I asked out a 19/20 year old girl today who I thought was a grown adult woman

[Anonymous]

Can you stop saying “grown adult.” It is implied. Don’t creep on women who are alone.

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Anonymous wrote:Yeah she’s in “amazing shape” because she’s a kid. Maybe stop being so shallow next time.

Next time he should be attracted to someone like you: out of shape with thick legs and pot belly. Lol

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how you could think she was in her 30s

Most women 20-40 look exactly the same from afar if you don’t look at their hair or face.

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Anonymous wrote:1. Please leave women alone when they’re exercising.

2. You really, really mistook a 19 y/o for a 30 y/o? Or did you think early 20s and trying to make yourself look better?

3. How good shape you thought she was in and her shorts and tank top description make this a super creepy post.

4. You come across creepy in your post, you’re worried about being creepy, OP you know the expression about things that look like ducks…

Honestly, +1 to all of this. I find it hard to believe that you thought she was 30+. I also think that if she had been receptive, instead of shutting you down, you would have gone for it.

You chased down a teenager while she was exercising and hit on her. She handled it well, but you need to not do that.

Not hard at all if someone is wearing sunglasses & a hat. You basically can’t see their hair or face.

So, he could not see her face, but based on her body, he creeped up to her and asked her out when she was out walking? Ugh! What a creep! He is the age to be her father. C'mon. Do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel gross.

I’m a 42 y/o divorced dad and live in a leafy UMC neighborhood. I WFH full time. For the past few weeks/months I’ve seen someone who looked to be a woman in her 30s speed walking and occasionally running in my neighborhood. She is about 5”3 and wears dark sunglasses, baseball cap, shorts, running sneakers & a tank top. Has long brown hair & is in amazing shape from what I could tell based on looking at her.

Anyway, I was out walking today and saw her. I must’ve startled her by walking far behind her on the same sidewalk. She looked behind, and that’s when I finally decided I would make a move. She looked a little startled, but I introduced myself and we both kept walking together. She quickly started chatting with me, and I complimented her on her walking/running. We were talking about how nice it was out & how hilly the neighborhood is. She spoke like a grown adult & seemed very confident. Anyway, as I was about to make a turn on my route after a few blocks, I asked her if she’d like to meet again and if there was any way I could contact her. She kindly but swiftly shut that down; she said “That is nice of you, but I am going back to college for the summer next week. Good luck with your walking” I said thank you and made a turn.

This girl was probably 19 years old & taking walks from her parents house. I feel like a creep.

I don't think you did anything wrong!

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Anonymous wrote:1. Please leave women alone when they’re exercising.

2. You really, really mistook a 19 y/o for a 30 y/o? Or did you think early 20s and trying to make yourself look better?

3. How good shape you thought she was in and her shorts and tank top description make this a super creepy post.

4. You come across creepy in your post, you’re worried about being creepy, OP you know the expression about things that look like ducks…

Honestly, +1 to all of this. I find it hard to believe that you thought she was 30+. I also think that if she had been receptive, instead of shutting you down, you would have gone for it.

You chased down a teenager while she was exercising and hit on her. She handled it well, but you need to not do that.

Not hard at all if someone is wearing sunglasses & a hat. You basically can’t see their hair or face.

So, he could not see her face, but based on her body, he creeped up to her and asked her out when she was out walking? Ugh! What a creep! He is the age to be her father. C'mon. Do better.

Maybe in Mississippi. Around here dads OP’s age have toddlers.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand how you could think she was in her 30s

Most women 20-40 look exactly the same from afar if you don’t look at their hair or face.

I absolutely do not agree with the statement. A 20 year old body does not look like a 30 year old body in many cases. I would say that it’s possible a 30 year old body in a 40 year old body would look the same but around 20 years old. Most women are much thinner than they are even at 26 or 27. Based on looking at somebody’s body alone, I do not understand how somebody could think someone who was 20 could be 30.

[Anonymous]

Why did you think this was worthy of a thread?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. Please leave women alone when they’re exercising.

