Husband is furious at me for these two incidents...am I crazy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get out, OP, while you can.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get out, OP, while you can.

This.

+1 OP, I think the smart and compassionate thing is for you to facilitate freeing yourself from him and freeing him from you. I know he’ll be a lot happier, and you can then focus on finding your perfect person.

[Anonymous]

You two probably should not be anyone’s parents boy or girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are nuts op. So is he.

Careful there. We already known OP. isn't mentally sound because she presented her own thoughts and words demonstrating a completely distorted worldview. Presumably while trying to present herself as sympathetically as possible, she still comes off as you say as nuts.

She is presenting her husband through the exact same crazy nutty distorted filter.

Why would you take her presentation of what happened or her husband's actions at face value?

You said it yourself. She's nuts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband has been really angry and rude to me because he says I disrespected him by bringing up the following 2 "charged" topics:

- Yesterday morning, I was reading the Andrew Wylie article in the NYT. I thought it was interesting and enlightening. When Husband wakes up I tell him about it and he instantly gets angry saying he hates the elites and they have destroyed out country and how they are so wrong about what good literature even is. He tells me, "you and I have VERY different ideas about this!" and starts huffing and puffing about how he loathes snobbery.

I...just wanted to have a discussion about the state of the publishing industry these days and it was a huge triggering topic for him.

- This morning I was in a conference call with a boss from work who was talking about her male children. After getting off the call, I was making small talk with my husband as he was making lunch in the kitchen and I started musing about how it would feel to have a boy and whether I could be a "boy mom" and that I probably want a girl. He says he wants a boy. I follow-up to that saying that it may be a little complicated to raise a boy as you have to worry about ensuring they are socialized early and well so they aren't lonely and fall into depression. I said that I worry that maladjusted boys have a risk of doing disruptive things such as mass shootings and such. This triggered him. He started to get angry and said that wasn't true and that at least 40% of shooters are women. I was confused as that did not align with any of the data i have read so far. And I told him so. He was angry and said i am a misandrist and that I am insulting him as he is a man! And he did not like that I make generalizations about his gender!

I am increasingly confused and say that none of this is personal. He gets angry and says he does not want to do this anymore and raises his hand in the air to signal that he does not want to talk, walks away and shits the door to his room.

He has since been in his room and is stone walling me. I went over 10 minutes ago and he said he is still angry and that i hurt his feelings! Thsee topics are charged topics for him and I continue expressing my opinion and making him angry.

Isn't he overblowing this? Or am I crazy?

He sounds nuts. You sound a little off too

The first several post of this fake thread were all Op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are we all just glossing over the fact that the first thing OP wanted to discuss w DH upon his waking is a NYT article? Im pretty frigging liberal and being woken in this manner might make me want to start cursing about soy boys or stolen elections or government school indoctrination or something similar as well.

This whole post is like a cartoon of a certain kind of priviledged YT folx

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are we all just glossing over the fact that the first thing OP wanted to discuss w DH upon his waking is a NYT article? Im pretty frigging liberal and being woken in this manner might make me want to start cursing about soy boys or stolen elections or government school indoctrination or something similar as well.

This whole post is like a cartoon of a certain kind of priviledged YT folx

And you sound.like a cartoon of s.hood rat.

[Anonymous]

Guy here he sounds crazy

[Anonymous]

Yet another reason to remain single!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are we all just glossing over the fact that the first thing OP wanted to discuss w DH upon his waking is a NYT article? Im pretty frigging liberal and being woken in this manner might make me want to start cursing about soy boys or stolen elections or government school indoctrination or something similar as well.

This whole post is like a cartoon of a certain kind of priviledged YT folx

And you sound.like a cartoon of s.hood rat.

Hit too close to home, huh?

[Anonymous]

The good news is you haven’t had children with him. Don’t!

[Anonymous]

Just another poster telling you NOT to have kids with this man and to run now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband has been really angry and rude to me because he says I disrespected him by bringing up the following 2 "charged" topics:

- Yesterday morning, I was reading the Andrew Wylie article in the NYT. I thought it was interesting and enlightening. When Husband wakes up I tell him about it and he instantly gets angry saying he hates the elites and they have destroyed out country and how they are so wrong about what good literature even is. He tells me, "you and I have VERY different ideas about this!" and starts huffing and puffing about how he loathes snobbery.

I...just wanted to have a discussion about the state of the publishing industry these days and it was a huge triggering topic for him.

