Men if you could order the perfect wife/partner she would…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread made me nauseous. Not only from the comments by the MEN but also by the WOMEN who put up with this BS.

#VOMIT

Thanks for reminding us what we do NOT want in a wife.

[Anonymous]

I think there are two kinds of men:

1. Men who have a list;

2. Men who meet a woman and decide she is everything on his list.

I think my husband was #2. I can’t see the man making a list even if his life depended on it. I think #2 might be easier to live with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there are two kinds of men:

1. Men who have a list;

2. Men who meet a woman and decide she is everything on his list.

I think my husband was #2. I can’t see the man making a list even if his life depended on it. I think #2 might be easier to live with.

How do you differentiate between having a list and just basic qualifications? For example, I only dated women attending college like me. I wanted someone that had basic sense about budgeting/financial responsibility. I wouldn't say my requirements were long but it wasn't an open-ended thing either. Surely even your DH had dealbreakers back then.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are two kinds of men:

1. Men who have a list;

2. Men who meet a woman and decide she is everything on his list.

I think my husband was #2. I can’t see the man making a list even if his life depended on it. I think #2 might be easier to live with.

How do you differentiate between having a list and just basic qualifications? For example, I only dated women attending college like me. I wanted someone that had basic sense about budgeting/financial responsibility. I wouldn't say my requirements were long but it wasn't an open-ended thing either. Surely even your DH had dealbreakers back then.

I think he had a “list” in that there were just the most basic requirements- college educated, same religion as him, decent family. I think that’s where DH’s list ended and he could have married another woman who was completely different than me if she had crossed his path. Men here who are like: “must love sex and also the back door,” are reaching a level of specificity that I think might make them more difficult as partners. A lot of men are easygoing and easier to keep happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread made me nauseous. Not only from the comments by the MEN but also by the WOMEN who put up with this BS.

#VOMIT

+1 I feel so Lucky to have my husband. DCUM always reminds me how lucky I am.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are two kinds of men:

1. Men who have a list;

2. Men who meet a woman and decide she is everything on his list.

I think my husband was #2. I can’t see the man making a list even if his life depended on it. I think #2 might be easier to live with.

How do you differentiate between having a list and just basic qualifications? For example, I only dated women attending college like me. I wanted someone that had basic sense about budgeting/financial responsibility. I wouldn't say my requirements were long but it wasn't an open-ended thing either. Surely even your DH had dealbreakers back then.

I think he had a “list” in that there were just the most basic requirements- college educated, same religion as him, decent family. I think that’s where DH’s list ended and he could have married another woman who was completely different than me if she had crossed his path. Men here who are like: “must love sex and also the back door,” are reaching a level of specificity that I think might make them more difficult as partners. A lot of men are easygoing and easier to keep happy.

That's fair, thank you. I agree a lengthy list of requirements probably does more harm than good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No woman satisfies all of my wish list but here is a list with more important items toward the top:

Inquisitive
Intelligent
Has interesting things to say
Sexually responsive in bed (has many Os, so women who tell me they like sex but rarely reach O with a man are not going to hold my attention for the long term)
Comfortable talking with me about feelings, family, politics, etc
Passionate about things she does in the world (career, community service, making music or art...but I almost never click with stay at home moms)
Attractive (can be unconventionally attractive)
Likes to cook with me or do other things with me
Challenges me to be a better person
Attuned to my body (not as important as enjoying what I do to her, as long as I get basic needs met)
Compatible with my friends
Compatible with my family
Active
Likes exploring the city
Likes to travel
Financially independent


I actually meet a fair number of women like this but the ones I like best usually end up preferring someone who is hotter. Plenty of smart and hot women like me too, but there's usually an obvious quality listed above that's missing.

All women can O. You’re either skilled enough to attune to her body responses to make her O or you have good enough communication skills to learn and explore her body with her to reach an O.

If she’s not reaching Os with you, then it’s a you thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:nerdy,
likes scifi or fantasy,
likes helping others,
maybe one small tattoo,
good cook only because I suck at it

Oh, one more, and she enjoys playing board games with me

This is sweet. It sounds a lot like what my teen boys are looking for.
I will say that most of the women I know who meet most of this criteria have multiple tattoos .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:nerdy,
likes scifi or fantasy,
likes helping others,
maybe one small tattoo,
good cook only because I suck at it

Oh, one more, and she enjoys playing board games with me

This is sweet. It sounds a lot like what my teen boys are looking for.
I will say that most of the women I know who meet most of this criteria have multiple tattoos .

