Men who juggle 4+ women

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Usually men like different things in women

1. The one he actually likes
2. The one who likes him a little more
3. The one who doesn’t have any commitments and is okay with causal s3x
4. The new girl that might be something

Men are weird

Not weird. Similar to women, who like:

1. Rich guy for gifts
2. Hot guy for good sex
3. Friend with benefits for when she doesn't want to dress up.
4. Fatherly guy for kids
5. Guy whose genetalia she keeps in a jar on a shelf as a backup.

Both of these posts seem accurate to me. As a decent looking middle aged man with a good job, I can't actually juggle four women at the same time, but two at the same time isn't hard, and four over a six month period is easy. It doesn't involve dishonesty. The women don't usually want to know about the others, at least at the beginning, and they don't usually ask, at least not directly.

I also know several women who want three to five of the qualities listed in the second post. I've played all of those roles at some point.

Here's the thing that some people don't get. These relationships usually aren't transactional and they usually aren't just physical. Also, a lot of serial monogamists are really just "monogamish," and that's true of both men and women.

Often, when women like rich guys for gifts, the women like the feeling of being appreciated and receiving attention. These women aren't having sex for money or jewelry or nice dinners. They're actually drawn to the men.

The "friend with benefits for when she doesn't want to dress up" is someone who makes her feel relaxed and sexually satisfied, but he's probably not just a sex object.

You could write a whole separate post about women who like "fatherly" guys. Yes, it's for the kids, but its also about a desire to feel secure.

Even the women who keep a guy's genitalia in a jar may be very attracted to the guy and feel terrible when he eventually takes his genitals elsewhere, or when he finds out that he's been juggling multiple women because she kept him on a shelf as backup.

Wondering if this person gets outside

Not that complicated bro

Maybe for you but certainly not these women. They run off of gut feel and intuition

Only thing you're probably juggling is yourself LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I recently learned a guy I was casually seeing is also seeing 4 other women of all ages. Younger and older than him. 2 of whom he’s on relationships with. They don’t know of these other women.

I knew we casual, but shocked it was that many. What do men get out of this? Isn’t that hard to keep up? Harder than a relationship.

That sounds like a nightmare

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually men like different things in women

1. The one he actually likes
2. The one who likes him a little more
3. The one who doesn’t have any commitments and is okay with causal s3x
4. The new girl that might be something

Men are weird

Not weird. Similar to women, who like:

1. Rich guy for gifts
2. Hot guy for good sex
3. Friend with benefits for when she doesn't want to dress up.
4. Fatherly guy for kids
5. Guy whose genetalia she keeps in a jar on a shelf as a backup.

Both of these posts seem accurate to me. As a decent looking middle aged man with a good job, I can't actually juggle four women at the same time, but two at the same time isn't hard, and four over a six month period is easy. It doesn't involve dishonesty. The women don't usually want to know about the others, at least at the beginning, and they don't usually ask, at least not directly.

I also know several women who want three to five of the qualities listed in the second post. I've played all of those roles at some point.

Here's the thing that some people don't get. These relationships usually aren't transactional and they usually aren't just physical. Also, a lot of serial monogamists are really just "monogamish," and that's true of both men and women.

Often, when women like rich guys for gifts, the women like the feeling of being appreciated and receiving attention. These women aren't having sex for money or jewelry or nice dinners. They're actually drawn to the men.

The "friend with benefits for when she doesn't want to dress up" is someone who makes her feel relaxed and sexually satisfied, but he's probably not just a sex object.

You could write a whole separate post about women who like "fatherly" guys. Yes, it's for the kids, but its also about a desire to feel secure.

Even the women who keep a guy's genitalia in a jar may be very attracted to the guy and feel terrible when he eventually takes his genitals elsewhere, or when he finds out that he's been juggling multiple women because she kept him on a shelf as backup.

This is such a thoughtful and accurate post.

[Anonymous]

OP will keep seeing the guy why not they're already entangled and maybe she can convince the guy she's special (LOL)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We get (sexual) variety.

Are the women really that different in bed? Or is it that they look different?

Both. I don't have a "type", I like variety. Back when I was single and dating multiple women, it would be all over the place. A skinny blonde, curvy brunette, etc. People are also different in what they are good at in bed. You mentioned having slept with only 7 people so you may not have experienced that level of variety.

Well no, because within the 7 there was already so much overlap, playing the field just seemed pointless.

The two that were outstanding were insane. Taking those memories to my death bed for sure. But they were kind of hard to find. There were also men I could tell would be mediocre in bed just from kissing them, so those didn’t really go anywhere…

Maybe men are just lazier in bed?

Curious, what separated those two men from the pack?

They put thought and effort and a lot of energy and creativity into it. There was a lot of compatibility and trust in other areas which made it easy to develop trust and share our thoughts and experiment. We also had compatible interests, shall we say. I won’t go into further details.

[Anonymous]

I was always a one woman guy and happily married. When I read posts like these about all the thinking, manipulation, and exhausting logistics of dating, I pray I'll never be single again. And if my wife dies before me, will just wind up the old guy sitting in front of the TV all day yelling for kids to get off my lawn.

[Anonymous]

I’m a 40yo female and I easily can have casual relationships at once. I was never like this but after getting divorced and being on OLD and realizing none of the guys I wanted a LT relationship with could commit I just started doing the FWB thing. It’s worked out much better for me and for them. The sucky part is I can’t do it for long because of getting too attached. In fact one of the guys i’m with now it has gotten too intense being 3-4 months long.