- This morning I was in a conference call with a boss from work who was talking about her male children. After getting off the call, I was making small talk with my husband as he was making lunch in the kitchen and I started musing about how it would feel to have a boy and whether I could be a "boy mom" and that I probably want a girl. He says he wants a boy. I follow-up to that saying that it may be a little complicated to raise a boy as you have to worry about ensuring they are socialized early and well so they aren't lonely and fall into depression. I said that I worry that maladjusted boys have a risk of doing disruptive things such as mass shootings and such. This triggered him. He started to get angry and said that wasn't true and that at least 40% of shooters are women. I was confused as that did not align with any of the data i have read so far. And I told him so. He was angry and said i am a misandrist and that I am insulting him as he is a man! And he did not like that I make generalizations about his gender!

I am increasingly confused and say that none of this is personal. He gets angry and says he does not want to do this anymore and raises his hand in the air to signal that he does not want to talk, walks away and shits the door to his room.

He has since been in his room and is stone walling me. I went over 10 minutes ago and he said he is still angry and that i hurt his feelings! Thsee topics are charged topics for him and I continue expressing my opinion and making him angry.

Isn't he overblowing this? Or am I crazy?

He sounds nuts. You sound a little off too

This is OP. Why am I a little off? I was raised in a family of all girls and have little experience with boys. I want to raise good, upstanding young men who do not become maladjusted teens or youths who commit crimes.

I am probably anxious and an over-thinker.

You're not off. You're inexperienced with boys and were ruminating out loud. No big deal except you set off the boy moms here. Now they are ignoring your question about your clearly disturbed husband and focusing on making you a villain.

OP, I'd get off this thread and go get a therapist ASAP for you, solo. Not to talk about kids. To talk about your DH's apparent anger issues and why you choose to stay with him. And you need to tell him he overreacted. Meanwhile get your finances etc in order and dont get pregnant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are we all just glossing over the fact that the first thing OP wanted to discuss w DH upon his waking is a NYT article? Im pretty frigging liberal and being woken in this manner might make me want to start cursing about soy boys or stolen elections or government school indoctrination or something similar as well.

This whole post is like a cartoon of a certain kind of priviledged YT folx

And you sound.like a cartoon of s.hood rat.

Hit too close to home, huh?

The cheese is thattaway, feel free not to pay for it. Thank you for shoplifting at Kmart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband has been really angry and rude to me because he says I disrespected him by bringing up the following 2 "charged" topics:

- Yesterday morning, I was reading the Andrew Wylie article in the NYT. I thought it was interesting and enlightening. When Husband wakes up I tell him about it and he instantly gets angry saying he hates the elites and they have destroyed out country and how they are so wrong about what good literature even is. He tells me, "you and I have VERY different ideas about this!" and starts huffing and puffing about how he loathes snobbery.

I...just wanted to have a discussion about the state of the publishing industry these days and it was a huge triggering topic for him.

- This morning I was in a conference call with a boss from work who was talking about her male children. After getting off the call, I was making small talk with my husband as he was making lunch in the kitchen and I started musing about how it would feel to have a boy and whether I could be a "boy mom" and that I probably want a girl. He says he wants a boy. I follow-up to that saying that it may be a little complicated to raise a boy as you have to worry about ensuring they are socialized early and well so they aren't lonely and fall into depression. I said that I worry that maladjusted boys have a risk of doing disruptive things such as mass shootings and such. This triggered him. He started to get angry and said that wasn't true and that at least 40% of shooters are women. I was confused as that did not align with any of the data i have read so far. And I told him so. He was angry and said i am a misandrist and that I am insulting him as he is a man! And he did not like that I make generalizations about his gender!

I am increasingly confused and say that none of this is personal. He gets angry and says he does not want to do this anymore and raises his hand in the air to signal that he does not want to talk, walks away and shits the door to his room.

He has since been in his room and is stone walling me. I went over 10 minutes ago and he said he is still angry and that i hurt his feelings! Thsee topics are charged topics for him and I continue expressing my opinion and making him angry.

Isn't he overblowing this? Or am I crazy?

He sounds nuts. You sound a little off too

This is OP. Why am I a little off? I was raised in a family of all girls and have little experience with boys. I want to raise good, upstanding young men who do not become maladjusted teens or youths who commit crimes.

I am probably anxious and an over-thinker.

You're not off. You're inexperienced with boys and were ruminating out loud. No big deal except you set off the boy moms here. Now they are ignoring your question about your clearly disturbed husband and focusing on making you a villain.

OP, I'd get off this thread and go get a therapist ASAP for you, solo. Not to talk about kids. To talk about your DH's apparent anger issues and why you choose to stay with him. And you need to tell him he overreacted. Meanwhile get your finances etc in order and dont get pregnant.

OP likely already has a therapist but when she told a different version of this story to the therapist, she didn't like the feedback she got. Thanks why she's crowdsourcing now.