Ha, thanks. I'm willing to compromise on that criterion if she has more than one!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think there are two kinds of men:

1. Men who have a list;

2. Men who meet a woman and decide she is everything on his list.

I think my husband was #2. I can’t see the man making a list even if his life depended on it. I think #2 might be easier to live with.

How do you differentiate between having a list and just basic qualifications? For example, I only dated women attending college like me. I wanted someone that had basic sense about budgeting/financial responsibility. I wouldn't say my requirements were long but it wasn't an open-ended thing either. Surely even your DH had dealbreakers back then.

I think he had a “list” in that there were just the most basic requirements- college educated, same religion as him, decent family. I think that’s where DH’s list ended and he could have married another woman who was completely different than me if she had crossed his path. Men here who are like: “must love sex and also the back door,” are reaching a level of specificity that I think might make them more difficult as partners. A lot of men are easygoing and easier to keep happy.

I can see how a woman not liking sex would be a deal breaker for some men. I think that the back door guy probably just wants someone who is kinky. If she didn’t like that particular thing but was into sex parties or BDSM or something, he would probably like that too.


I have three tween/teen sons, and I think that two of them will be much happier if they marry women who like sex. They are the kind of boys who are always hugging and snuggling with me or wrestling with their dad or their friends. They just like touching a lot and have since they were really little. If either of them end up in one of these sexless, touchless marriages that people post about on here, they will be miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is curvy
She Doesn’t stress over gaining 2 pounds
She doesn’t scream over small things
Enjoys working out with me at the gym
Keeps natural grooming (I don’t like shaved p***sy)
Enjoys a***nal
Likes to travel to interesting places
Dislikes all inclusive hotels
Doesn’t insist that I share her political views
Doesn’t force me to be religious (I don’t mind if she is, religion is a personal issue)
If she is going to cheat, she should let me know so I can dump her

Good luck finding a woman who will even tolerate that, let alone "enjoy."

I got that my 30 birthday never again. Chocolate cream pie

If this is the way you talk then I understand why she would never want to do this again. Are you 13?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is curvy
She Doesn’t stress over gaining 2 pounds
She doesn’t scream over small things
Enjoys working out with me at the gym
Keeps natural grooming (I don’t like shaved p***sy)
Enjoys a***nal
Likes to travel to interesting places
Dislikes all inclusive hotels
Doesn’t insist that I share her political views
Doesn’t force me to be religious (I don’t mind if she is, religion is a personal issue)
If she is going to cheat, she should let me know so I can dump her

Good luck finding a woman who will even tolerate that, let alone "enjoy."

I’m a woman and I enjoy it very much. BF and I do it about 50% of the time.

Fyi he's gay.

+100 any guy who says he's straight but is into THAT is very much on the DL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She is curvy
She Doesn’t stress over gaining 2 pounds
She doesn’t scream over small things
Enjoys working out with me at the gym
Keeps natural grooming (I don’t like shaved p***sy)
Enjoys a***nal
Likes to travel to interesting places
Dislikes all inclusive hotels
Doesn’t insist that I share her political views
Doesn’t force me to be religious (I don’t mind if she is, religion is a personal issue)
If she is going to cheat, she should let me know so I can dump her

Good luck finding a woman who will even tolerate that, let alone "enjoy."

I’m a woman and I enjoy it very much. BF and I do it about 50% of the time.

You nasty

lol I agree. Plus PP should be worried that her lady bits are no longer viable let's say or giving him enough resistance, 50% of the time he wants it else were. Strange and gross. He should get a boyfriend on the side.

[Anonymous]

There are very few women who are hot, sexually, adventurous, and kind. Most hot women are catered to for the first 15 years of adulthood, which results in an entitled attitude. That entitled attitude also creates a lot of pillow princes who aren’t that good in bed despite being gorgeous. A lot of kind and funny and sexually adventurous women are less attractive.

[Anonymous]

I am kind and act young. Would love to meet a nice guy. I am not beautiful, but cute. I would be so happy to meet someone not from here, who would be fun, funny, responsible, and love what they do. Not a long list, but not an arsehole.