Dating after divorce = less pressure

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

NP here, you’re the annoying one. The still-married poster is giving a valid perspective of someone who is staying married because dating divorced doesn’t sound like less pressure or fun. It’s completely on-topic, it is just threatening to you for some reason, it seems.

NP. You should have led with the last line of your post. Her post and yours are off-topic (read the post's topic again; you missed it) and completely useless.

I am calling you out for your inane post in the hope that you and others will follow suit and stay on-topic. Otherwise, STFU, start a new thread, or post on the topic, as this one is interesting to me and others.

Slutting it up in my fifties does not appeal to me. It is actually kind of gross.

An earlier PP. Stop assuming divorced people are "slutting it up." You are disgusting. In the words of the PP, STFU. Dating does not mean promiscuity. Many people don't even date when they are divorced. You have nothing to share that is on topic and you continually insult people on the thread. You are gross.

[Anonymous]

The multiple posts on here trying to slut shame women for having sex is so sad. Here we are in 2024 and grown ass women are being told that having sex with grown ass men is ‘slutting it up’.
WTF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The multiple posts on here trying to slut shame women for having sex is so sad. Here we are in 2024 and grown ass women are being told that having sex with grown ass men is ‘slutting it up’.
WTF.

Being past menopause and being old and sleeping around is what does not sound appealing. It was poor wording but same message.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The multiple posts on here trying to slut shame women for having sex is so sad. Here we are in 2024 and grown ass women are being told that having sex with grown ass men is ‘slutting it up’.
WTF.

Being past menopause and being old and sleeping around is what does not sound appealing. It was poor wording but same message.

40s and 50s does not automatically equate to being past menopause.

Are you in middle school? Do you think people just hit 50 and stop having sex? If you’re asexual, then sex at any age would “ not sound appealing”.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The multiple posts on here trying to slut shame women for having sex is so sad. Here we are in 2024 and grown ass women are being told that having sex with grown ass men is ‘slutting it up’.
WTF.

Being past menopause and being old and sleeping around is what does not sound appealing. It was poor wording but same message.

Why do you think all divorced women necessarily sleep with all men they date? I'm mid 40s divorced woman. I went on dozens of first, second and third dates. Dated only 4 persons for longer than 3 dates, slept with 2 men in 3 years from divorce, and ended up in a longer term relationship with one of them. I enjoyed going out socially with all those men: they were DC politicians, lawyers, legislators, consultants of Big4, performing musicians and so on. Nobody was trashy and absolutely every single man was way more interesting and better person than my exH.
In fact, I wouldn't even date my exH now in my 40s.

I think you are really jealous of women who had courage to leave bad marriages and now date men who were actually better spouses than their ex-wives, and also had courage to leave in pursuit of personal happiness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The multiple posts on here trying to slut shame women for having sex is so sad. Here we are in 2024 and grown ass women are being told that having sex with grown ass men is ‘slutting it up’.
WTF.

Being past menopause and being old and sleeping around is what does not sound appealing. It was poor wording but same message.

40s and 50s does not automatically equate to being past menopause.

Are you in middle school? Do you think people just hit 50 and stop having sex? If you’re asexual, then sex at any age would “ not sound appealing”.

I just looked it up and menopause is between 45 and 55 for most women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The multiple posts on here trying to slut shame women for having sex is so sad. Here we are in 2024 and grown ass women are being told that having sex with grown ass men is ‘slutting it up’.
WTF.

Being past menopause and being old and sleeping around is what does not sound appealing. It was poor wording but same message.

Why do you think all divorced women necessarily sleep with all men they date? I'm mid 40s divorced woman. I went on dozens of first, second and third dates. Dated only 4 persons for longer than 3 dates, slept with 2 men in 3 years from divorce, and ended up in a longer term relationship with one of them. I enjoyed going out socially with all those men: they were DC politicians, lawyers, legislators, consultants of Big4, performing musicians and so on. Nobody was trashy and absolutely every single man was way more interesting and better person than my exH.
In fact, I wouldn't even date my exH now in my 40s.

I think you are really jealous of women who had courage to leave bad marriages and now date men who were actually better spouses than their ex-wives, and also had courage to leave in pursuit of personal happiness.

My childhood best friend often says that her married friends are jealous of her. It is an odd thing to say about others. I wouldn’t say that a single or divorced person is jealous of my married and stable family.

That friend lives in another state. She has had a falling out with all the married friends. The divorced friend often insults her friends’ husbands. For one friend’s birthday, they went out to dinner and the divorced friend told a guy she met online where she would be. The guy brought his friends and crashed the friend’s birthday. The friend said the moms were jealous. One drunk friend called her a whore. They are no longer friends.

I’m still friends with all of them even though I don’t see them since I live out of state.

[Anonymous]

I am not jealous of the pp woman. If I were to divorce, I am confident I would do well in the dating world.

I was the one who said I would not want to sleep with strangers. I also don’t want and don’t enjoy going out late at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not jealous of the pp woman. If I were to divorce, I am confident I would do well in the dating world.

