Kid said the n word to my kid

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the responses here. If your kid is black do you let them use the n word? I teach my kids not to use any language that could be offensive to others.

You're missing the forest for the trees here. If you are non-black you don't ever need to interact with a stranger black child unless they are hitting your child or damaging your property. Then you can do what is necessary. But if they are just using bad language or damaging public property, do not approach and do not engage, and do not worry about what their parents let them do. Whatever values black people teach their children is their business.

When the kids taunt or bother the other kids, it is no longer a private matter. It seems the values are a little weak if that lesson wasn't taught.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I can't stand it when people act like calling someone the n-word is the same thing as talking about the n-word theoretically. Like, don't say n-word or do you ever say n-word.

It is purposefully obtuse.

Also, I think that 8 years old is too young to go to a park by yourself.

Personally, I think no one should say the n word. I say no one is allowed to say the n word. But since we as a society have decided that some people can say it, it's going to be a curse word that is heard in adult spaces. Like a basketball court.

First, this was a basketball court at a playground- meant for kids. Second, the younger kid didn’t just overhear a bad word, the older called him over and was taunting him asking him if he knew what it meant/ever heard it, etc. Fair to assume he wanted to put the younger kid in a situation that would result in the older kid calling him a racist or something along that vein. Pretty sure the older kid didn’t just want to have a philosophical conversation about the n-word with an 8 yr old. So this goes above “hearing bad language” on the playground to me. I still wouldn’t have went back and engaged with older kid, but this is a lot more serious than just hearing a bad word. OP teach your child to not engage at all with people out looking for trouble. Don’t even answer them, just walk away

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the responses here. If your kid is black do you let them use the n word? I teach my kids not to use any language that could be offensive to others.

You're missing the forest for the trees here. If you are non-black you don't ever need to interact with a stranger black child unless they are hitting your child or damaging your property. Then you can do what is necessary. But if they are just using bad language or damaging public property, do not approach and do not engage, and do not worry about what their parents let them do. Whatever values black people teach their children is their business.

you lost me at “damaging public property.”

[Anonymous]

Lots of things wrong in this situation and it all starts with OP. An 8 year old should still be within your sight and is too young to go off somewhere. There was no need to go back to the park. What did you expect the outcome to be, he would say he is sorry? Praise your son, apologize for allowing him to be in that situation alone and let it be.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the responses here. If your kid is black do you let them use the n word? I teach my kids not to use any language that could be offensive to others.

You're missing the forest for the trees here. If you are non-black you don't ever need to interact with a stranger black child unless they are hitting your child or damaging your property. Then you can do what is necessary. But if they are just using bad language or damaging public property, do not approach and do not engage, and do not worry about what their parents let them do. Whatever values black people teach their children is their business.

You may express your opinion. But please know, that’s all it is. Many of us just aren’t interested in engaging in your racism. It’s 2023.

Blah blah blah white savior Karen virtue signalling. You speak for yourself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the responses here. If your kid is black do you let them use the n word? I teach my kids not to use any language that could be offensive to others.

You're missing the forest for the trees here. If you are non-black you don't ever need to interact with a stranger black child unless they are hitting your child or damaging your property. Then you can do what is necessary. But if they are just using bad language or damaging public property, do not approach and do not engage, and do not worry about what their parents let them do. Whatever values black people teach their children is their business.

When the kids taunt or bother the other kids, it is no longer a private matter. It seems the values are a little weak if that lesson wasn't taught.

Sticks and stones can break your bones. I just cannot believe that in 2023 anyone in their right mind would say something to a total stranger about watching their language in public, let alone a child that ain't yours, let alone a black one. For all you know his older brother could have been around the corner with a gun. Put your safety and well-being above your need to demonstrate moral superiority and wait until you are alone with your child to have a talk about certain things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of things wrong in this situation and it all starts with OP. An 8 year old should still be within your sight and is too young to go off somewhere. There was no need to go back to the park. What did you expect the outcome to be, he would say he is sorry? Praise your son, apologize for allowing him to be in that situation alone and let it be.

+1000

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the responses here. If your kid is black do you let them use the n word? I teach my kids not to use any language that could be offensive to others.

You're missing the forest for the trees here. If you are non-black you don't ever need to interact with a stranger black child unless they are hitting your child or damaging your property. Then you can do what is necessary. But if they are just using bad language or damaging public property, do not approach and do not engage, and do not worry about what their parents let them do. Whatever values black people teach their children is their business.

Take out the word black and then what you said is actually true. It’s not anyone’s job to go around policing the language of other people’s kids in public. It looks particularly stupid in this particular context, but it’s true broadly as well. If some older white kid came up to OP’s kid saying something offensive, OP’s response should be: sorry that happened to you Timmy. You did the right thing to come home. Next time I’ll go with you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the responses here. If your kid is black do you let them use the n word? I teach my kids not to use any language that could be offensive to others.

You're missing the forest for the trees here. If you are non-black you don't ever need to interact with a stranger black child unless they are hitting your child or damaging your property. Then you can do what is necessary. But if they are just using bad language or damaging public property, do not approach and do not engage, and do not worry about what their parents let them do. Whatever values black people teach their children is their business.

When the kids taunt or bother the other kids, it is no longer a private matter. It seems the values are a little weak if that lesson wasn't taught.

Sticks and stones can break your bones. I just cannot believe that in 2023 anyone in their right mind would say something to a total stranger about watching their language in public, let alone a child that ain't yours, let alone a black one. For all you know his older brother could have been around the corner with a gun. Put your safety and well-being above your need to demonstrate moral superiority and wait until you are alone with your child to have a talk about certain things.