2. You really, really mistook a 19 y/o for a 30 y/o? Or did you think early 20s and trying to make yourself look better?

3. How good shape you thought she was in and her shorts and tank top description make this a super creepy post.

4. You come across creepy in your post, you’re worried about being creepy, OP you know the expression about things that look like ducks…

+1,000 OP is definitely a creep. You do not approach a woman jogging or walking to ask her out. OMG.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Please leave women alone when they’re exercising.

2. You really, really mistook a 19 y/o for a 30 y/o? Or did you think early 20s and trying to make yourself look better?

3. How good shape you thought she was in and her shorts and tank top description make this a super creepy post.

4. You come across creepy in your post, you’re worried about being creepy, OP you know the expression about things that look like ducks…

Honestly, +1 to all of this. I find it hard to believe that you thought she was 30+. I also think that if she had been receptive, instead of shutting you down, you would have gone for it.

You chased down a teenager while she was exercising and hit on her. She handled it well, but you need to not do that.

Not hard at all if someone is wearing sunglasses & a hat. You basically can’t see their hair or face.

So, he could not see her face, but based on her body, he creeped up to her and asked her out when she was out walking? Ugh! What a creep! He is the age to be her father. C'mon. Do better.

Maybe in Mississippi. Around here dads OP’s age have toddlers.

Weird cope. My DH grew up in McLean and when he is 42 our eldest will be 15.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Female feminist k-12 teachers teach women to be terrified of men.

Literally the only thing this 40+ year old man knew about this girl was that she’s in amazing shape. That’s all he cared about. That should terrify you. It’s sick.

It’s sick that a man would initially be attracted to a woman based on her looks. Just repulsive.

Do you hear yourself?

Nobody is faulting him for being attracted to her. It’s that he was basically spying on her for months then rolled up behind her on a walk and asked her out when she had barely said two words. His h0rniness made him believe that was ok. Creepy.

+1

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Anonymous wrote:Why did you describe her outfit

OP here. I mentioned the baseball cap & sunglasses because they obscured her hair and face. Was hard to see if her skin and hair were aged & how much.

You described her entire outfit. Also why describe your “leafy” neighborhood? Are you outsourcing your troll posts to ChatGPT?

He’s trying to say that he’s rich so therefore can’t be a creep.

There’s nothing weird about describing the outfit.

And her body.

And her hair color.

Do you want your creepy old neighbor writing like this about your college-age daughter? Because that’s what this guy is doing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. Please leave women alone when they’re exercising.

2. You really, really mistook a 19 y/o for a 30 y/o? Or did you think early 20s and trying to make yourself look better?

3. How good shape you thought she was in and her shorts and tank top description make this a super creepy post.

4. You come across creepy in your post, you’re worried about being creepy, OP you know the expression about things that look like ducks…

Agree with 1 and 2, not as much 3 and 4.

Just because every once in a while a woman might agree to go out with someone when they are exercising doesn’t mean it’s acceptable to interfere with someone who is busy for your own purposes. I still remember being out on a run fairly soon after my second was born and I was so excited to carve out a few minutes for myself quietly and then 10 minutes in this guy kept trying to keep up and talk to me and I was about to lose my mind.

[Anonymous]

She is a grown adult woman. She is not a young girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. Please leave women alone when they’re exercising.

2. You really, really mistook a 19 y/o for a 30 y/o? Or did you think early 20s and trying to make yourself look better?

3. How good shape you thought she was in and her shorts and tank top description make this a super creepy post.

4. You come across creepy in your post, you’re worried about being creepy, OP you know the expression about things that look like ducks…

Honestly, +1 to all of this. I find it hard to believe that you thought she was 30+. I also think that if she had been receptive, instead of shutting you down, you would have gone for it.

You chased down a teenager while she was exercising and hit on her. She handled it well, but you need to not do that.

Not hard at all if someone is wearing sunglasses & a hat. You basically can’t see their hair or face.

So, he could not see her face, but based on her body, he creeped up to her and asked her out when she was out walking? Ugh! What a creep! He is the age to be her father. C'mon. Do better.

Maybe in Mississippi. Around here dads OP’s age have toddlers.

Hmmmm. There was a thread in general parenting recently about 42 being within grandparent age. Funny how that only works for women.