Husband is furious at me for these two incidents...am I crazy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your small talk is cray-cray.

THANK YOU
I swear this probably was a one way conversation with someone, OP, looking for street cred.
FAIL.

[Anonymous]

I have to join those who say that neither of you should have kids. You are speculating that boys will be mass killers. And with his trigger temper you could be right.

[Anonymous]

OP, you chatter too much

Find someone else to talk to. Your DH needs more peace and quiet

[Anonymous]

I would wait until 1) after, not before, husband's morning coffee, and 2) after, not before husband sitting down to lunch and having a few bites. Conversations, especially heavy ones, generally go better this way.

[Anonymous]

what did you have to say about Wylie, OP?

Because I wanted to give him a standing ovation for his perspective on Disney World. Sing it, AW.

I am a woman of the people, grew up poor and not a snob at all, but I prefer small dinner parties with interesting (not necessarily highly educated or elite) guests vs. large events where guests discuss pleasantries.

My best friends are an elite academic and a woman with a high school education and no more. Interesting people come in many stripes. But boring people are everywhere and I don't have time for them.

[Anonymous]

You think BOYS are the criminals? Go ask Target security who does the the majority of shoplifting, girls or boys. It's the girls stealing toiletries. Go ask at the mall. Same thing.

Get help, AND get divorced, AND don't have kids, especially not with this guy.

[Anonymous]

I would certainly be offended if my husband said he didn’t want to have a girl because she might grow up to have anorexia.

But clearly you guys are just reactionary to eachother. Try a couples counselor but it might just be a bad match. Better to know before you have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband has been really angry and rude to me because he says I disrespected him by bringing up the following 2 "charged" topics:

- Yesterday morning, I was reading the Andrew Wylie article in the NYT. I thought it was interesting and enlightening. When Husband wakes up I tell him about it and he instantly gets angry saying he hates the elites and they have destroyed out country and how they are so wrong about what good literature even is. He tells me, "you and I have VERY different ideas about this!" and starts huffing and puffing about how he loathes snobbery.

I...just wanted to have a discussion about the state of the publishing industry these days and it was a huge triggering topic for him.

- This morning I was in a conference call with a boss from work who was talking about her male children. After getting off the call, I was making small talk with my husband as he was making lunch in the kitchen and I started musing about how it would feel to have a boy and whether I could be a "boy mom" and that I probably want a girl. He says he wants a boy. I follow-up to that saying that it may be a little complicated to raise a boy as you have to worry about ensuring they are socialized early and well so they aren't lonely and fall into depression. I said that I worry that maladjusted boys have a risk of doing disruptive things such as mass shootings and such. This triggered him. He started to get angry and said that wasn't true and that at least 40% of shooters are women. I was confused as that did not align with any of the data i have read so far. And I told him so. He was angry and said i am a misandrist and that I am insulting him as he is a man! And he did not like that I make generalizations about his gender!

I am increasingly confused and say that none of this is personal. He gets angry and says he does not want to do this anymore and raises his hand in the air to signal that he does not want to talk, walks away and shits the door to his room.

He has since been in his room and is stone walling me. I went over 10 minutes ago and he said he is still angry and that i hurt his feelings! Thsee topics are charged topics for him and I continue expressing my opinion and making him angry.

Isn't he overblowing this? Or am I crazy?

He sounds nuts. You sound a little off too

This is OP. Why am I a little off? I was raised in a family of all girls and have little experience with boys. I want to raise good, upstanding young men who do not become maladjusted teens or youths who commit crimes.

I am probably anxious and an over-thinker.

Would you say your husband is maladjusted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get out, OP, while you can.

Before you have kids!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not get pregnant

Omg get out you are both crazy

Tell him the elites are going to come for him😀

You married an idiot

np I think the op sounds fine/. I agree about the dh. I wouldn't want to live in a marriage where you can't express your thoughts. He's probably a big second amendment fan but, not so much first amendment ( especially for women)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You think BOYS are the criminals? Go ask Target security who does the the majority of shoplifting, girls or boys. It's the girls stealing toiletries. Go ask at the mall. Same thing.

Get help, AND get divorced, AND don't have kids, especially not with this guy.

dp oh yes. Shopplifting kills! Girls are killing everyone when they steal lipstick. Tell me again how many girl school shooters vs boy school shooters?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP is a troll. Sorry folks, waste your time if you wish.

Well aren't you wasting your time too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do not get pregnant

Omg get out you are both crazy

Tell him the elites are going to come for him😀

You married an idiot

np I think the op sounds fine/. I agree about the dh. I wouldn't want to live in a marriage where you can't express your thoughts. He's probably a big second amendment fan but, not so much first amendment ( especially for women)

OP thinks boys who aren’t “socialized early” turn in to school shooters. She’s most definitely not fine.

[Anonymous]

You both sound a little out there.

[Anonymous]

OP is sexist.