Anyone personally know a successful man accused of domestic violence?

[Anonymous]

Anyone else wondering if OP is the wife trying to get a sense of how her circle will react?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wow. They don’t siding snap in public. Was he in the underground parking lot or right in the lobby?

It was a rental ski house. She called 911 after some drunken pushing and shoving. She wanted police to get him to leave the house for the night and get a hotel room. She got more than she bargained for when they cuffed him. They were very both drunk. Nobody went to the hospital or needed an ambulance. Nobody was "black and blue" or "beat to a pulp" as some have suggested.

I fully realize this is going to sound like a pearl-clutching granny, but your friends need to take a long, hard look at their drinking habits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And was he able to reform? How do you cleanse that reputation once news of your arrest leaks to your social circle, which includes your kids' friends' parents?

My husband's best friend from college was just arrested on a family ski trip. Both very drunk, she called the cops, he was arrested, mug shot and the whole nine. They both have great careers, they are both super sweet, he is especially hilarious, two lovely teen kids, and they are always seem so happy. My husband believes he's stressed about work, which led to too much drinking, and then whatever occurred on their trip.

Of course he has to deal with any fallout from his wife, but what about from the friends and colleagues once people start gossiping about it? I'd be totally mortified to show my face. For starters, make it clear to everyone you're never drinking again and become more devout to whatever religion you are? It gives me anxiety to even think about.

Religion my arse - religious men are the worst offenders, because they expect their women to tow the line.

I could probably name what DC suburban hell they live in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:BIL and now his STBXW is being charged with perjury and falsifying police report along with her mother.

Not at all surprised, as false police reports happen on the regular, and sometimes get prosecuted - more and more in current day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes. I know multiple professionals service firm partners.

One was almost certainly falsely accused and prosecutors basically admitted it. Wife was angry at him for other reasons. Their marriage was falling apart and divorce was imminent. She went from demanding full custody because he supposedly was an abuser to actually letting him take care of the kids for weeks at a time.
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Another was a pretty nice guy at work but, according to prosecutors, had a mean streak when drunk.

Here is the gist: it does not have to involve alcohol, but merely a jekyll and hyde personality behind closed doors, which is not uncommon, at all. In some cultures (even white ones, egads!) appearances are what matters most, not what really happens. You may thin someone is "interesting", or rich, or whatever, but they may be a living hell to live with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else wondering if OP is the wife trying to get a sense of how her circle will react?

I mean, I actually kind of hope so, because otherwise the OP is the worst sort of phony “friend” with way too much time on her hands.

[Anonymous]

My BIL caught his wife cheating. He decided to go to counseling and forgave her.

He caught her a 2nd time in a parking lot banging some dude at work,

She is a very successful CPA, CFO.

He drove up knocked on the window then drove home.

She came home and he open hand slapped her across the face.

He was charged with DV.

Yes, I think he can he reformed but truthfully I don’t think he is a domestic abuser.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Well I should say he WAS successful. But he was a problem drinker and slipped into using party drugs too. Now he is in jail for sexual assault and robbery when he was high on who knows what. He also hit his wife a few times (and I think their kid once) but the sec assault is what got him in jail. The other stuff just complicated the divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BIL caught his wife cheating. He decided to go to counseling and forgave her.

He caught her a 2nd time in a parking lot banging some dude at work,

She is a very successful CPA, CFO.

He drove up knocked on the window then drove home.

She came home and he open hand slapped her across the face.

He was charged with DV.

Yes, I think he can he reformed but truthfully I don’t think he is a domestic abuser.

There is no situation, other than self defense or defense of another, in which it's OK to assault your spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BIL caught his wife cheating. He decided to go to counseling and forgave her.

He caught her a 2nd time in a parking lot banging some dude at work,

She is a very successful CPA, CFO.

He drove up knocked on the window then drove home.

She came home and he open hand slapped her across the face.

He was charged with DV.

Yes, I think he can he reformed but truthfully I don’t think he is a domestic abuser.

That sounds like cold blooded, calculated assault. Not like if he found her sleeping with him and she jumped out of bed towards him and he slapped her away. He went home, waited, and executed it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BIL caught his wife cheating. He decided to go to counseling and forgave her.

He caught her a 2nd time in a parking lot banging some dude at work,

She is a very successful CPA, CFO.

He drove up knocked on the window then drove home.

She came home and he open hand slapped her across the face.

He was charged with DV.

Yes, I think he can he reformed but truthfully I don’t think he is a domestic abuser.

He isn’t and would not be convicted for that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know a doctor who was arrested for striking his wife during an argument. She called the cops, he was arrested and a lawyer got him out but he still had a mugshot. The hospital quietly dismissed him and they moved out of state. He’s still practicing and they’re still married.

You are not going to find a lot of women willing to cut off and imprison the main source of income for themselves and their kids. That’s why men get away with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow. They don’t siding snap in public. Was he in the underground parking lot or right in the lobby?

It was a rental ski house. She called 911 after some drunken pushing and shoving. She wanted police to get him to leave the house for the night and get a hotel room. She got more than she bargained for when they cuffed him. They were very both drunk. Nobody went to the hospital or needed an ambulance. Nobody was "black and blue" or "beat to a pulp" as some have suggested.

She did the right thing and so did the police. She was scared enough by the violence that she needed the police to get him to leave. She may have believed he would go peacefully to a hotel - but he was drunk. Do you think the police should have driven him to a hotel or let him drive himself? They needed to protect her and the kids, and they did the needed thing to PREVENT serious injuries. You’re seriously deluded to minimize this.

That’s now how DV calls work. If she calls and reports they will arrest him. They are police not social workers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else wondering if OP is the wife trying to get a sense of how her circle will react?

I actually wondered if it is the HUSBAND testing the waters of his own reputation amongst the set here...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My BIL caught his wife cheating. He decided to go to counseling and forgave her.

He caught her a 2nd time in a parking lot banging some dude at work,

She is a very successful CPA, CFO.

He drove up knocked on the window then drove home.

She came home and he open hand slapped her across the face.

He was charged with DV.

Yes, I think he can he reformed but truthfully I don’t think he is a domestic abuser.

Gross. What a whore