Dating a twice divorced man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He only says good things about his ex wives. First wife cheated on him, married <1 year. Second marriage 8 years, 10 together, says he tried his best but she broke his heart.

WTF does that cliche mean?
I’d need examples to take him seriously.

Women don’t file for divorce lightly.

Did HE file both times?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he sees himself as a victim. Not a fan.

Well aren’t you the Judge, the Jury and the Jailer!

Huh?
NP. Is this a troll post? We all read what he said, and he is playing a Poor Me victim angle. I’d be cringing.

How old is Op? 20s still?

[Anonymous]

Met a woman while dating who was twice divorced. Apparently, her first marriage was very short; her second marriage included raising several children. I found it striking that her ExH had full custody and she was not linked on social media to her children (who lived with him in another state). After several dates, I moved on as something didn’t seem right in the story.

[Anonymous]

He's just for fun, not for keeps

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He only says good things about his ex wives. First wife cheated on him, married <1 year. Second marriage 8 years, 10 together, says he tried his best but she broke his heart.

I’d want more specifics on how he tried with his second wife.

I’d take what he tells you with a lot of salt. No one knows except her what really happened.

Agree. He sounds smooth. I'd proceed with a lot of caution.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he works too much. He sounds too perfect. Something is up but you will have to figure out.

[Anonymous]

He has at least two confirmed victims. Why move forward?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He only says good things about his ex wives. First wife cheated on him, married <1 year. Second marriage 8 years, 10 together, says he tried his best but she broke his heart.

I’d want more specifics on how he tried with his second wife.

I’d take what he tells you with a lot of salt. No one knows except her what really happened.

+1

[Anonymous]

Having dated a twice divorced man, I will strongly advise against it. Do your research well as to the real reasons why the marriages failed. In my case both of his ex wives cheated on him. BIG RED FLAGS!!
Also if you are looking to get married, theses types of men are not really interested in taking the plunge a third time. All around a waste of energy and valuable time - better to invest in someone who you know can emotionally connect with.

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you do it? He’s 46 with one kid. Very successful, responsible, hard working, good looking, well educated, great taste/cultured, wants to pay for everything, makes good decisions (except the marriages I guess).

If you are willing to be his third ex, why not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He only says good things about his ex wives. First wife cheated on him, married <1 year. Second marriage 8 years, 10 together, says he tried his best but she broke his heart.

Never his fault?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you do it? He’s 46 with one kid. Very successful, responsible, hard working, good looking, well educated, great taste/cultured, wants to pay for everything, makes good decisions (except the marriages I guess).

Depends how desperate you are on a scale of 1-10, beyond 8, its worth the risk.

[Anonymous]

Honestly if you’ve been married twice and it doesn’t work out it’s time to take a look inward. I’m on my second and as far as I know last marriage, but if it ended there would be no more marriages for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He only says good things about his ex wives. First wife cheated on him, married <1 year. Second marriage 8 years, 10 together, says he tried his best but she broke his heart.

I’d want more specifics on how he tried with his second wife.

I wouldn’t worry much about the first marriage, but I would want more info on the second. Doesn’t matter that it is a second marriage, but like many folks divorcing it’s important that he has mourned and processed and gotten therapy.