Kid said the n word to my kid

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here -

Race is irrelevant. It’s not cool for anyone to be saying inappropriate things at an elementary school playground where young kids are playing. My child has a right to be there and feel safe. I didn’t “lecture” anyone, I said “hey kid, please watch your language when there are little kids around”. I spoke later with another parent who had been there slightly earlier and she told me the kid had said something similar in a group of older kids who were all playing basketball, and she said she gave him a “look” and told him not to use that word. Obviously some kids need reminders of how to behave in public.

LOL, OK we got it lady.

In this situation race doesn’t matter. No, my kid and I are not white.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here -

Race is irrelevant. It’s not cool for anyone to be saying inappropriate things at an elementary school playground where young kids are playing. My child has a right to be there and feel safe. I didn’t “lecture” anyone, I said “hey kid, please watch your language when there are little kids around”. I spoke later with another parent who had been there slightly earlier and she told me the kid had said something similar in a group of older kids who were all playing basketball, and she said she gave him a “look” and told him not to use that word. Obviously some kids need reminders of how to behave in public.

LOL, OK we got it lady.

In this situation race doesn’t matter. No, my kid and I are not white.

So what. Clearly you’re not black.

Does your mind not recoil even a little bit at the notion of a middle aged woman walking onto a basketball court to reprimand a 14 year old black kid she doesn’t know about saying the N word? Little self awareness would do you some good. Read the room a little bit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here -

Race is irrelevant. It’s not cool for anyone to be saying inappropriate things at an elementary school playground where young kids are playing. My child has a right to be there and feel safe. I didn’t “lecture” anyone, I said “hey kid, please watch your language when there are little kids around”. I spoke later with another parent who had been there slightly earlier and she told me the kid had said something similar in a group of older kids who were all playing basketball, and she said she gave him a “look” and told him not to use that word. Obviously some kids need reminders of how to behave in public.

Okay. So you posted here that an older kid asked your kid if he ever said the N word and you confronted him and were told to F off. You don’t know the kid or his parents or where he lives. All of us heard you tell the story now.

Feel better?

Your kid is going to hear a lot worse when he gets to middle school. You can’t post it all on Nextdoor.

[Anonymous]

I’m trying to figure out how an 8 year old already knew the n word.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Thing is the hip-hop crowd has desensitized their followers to the N word. So now most people who use it today, see NOTHING wrong with it.

We can’t have it both ways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Great time to teach your kid that if they're somewhere and something makes them uncomfortable, they should leave, and, they can only control themselves, not others. Your son's job is to NOT say the n-word or curse at adults. He can't control what other kids say.

Yeah, he did the right thing and I have spoken with him about that. But maybe those with teens can also remind their kids to watch their language especially around younger kids. And not to swear at adults.

They aren’t going to do either of those things.

You control your kid only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here -

Race is irrelevant. It’s not cool for anyone to be saying inappropriate things at an elementary school playground where young kids are playing. My child has a right to be there and feel safe. I didn’t “lecture” anyone, I said “hey kid, please watch your language when there are little kids around”. I spoke later with another parent who had been there slightly earlier and she told me the kid had said something similar in a group of older kids who were all playing basketball, and she said she gave him a “look” and told him not to use that word. Obviously some kids need reminders of how to behave in public.

Your kid doesn’t have a “right” not to hear swearing.

Your kid is young. Go with them. But you don’t get to police anyone else’s language except yours and your kid’s.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here -

Race is irrelevant. It’s not cool for anyone to be saying inappropriate things at an elementary school playground where young kids are playing. My child has a right to be there and feel safe. I didn’t “lecture” anyone, I said “hey kid, please watch your language when there are little kids around”. I spoke later with another parent who had been there slightly earlier and she told me the kid had said something similar in a group of older kids who were all playing basketball, and she said she gave him a “look” and told him not to use that word. Obviously some kids need reminders of how to behave in public.

No, it’s not. And thanks for confirming that the kid is black.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here -

Race is irrelevant. It’s not cool for anyone to be saying inappropriate things at an elementary school playground where young kids are playing. My child has a right to be there and feel safe. I didn’t “lecture” anyone, I said “hey kid, please watch your language when there are little kids around”. I spoke later with another parent who had been there slightly earlier and she told me the kid had said something similar in a group of older kids who were all playing basketball, and she said she gave him a “look” and told him not to use that word. Obviously some kids need reminders of how to behave in public.

It.
Is.
Not.
Your.
Place.
Spoiled.
Entitled.
White.
Woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What race are you/son and what race is the 8th grader?

Bingo. This is key. I suspect OP and her kid are white, and the 8th grader is black.

White ladies should under no circumstances be discussing the N word and it’s appropriateness or lack thereof with black kids they don’t know.

Just stay away from random black kids if you are not black. Simple as!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here -

Race is irrelevant. It’s not cool for anyone to be saying inappropriate things at an elementary school playground where young kids are playing. My child has a right to be there and feel safe. I didn’t “lecture” anyone, I said “hey kid, please watch your language when there are little kids around”. I spoke later with another parent who had been there slightly earlier and she told me the kid had said something similar in a group of older kids who were all playing basketball, and she said she gave him a “look” and told him not to use that word. Obviously some kids need reminders of how to behave in public.

Your kid doesn’t have a “right” not to hear swearing.

Your kid is young. Go with them. But you don’t get to police anyone else’s language except yours and your kid’s.

This. People out and about in the world swear and call each other racial slurs and other slurs. Teach your child at home how to talk properly and tell them to ignore what they hear when they are out and about. I used to live in a black neighborhood and heard kids call each other all sorts of horrible names. Was not and is not my problem. I never approached them, never acknowledged them, and never got cussed at. Black children really really do not want to interact with non-black people, and busybodies need to learn this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What race are you/son and what race is the 8th grader?

Bingo. This is key. I suspect OP and her kid are white, and the 8th grader is black.

White ladies should under no circumstances be discussing the N word and it’s appropriateness or lack thereof with black kids they don’t know.

Just stay away from random black kids if you are not black. Simple as!

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here -

Race is irrelevant. It’s not cool for anyone to be saying inappropriate things at an elementary school playground where young kids are playing. My child has a right to be there and feel safe. I didn’t “lecture” anyone, I said “hey kid, please watch your language when there are little kids around”. I spoke later with another parent who had been there slightly earlier and she told me the kid had said something similar in a group of older kids who were all playing basketball, and she said she gave him a “look” and told him not to use that word. Obviously some kids need reminders of how to behave in public.

I don’t think you understand what “public” means. If school is not in session, and playground access is open to the community, then everyone in the community gets to use it in age-appropriate ways. It’s really not up to everyone in the community to adhere to the standards of whatever you and your child decide enable him to feel “safe” — as long as the rules of using the area are not being broken. How nice that your kid enjoys the freedom of being able to go to the park on his own. If this involves interacting with much older kids and feeling less than safe, perhaps he’s not ready for this particular challenge at this particular park.

[Anonymous]

No, just talk to your kid. Unless you know that kids mother who you can tell.

[Anonymous]

If both kids are white - I’d confront the kid and tell him not to use the n word. Educate your own son as well.

If the 8th grader is white and you are a minority - I’d not only confront the kid but also get an apology from the kid. I’d be pretty upset.

If you son is white and 8th grader is Black - I wouldn’t say anything to 8th grader, give your son some context

If both kids are Black - highly doubt they are, but if they are, you and your husband should have one of “the talks” with DS.