I was the one who said I would not want to sleep with strangers. I also don’t want and don’t enjoy going out late at night.

Dating does not mean "sleeping with strangers." Again, stop assuming people are having one night stands.
The assumptions and judgment on here is out of control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The multiple posts on here trying to slut shame women for having sex is so sad. Here we are in 2024 and grown ass women are being told that having sex with grown ass men is ‘slutting it up’.
WTF.

Being past menopause and being old and sleeping around is what does not sound appealing. It was poor wording but same message.

40s and 50s does not automatically equate to being past menopause.

Are you in middle school? Do you think people just hit 50 and stop having sex? If you’re asexual, then sex at any age would “ not sound appealing”.

I just looked it up and menopause is between 45 and 55 for most women.

How is the age of menopause even relevant? It's not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The multiple posts on here trying to slut shame women for having sex is so sad. Here we are in 2024 and grown ass women are being told that having sex with grown ass men is ‘slutting it up’.
WTF.

Being past menopause and being old and sleeping around is what does not sound appealing. It was poor wording but same message.

Again, still assuming people are "sleeing around"; dating is NOT sleeping around. Menopause is irrelevant. (and FYI...past menopause is over 55...,which is also irrelvant.)

There is no expiration date for finding any kind of relationship that a person wants with the opposite sex.

You smug married people are disgusting. Truly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The multiple posts on here trying to slut shame women for having sex is so sad. Here we are in 2024 and grown ass women are being told that having sex with grown ass men is ‘slutting it up’.
WTF.

Being past menopause and being old and sleeping around is what does not sound appealing. It was poor wording but same message.

Why do you think all divorced women necessarily sleep with all men they date? I'm mid 40s divorced woman. I went on dozens of first, second and third dates. Dated only 4 persons for longer than 3 dates, slept with 2 men in 3 years from divorce, and ended up in a longer term relationship with one of them. I enjoyed going out socially with all those men: they were DC politicians, lawyers, legislators, consultants of Big4, performing musicians and so on. Nobody was trashy and absolutely every single man was way more interesting and better person than my exH.
In fact, I wouldn't even date my exH now in my 40s.

I think you are really jealous of women who had courage to leave bad marriages and now date men who were actually better spouses than their ex-wives, and also had courage to leave in pursuit of personal happiness.

My childhood best friend often says that her married friends are jealous of her. It is an odd thing to say about others. I wouldn’t say that a single or divorced person is jealous of my married and stable family.

That friend lives in another state. She has had a falling out with all the married friends. The divorced friend often insults her friends’ husbands. For one friend’s birthday, they went out to dinner and the divorced friend told a guy she met online where she would be. The guy brought his friends and crashed the friend’s birthday. The friend said the moms were jealous. One drunk friend called her a whore. They are no longer friends.

I’m still friends with all of them even though I don’t see them since I live out of state.

I'm now divorced but I was married for 16 years and witnessed how married couples fought/screamed at each other at my house pool parties. One couple was the obese wife on anti-depressants in her 40s and career professional husband. The husband always angry at her and kicking her out from spousal bedroom for being stinky and drunk. He complaint at it aloud to me any my exH. They are still married and I presume miserable. They cannot afford a divorce, she said back then. Another couple with very large age difference (wife 30 years younger than the husband), and she was screaming at him when we visited them at summer house. Also told aloud his breath smelled like a dead mouse.

I know what married men - the friends of my current boyfriend - are absolutely jealous of his dating life and how happy we are as a couple. Many of them had no sex in years, and the wives are asexual and fat.

Very, very few people have manageable marriages after 20+ years together. Most hate each other and just cannot divorce. You are an exception with your potential 10m+ divorce settlement and 6-figures making husband. That's the main reason you stay married. Money do buy happiness for some.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The multiple posts on here trying to slut shame women for having sex is so sad. Here we are in 2024 and grown ass women are being told that having sex with grown ass men is ‘slutting it up’.
WTF.

Being past menopause and being old and sleeping around is what does not sound appealing. It was poor wording but same message.

Why do you think all divorced women necessarily sleep with all men they date? I'm mid 40s divorced woman. I went on dozens of first, second and third dates. Dated only 4 persons for longer than 3 dates, slept with 2 men in 3 years from divorce, and ended up in a longer term relationship with one of them. I enjoyed going out socially with all those men: they were DC politicians, lawyers, legislators, consultants of Big4, performing musicians and so on. Nobody was trashy and absolutely every single man was way more interesting and better person than my exH.
In fact, I wouldn't even date my exH now in my 40s.

I think you are really jealous of women who had courage to leave bad marriages and now date men who were actually better spouses than their ex-wives, and also had courage to leave in pursuit of personal happiness.

My childhood best friend often says that her married friends are jealous of her. It is an odd thing to say about others. I wouldn’t say that a single or divorced person is jealous of my married and stable family.

