Dating a twice divorced man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you do it? He’s 46 with one kid. Very successful, responsible, hard working, good looking, well educated, great taste/cultured, wants to pay for everything, makes good decisions (except the marriages I guess).

May check all boxes but ability to be a good partner. May be wisened up by now and would want to avoid third divorce. Overall rate of divorce is higher in third marriages.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He only says good things about his ex wives. First wife cheated on him, married <1 year. Second marriage 8 years, 10 together, says he tried his best but she broke his heart.

So nothing is his fault?

[Anonymous]

If you don't have better options and not interested in having kids then you got nothing to lose, get a favorable pre-nup as its a risky decision.

[Anonymous]

Get the exes cell phone number.

[Anonymous]

Run

Date fine marry hell no

[Anonymous]

Ofcourse. I have one marriage and one long-term relationships behind me. The person I'm dating has two marriages behind him. We area good fit and have fun, but no need to get married.

[Anonymous]

I would.

[Anonymous]

Was he young for the for the first marriage? I likely wouldn’t even think of it as a real marriage tbh.

I foolishly got married in college to my high school boyfriend who promptly cheated on me. It is the sign that I was an idiot and immature in college. Got married again in my 30’s, been married for 18 years, with kids, etc. If we get divorced it would be a completely different situation. Don’t feel like the first indicates anything about my decision-making and how I Manage relationships or view commitment as an adult.

[Anonymous]

First marriage was in his mid20s

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He only says good things about his ex wives. First wife cheated on him, married <1 year. Second marriage 8 years, 10 together, says he tried his best but she broke his heart.

That’s a hard no. He’s not taking responsibility for anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Run

Date fine marry hell no

Who says OP wants to get married. People usually don’t date with an intention to get married. They date to get laid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He only says good things about his ex wives. First wife cheated on him, married <1 year. Second marriage 8 years, 10 together, says he tried his best but she broke his heart.

So nothing is his fault?

Exactly.

[Anonymous]

It really depends on the person. Sometimes people have a young, brief marriage or brief rebound after a divorce, with a longer, “real” marriage. I would hesitate if the person had kids by different partners. But you have to listen to what they say.

I would also hesitate if I felt the person didn’t show insight as to why they acted as they did, and I would look at how they treat you, of course. Any red flag would wave more than maybe someone with one or no divorces.

[Anonymous]

Twice divorced is a red flag. Don't waste your time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like he sees himself as a victim. Not a fan.

Well aren’t you the Judge, the Jury and the Jailer!