[Anonymous]

Now that I’m dating this stuff terrifies me. How do I find a guy that will actually be faithful. Ughhhhhhh

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a 40yo female and I easily can have casual relationships at once. I was never like this but after getting divorced and being on OLD and realizing none of the guys I wanted a LT relationship with could commit I just started doing the FWB thing. It’s worked out much better for me and for them. The sucky part is I can’t do it for long because of getting too attached. In fact one of the guys i’m with now it has gotten too intense being 3-4 months long.

Honey, any woman can easily have casual relationships. Yawn.

[Anonymous]

Both of these posts seem accurate to me. As a decent looking middle aged man with a good job, I can't actually juggle four women at the same time, but two at the same time isn't hard, and four over a six month period is easy. It doesn't involve dishonesty. The women don't usually want to know about the others, at least at the beginning, and they don't usually ask, at least not directly.

I also know several women who want three to five of the qualities listed in the second post. I've played all of those roles at some point.

Here's the thing that some people don't get. These relationships usually aren't transactional and they usually aren't just physical. Also, a lot of serial monogamists are really just "monogamish," and that's true of both men and women.

Often, when women like rich guys for gifts, the women like the feeling of being appreciated and receiving attention. These women aren't having sex for money or jewelry or nice dinners. They're actually drawn to the men.

The "friend with benefits for when she doesn't want to dress up" is someone who makes her feel relaxed and sexually satisfied, but he's probably not just a sex object.

You could write a whole separate post about women who like "fatherly" guys. Yes, it's for the kids, but its also about a desire to feel secure.

Even the women who keep a guy's genitalia in a jar may be very attracted to the guy and feel terrible when he eventually takes his genitals elsewhere, or when he finds out that he's been juggling multiple women because she kept him on a shelf as backup.





This PP is totally accurate. I've wanted men for all 3.
I don't need one to be fatherly to my kids. If DH and I separate/divorce, he will remain fatherly to his kids and I don't need another man to play the role.
Women do typically have a backup guy but since its not steady and he's probably seeing other people, there's the ick factor.

[Anonymous]

As a woman, I believe that these crazy stories mainly happen when women themselves just let it slide through fingers. They don't ask a man before having sex if he's sleeping with others, waiting for "exclusivity" talk. This is BS - if a man really likes a woman, he would stop seeing others to sleep just with her. If he likes a variety, she will never be "the one".

In my experience, men don't like sex when they feel like they led woman or coerced her into it. I tell a new guy that I never sleep with 2 people in parallel, and take STD tests in between relationships. Ask him when he had the last sex and if he can take a 3-weeks break between me and other women to test and sleep with me. That I would consider it not consensual sex if he had lied to me about not having other partners. I would go explicit and explain I would feel really sick and would not desire to do a BJ to a man if he's possibly having anal sex with other women on other days.

After that convo multi daters disappear, those who really want you will stick around

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This was me at some point in my 20s. The variety (in bed) was fun, but also they had different personaliteis/interests. One enjoyed doing outdoors stuff on Saturdays; another liked to go to hip hop clubs; another liked to meet for lunch during the week and then have me come by after a night out with my buddies on the weekend.

I picked the types that did not generally like to date around. No STD issues.

You've no idea if someone is infected unless you exchange results. People aren't necessarily truthful about having multiple partners and even if they are, they might have gotten infected by someone they dated preciously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually men like different things in women

1. The one he actually likes
2. The one who likes him a little more
3. The one who doesn’t have any commitments and is okay with causal s3x
4. The new girl that might be something

Men are weird

Not weird. Similar to women, who like:

1. Rich guy for gifts
2. Hot guy for good sex
3. Friend with benefits for when she doesn't want to dress up.
4. Fatherly guy for kids
5. Guy whose genetalia she keeps in a jar on a shelf as a backup.

You know some weird women. Most women I know want all of the first four things in your list from one guy.

Plenty of women would like variety as well. It's just not socially acceptable to admit it and it's even less acceptable to actually engage in it.

[Anonymous]

You must be very young, OP, and so I am glad to break it down for you. A lady of the night was once famously asked, "Why do men pay for what they could so easily get if they were willing to take a woman to dinner and send her flowers?" She replied, "Because men don't want to bother with flowers or dinner."

Most men have to compete hard to get women because most do not want to give women what they really want: affirmation through attention. The few men who are willing to give women this -- the pretense of emotional involvement and the sense that they are valued -- will always have as many or few options as they desire.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a woman, I believe that these crazy stories mainly happen when women themselves just let it slide through fingers. They don't ask a man before having sex if he's sleeping with others, waiting for "exclusivity" talk. This is BS - if a man really likes a woman, he would stop seeing others to sleep just with her. If he likes a variety, she will never be "the one".

In my experience, men don't like sex when they feel like they led woman or coerced her into it. I tell a new guy that I never sleep with 2 people in parallel, and take STD tests in between relationships. Ask him when he had the last sex and if he can take a 3-weeks break between me and other women to test and sleep with me. That I would consider it not consensual sex if he had lied to me about not having other partners. I would go explicit and explain I would feel really sick and would not desire to do a BJ to a man if he's possibly having anal sex with other women on other days.

After that convo multi daters disappear, those who really want you will stick around

You're assuming that these women are interested in a long term relationship with the guy and that's often not the case. When a man is dating and sleeping with multiple women, the women are probably sleeping or looking to sleep with other men.