That friend lives in another state. She has had a falling out with all the married friends. The divorced friend often insults her friends’ husbands. For one friend’s birthday, they went out to dinner and the divorced friend told a guy she met online where she would be. The guy brought his friends and crashed the friend’s birthday. The friend said the moms were jealous. One drunk friend called her a whore. They are no longer friends.

I’m still friends with all of them even though I don’t see them since I live out of state.

I'm now divorced but I was married for 16 years and witnessed how married couples fought/screamed at each other at my house pool parties. One couple was the obese wife on anti-depressants in her 40s and career professional husband. The husband always angry at her and kicking her out from spousal bedroom for being stinky and drunk. He complaint at it aloud to me any my exH. They are still married and I presume miserable. They cannot afford a divorce, she said back then. Another couple with very large age difference (wife 30 years younger than the husband), and she was screaming at him when we visited them at summer house. Also told aloud his breath smelled like a dead mouse.

I know what married men - the friends of my current boyfriend - are absolutely jealous of his dating life and how happy we are as a couple. Many of them had no sex in years, and the wives are asexual and fat.

Very, very few people have manageable marriages after 20+ years together. Most hate each other and just cannot divorce. You are an exception with your potential 10m+ divorce settlement and 6-figures making husband. That's the main reason you stay married. Money do buy happiness for some.

You two posters have exceptionally trashy friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The multiple posts on here trying to slut shame women for having sex is so sad. Here we are in 2024 and grown ass women are being told that having sex with grown ass men is ‘slutting it up’.
WTF.

Being past menopause and being old and sleeping around is what does not sound appealing. It was poor wording but same message.

Why do you think all divorced women necessarily sleep with all men they date? I'm mid 40s divorced woman. I went on dozens of first, second and third dates. Dated only 4 persons for longer than 3 dates, slept with 2 men in 3 years from divorce, and ended up in a longer term relationship with one of them. I enjoyed going out socially with all those men: they were DC politicians, lawyers, legislators, consultants of Big4, performing musicians and so on. Nobody was trashy and absolutely every single man was way more interesting and better person than my exH.
In fact, I wouldn't even date my exH now in my 40s.

I think you are really jealous of women who had courage to leave bad marriages and now date men who were actually better spouses than their ex-wives, and also had courage to leave in pursuit of personal happiness.

My childhood best friend often says that her married friends are jealous of her. It is an odd thing to say about others. I wouldn’t say that a single or divorced person is jealous of my married and stable family.

That friend lives in another state. She has had a falling out with all the married friends. The divorced friend often insults her friends’ husbands. For one friend’s birthday, they went out to dinner and the divorced friend told a guy she met online where she would be. The guy brought his friends and crashed the friend’s birthday. The friend said the moms were jealous. One drunk friend called her a whore. They are no longer friends.

I’m still friends with all of them even though I don’t see them since I live out of state.

I'm now divorced but I was married for 16 years and witnessed how married couples fought/screamed at each other at my house pool parties. One couple was the obese wife on anti-depressants in her 40s and career professional husband. The husband always angry at her and kicking her out from spousal bedroom for being stinky and drunk. He complaint at it aloud to me any my exH. They are still married and I presume miserable. They cannot afford a divorce, she said back then. Another couple with very large age difference (wife 30 years younger than the husband), and she was screaming at him when we visited them at summer house. Also told aloud his breath smelled like a dead mouse.

I know what married men - the friends of my current boyfriend - are absolutely jealous of his dating life and how happy we are as a couple. Many of them had no sex in years, and the wives are asexual and fat.

Very, very few people have manageable marriages after 20+ years together. Most hate each other and just cannot divorce. You are an exception with your potential 10m+ divorce settlement and 6-figures making husband. That's the main reason you stay married. Money do buy happiness for some.

You two posters have exceptionally trashy friends.

One of the pps here. My friends are nowhere near as trashy as the other person. They are all married to good looking professionals, live in nice homes in good neighborhoods, have 2-3 kids who play soccer, go to church, etc.

My divorced friend isn’t exactly trashy either. She was really hurt in her divorce and I think she tried to boost up her self esteem by dating many men. When we were younger, she was the one who settled down and was always a one man type of girl. She is one of the most insecure people I know. This has nothing to do with divorce.

I have good looking friends. The married people who fought with the divorced friend had their pick of men before they got married. My divorced friend was married to a banker and also not trashy. She is just going through a lot. My husband definitely thinks lowly of the divorced friend. He was friends with the ex husband and thinks he is lucky he got out before they had kids.

[Anonymous]

Pp again for the last time. I dated a lot before I got married. I don’t know when I became so conservative, probably when I became a mom.

At the end of the day, I don’t care what ofher people are doing in their personal lives. I sure as hell don’t care what anonymous strangers are doing from a website.

I personally do not want to date or sleep with random new men. DH is actually handsome, successful and still loves me. He has always loved me more. I would rather stay married and keep my family in tact so the carefree fun dating in my late forties and fifties does not appeal to me.