Black kids aren't untouchable. And why are you assuming the older black brother has a gun?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the responses here. If your kid is black do you let them use the n word? I teach my kids not to use any language that could be offensive to others.

You're missing the forest for the trees here. If you are non-black you don't ever need to interact with a stranger black child unless they are hitting your child or damaging your property. Then you can do what is necessary. But if they are just using bad language or damaging public property, do not approach and do not engage, and do not worry about what their parents let them do. Whatever values black people teach their children is their business.

When the kids taunt or bother the other kids, it is no longer a private matter. It seems the values are a little weak if that lesson wasn't taught.

Sticks and stones can break your bones. I just cannot believe that in 2023 anyone in their right mind would say something to a total stranger about watching their language in public, let alone a child that ain't yours, let alone a black one. For all you know his older brother could have been around the corner with a gun. Put your safety and well-being above your need to demonstrate moral superiority and wait until you are alone with your child to have a talk about certain things.

Black kids aren't untouchable. And why are you assuming the older black brother has a gun?

This thread is full of rich people who have never lived outside a gated community and have no street smarts whatsoever. See you in the news I guess.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the responses here. If your kid is black do you let them use the n word? I teach my kids not to use any language that could be offensive to others.

You're missing the forest for the trees here. If you are non-black you don't ever need to interact with a stranger black child unless they are hitting your child or damaging your property. Then you can do what is necessary. But if they are just using bad language or damaging public property, do not approach and do not engage, and do not worry about what their parents let them do. Whatever values black people teach their children is their business.

When the kids taunt or bother the other kids, it is no longer a private matter. It seems the values are a little weak if that lesson wasn't taught.

Sticks and stones can break your bones. I just cannot believe that in 2023 anyone in their right mind would say something to a total stranger about watching their language in public, let alone a child that ain't yours, let alone a black one. For all you know his older brother could have been around the corner with a gun. Put your safety and well-being above your need to demonstrate moral superiority and wait until you are alone with your child to have a talk about certain things.

Black kids aren't untouchable. And why are you assuming the older black brother has a gun?

This thread is full of rich people who have never lived outside a gated community and have no street smarts whatsoever. See you in the news I guess.

^Spoken like a racist stuck in a tiny bubble.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the responses here. If your kid is black do you let them use the n word? I teach my kids not to use any language that could be offensive to others.

You're missing the forest for the trees here. If you are non-black you don't ever need to interact with a stranger black child unless they are hitting your child or damaging your property. Then you can do what is necessary. But if they are just using bad language or damaging public property, do not approach and do not engage, and do not worry about what their parents let them do. Whatever values black people teach their children is their business.

When the kids taunt or bother the other kids, it is no longer a private matter. It seems the values are a little weak if that lesson wasn't taught.

Sticks and stones can break your bones. I just cannot believe that in 2023 anyone in their right mind would say something to a total stranger about watching their language in public, let alone a child that ain't yours, let alone a black one. For all you know his older brother could have been around the corner with a gun. Put your safety and well-being above your need to demonstrate moral superiority and wait until you are alone with your child to have a talk about certain things.

Black kids aren't untouchable. And why are you assuming the older black brother has a gun?

This thread is full of rich people who have never lived outside a gated community and have no street smarts whatsoever. See you in the news I guess.

What's the lesson you're trying to teach exactly?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:PP again. I find the notion that someone can use the n word because they are black to be totally ridiculous.

You are not black, then right? Please google Ta-Nahesi Coates or something to get some more nuance around how and why many black Americans choose to use that word and white people just need to deal with it. You can’t have everything. Sorry. When you’ve fully divested from white supremacy, dismantled structural racism in this country, addressed reparations, then let’s negotiate. If y’all do that, I bet all black folks would give up the word 100%.

Here is the explanation

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=QO15S3WC9pg

“When you’re white in this country, you’re taught that everything belongs to you.”

I’m sorry, but Mr. Coates is pathetically delusional. If you believe him, you are to. The racism is grossly offensive here.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the responses here. If your kid is black do you let them use the n word? I teach my kids not to use any language that could be offensive to others.

You're missing the forest for the trees here. If you are non-black you don't ever need to interact with a stranger black child unless they are hitting your child or damaging your property. Then you can do what is necessary. But if they are just using bad language or damaging public property, do not approach and do not engage, and do not worry about what their parents let them do. Whatever values black people teach their children is their business.

When the kids taunt or bother the other kids, it is no longer a private matter. It seems the values are a little weak if that lesson wasn't taught.

Sticks and stones can break your bones. I just cannot believe that in 2023 anyone in their right mind would say something to a total stranger about watching their language in public, let alone a child that ain't yours, let alone a black one. For all you know his older brother could have been around the corner with a gun. Put your safety and well-being above your need to demonstrate moral superiority and wait until you are alone with your child to have a talk about certain things.

Wtf talk about racist stereotyping!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the responses here. If your kid is black do you let them use the n word? I teach my kids not to use any language that could be offensive to others.

You're missing the forest for the trees here. If you are non-black you don't ever need to interact with a stranger black child unless they are hitting your child or damaging your property. Then you can do what is necessary. But if they are just using bad language or damaging public property, do not approach and do not engage, and do not worry about what their parents let them do. Whatever values black people teach their children is their business.

When the kids taunt or bother the other kids, it is no longer a private matter. It seems the values are a little weak if that lesson wasn't taught.

Sticks and stones can break your bones. I just cannot believe that in 2023 anyone in their right mind would say something to a total stranger about watching their language in public, let alone a child that ain't yours, let alone a black one. For all you know his older brother could have been around the corner with a gun. Put your safety and well-being above your need to demonstrate moral superiority and wait until you are alone with your child to have a talk about certain things.

Wtf talk about racist stereotyping!

Yup, it’s a racist on this thread.