Dating a twice divorced man

[Anonymous]

His lack of responsibility for either divorce is a major red flag. He just blames the women? Cmon dude.

Anyways, in general if someone is divorced twice I don’t consider them a high quality match. Either something wrong with them specifically or with their judgment and decision making.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was he young for the for the first marriage? I likely wouldn’t even think of it as a real marriage tbh.

I foolishly got married in college to my high school boyfriend who promptly cheated on me. It is the sign that I was an idiot and immature in college. Got married again in my 30’s, been married for 18 years, with kids, etc. If we get divorced it would be a completely different situation. Don’t feel like the first indicates anything about my decision-making and how I Manage relationships or view commitment as an adult.

Delulu. that speaks directly to your decision making. Poorly.

[Anonymous]

Men and women are divorced twice should just retire from relationship for real.

[Anonymous]

Many people have had long term boyfriends/girlfriends that they parted with numerous times. Some got married for various reasons (outside pressure?). Just because someone has been divorced twice means nothing. Go with your heart op!

[Anonymous]

Life is complicated sometimes. If you like him and you seem compatible otherwise, it is what it is

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I'd rather be dead and surrounded by my cats than be alive as some guy's third wife. You get one divorce, because everyone makes mistakes. Two or more means you're the problem. Once you're hit three you should be on a watchlist.

[Anonymous]

Wow... This forum is kind of sad and judgemental. "Two divorces is a pattern." No where in science has two incidents occurring been a pattern, but 100s of judgemental comments toward a person no one here even knows is. That may speak more to divorce rates, and possibly why male suicide rates are so high. Mistakes and circumstances excuse us from happiness? What a pathetic judgement. This forum speaks more about your character then it could ever speak about those you gossip about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you do it? He’s 46 with one kid. Very successful, responsible, hard working, good looking, well educated, great taste/cultured, wants to pay for everything, makes good decisions (except the marriages I guess).

Twice divorced by 46? I'll pass. I'm 46 and recently divorced. Marriage isn't for me. People who think they can keep trying I tip my hat off to them.

[Anonymous]

A woman twice divorced is more likely to get a pass because the assumption is that women can do no wrong in a marriage. Without hearing her story people will just assume her ex did her wrong. So women can easily get married a third time and even a fourth time because of this. If you are a man though after one try I'll suggest you don't try again because every woman you come across will see you as a red flag until proven otherwise

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many people have had long term boyfriends/girlfriends that they parted with numerous times. Some got married for various reasons (outside pressure?). Just because someone has been divorced twice means nothing. Go with your heart op!

Thank you. I have been divorced once. Luckily I didn't marry my second partner of 10 years, so I should be ok person with only one divorce.
I can see a man being pressured to marry. I was pressured by my second partner. He ended up abusive and not being married made it easier to leave. I learned it from first marriage.
I'm dating a man twice divorced, but I know what his problem is. He has a problem he agrees. He was never a marriage material. Not going to marry him, but dating is ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dating for what purpose?

How old are you? Going about in the world as a man’s third wife would be incredibly embarassing unless you’re an old woman. What would your sister or closest friend with the best judgment advise you to do?

I can’t imagine being embarrassed about being someone’s wife just because there were others before me.

I have a cousin who is on his third wife. First one was very young and imploded when he cheated with second wife. Second marriage was so short we didn’t even meet her. He met his third wife - her first marriage and his third - and they’ve been married over 20 years. They are both happy.

[Anonymous]

This is very situational and something only you can evaluate and determine OP.

[Anonymous]

I know a twice divorced man on the market. My friend was his second wife. She could have saved herself a ton of trouble by insisting on meeting the first wife. With two ex wives, I think I'd want to meet at least one of them before getting married.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure why men always are blamed and responsible for any divorce (even if spouse cheated or was abusive or had major substance use issues) still his fault and if he doesn’t say it was all my fault then he is a red flag and a victim and a loser. But women post on here all the time blaming their spouses and no one answers that they are being losers and not taking responsibility and that any divorce is their fault no matter what happened or how they were treated. It’s a double standard that I don’t quite get.

[Anonymous]

Is dating just for dating, or is it dating for marriage? Dating for marriage would be a hard no for me, but if marriage isn't your end goal, then enjoy it for as long as it is enjoyable. The same applies to a once-divorced man with any kids. Not worth it 99% of the time.