Kid said the n word to my kid

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Anonymous wrote:My 8yo likes to play basketball at the playground across the street from our house. Recently we’ve started letting him go on his own and he enjoys it. Today he came running home after maybe 20 mins and said that another kid said “hey have you ever said the n word” (but actually saying the word). DS knows that is a word he doesn’t say and he was upset by it. I took him back over to the park and told the kid (probably @8th grade) to please remember to watch his language around the littler kids. The kid blank stared at me and said he wasn’t talking to my kid, I reiterated that he should watch his language around younger kids and then he told me to F off.

Not much more I can do wrt the other kid, and I can return to taking my kid to the park but the independence was good for him. Would you do anything else?

Uh I mean I probably wouldnt have him go alone to the park anymore, especially now that he is the kid with the crazy mom

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Anonymous wrote:I can't stand it when people act like calling someone the n-word is the same thing as talking about the n-word theoretically. Like, don't say n-word or do you ever say n-word.

It is purposefully obtuse.

Also, I think that 8 years old is too young to go to a park by yourself.

Personally, I think no one should say the n word. I say no one is allowed to say the n word. But since we as a society have decided that some people can say it, it's going to be a curse word that is heard in adult spaces. Like a basketball court.

First, this was a basketball court at a playground- meant for kids. Second, the younger kid didn’t just overhear a bad word, the older called him over and was taunting him asking him if he knew what it meant/ever heard it, etc. Fair to assume he wanted to put the younger kid in a situation that would result in the older kid calling him a racist or something along that vein. Pretty sure the older kid didn’t just want to have a philosophical conversation about the n-word with an 8 yr old. So this goes above “hearing bad language” on the playground to me. I still wouldn’t have went back and engaged with older kid, but this is a lot more serious than just hearing a bad word. OP teach your child to not engage at all with people out looking for trouble. Don’t even answer them, just walk away

Nope. The PLAYGROUND is for kids. The basketball court is for all ages, including teens and adults. Don’t like other people’s language while they use it? Don’t go.

It isn’t the language, it is race baiting an 8 yr old that is the problem

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I probably wouldn’t let my 8 year old play on the basketball court unsupervised because he would be in the way and could get hurt, that’s really a teen/adult area. And teens are gonna mess with young kids. He’s definitely going to hear that word and other bad words there, and for all your talk of fostering independence you haven’t taught him how to deal with those situations. My six year old and I talk a lot about the crazy things teens do and why they do them, and he knows not to treat them as role models or trust them automatically.

Tell him teens who tease young kids should be ignored, and people use words all the time that it’s not okay to use but he’s in charge of his moth and his body and he knows better. I think your expectations for teen behavior around your kid are unreasonable and unfair to the teens.

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Man, some of you guys forget the case of the (white) kid who used the term in slang like some of you think is ok. Another kid who was mad with them sent the video of this to the college that they just got accepted into. The college pulled their acceptance because of this girl using the term. It was all over the news, local and WP, and has certainly gotten worse.

To the OP, not shocked. I would not let the 8 year old roam alone to the basketball court. If they get a group of friends that makes it a little different. Good luck.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m shocked by the responses here. If your kid is black do you let them use the n word? I teach my kids not to use any language that could be offensive to others.

You're missing the forest for the trees here. If you are non-black you don't ever need to interact with a stranger black child unless they are hitting your child or damaging your property. Then you can do what is necessary. But if they are just using bad language or damaging public property, do not approach and do not engage, and do not worry about what their parents let them do. Whatever values black people teach their children is their business.

You may express your opinion. But please know, that’s all it is. Many of us just aren’t interested in engaging in your racism. It’s 2023.

There’s no such thing as anti-white “racism.” Grow up.

Yes there is. Seek help.

Exactly. Any race is capable of hatred, even brown people.

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Anonymous wrote:PP again. I find the notion that someone can use the n word because they are black to be totally ridiculous.

You are not black, then right? Please google Ta-Nahesi Coates or something to get some more nuance around how and why many black Americans choose to use that word and white people just need to deal with it. You can’t have everything. Sorry. When you’ve fully divested from white supremacy, dismantled structural racism in this country, addressed reparations, then let’s negotiate. If y’all do that, I bet all black folks would give up the word 100%.

Here is the explanation

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=QO15S3WC9pg

He sounds like a racist.