open. (I can't believe how many women have wanted to do this, not that I'm complaining)

Yelled loudly so neighbors could hear.

She asked if we could park in a parking lot because she had an urgent need to stop. I thought she needed to go to the bathroom but she actually wanted to go down on me.

Woke me up in the middle of the night by putting my hand where she wanted to be touched.

After we had done it once, she brought me to a state of arousal again, asked me not to move, and rubbed against me.

She invited me for brunch, dragged me into bedroom before cooking, made brunch, and threw me on sofa for second time.

I'm in my 50s. Some of these women were also in their 50s. You can be insane at any age. The premenopausal ones tended to get more lubricated, which is nice, but the older ones were fine once they got going.

I'm sure other guys can tell stories about varied locations, making use of the great outdoors, varied positions, varied orifices, uses of teeth, begging, uses of toys, inflictions of pain, requests for punishment, etc. There are plenty of ways to be "insane in bed."

Different men have different tastes and preferences. I only slept with 5, and all of them told me they didn't like when a woman yells like crazy. Being quiet helps to concentrate on getting yourself and your partner to the point of no return. I only scream when I finish, and talk or slightly moan from particular pleasurable things prior to... Also standing sex is not possible for all height/weight combination and could be unsafe for a man

Yes to other things (and I'm much crazier than that list above)

Wow, as women, we are very insecure. Lord.

I'm silent not because I'm insecure, it just prevents me from focusing on my body and on what I'm doing with partner. I give a lot of oral in between transitions or in parallel with other types of stimulation, so it's impossible to scream when my mouth keeps working almost all the time. And then ...BANG!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This was me at some point in my 20s. The variety (in bed) was fun, but also they had different personaliteis/interests. One enjoyed doing outdoors stuff on Saturdays; another liked to go to hip hop clubs; another liked to meet for lunch during the week and then have me come by after a night out with my buddies on the weekend.

I picked the types that did not generally like to date around. No STD issues.

Yet they slept with you. Someone that sleeps around. They choose your type when they want sex.

Do you not understand how STDs are transmitted?

Point is, I dated a bunch of them like this and didn't get an STD. I know people on here think the slightest contact for a few seconds and you end up with a list of STDs, but that's just not always the case.

20 years ago there were fewer STDs. I ask for test because I love BJs from the first night. Most of my female friends who date and don't ask for STD just go for a condomed act first time around. It's incomplete sex for me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Im not the poster who said his young gf was "insane in bed" but I can describe a few situations that were very memorable. These are different women from over several years of dating.

She wanted to have sex as soon as we got home. We were up against the refrigerator with coats and clothes on the kitchen floor in no time.

She wanted to do it standing up with window shades open. (I can't believe how many women have wanted to do this, not that I'm complaining)

Yelled loudly so neighbors could hear.

She asked if we could park in a parking lot because she had an urgent need to stop. I thought she needed to go to the bathroom but she actually wanted to go down on me.

Woke me up in the middle of the night by putting my hand where she wanted to be touched.

After we had done it once, she brought me to a state of arousal again, asked me not to move, and rubbed against me.

She invited me for brunch, dragged me into bedroom before cooking, made brunch, and threw me on sofa for second time.

I'm in my 50s. Some of these women were also in their 50s. You can be insane at any age. The premenopausal ones tended to get more lubricated, which is nice, but the older ones were fine once they got going.

I'm sure other guys can tell stories about varied locations, making use of the great outdoors, varied positions, varied orifices, uses of teeth, begging, uses of toys, inflictions of pain, requests for punishment, etc. There are plenty of ways to be "insane in bed."

Different men have different tastes and preferences. I only slept with 5, and all of them told me they didn't like when a woman yells like crazy. Being quiet helps to concentrate on getting yourself and your partner to the point of no return. I only scream when I finish, and talk or slightly moan from particular pleasurable things prior to... Also standing sex is not possible for all height/weight combination and could be unsafe for a man

Yes to other things (and I'm much crazier than that list above)

Wow, as women, we are very insecure. Lord.

I'm silent not because I'm insecure, it just prevents me from focusing on my body and on what I'm doing with partner. I give a lot of oral in between transitions or in parallel with other types of stimulation, so it's impossible to scream when my mouth keeps working almost all the time. And then ...BANG!

You are insecure because you chose to explain your own bedroom behavior to a stranger on the internet lest he think you not insane in bed because you prefer other things.