What's Behind the Rise of Lonely, Single Men

[Anonymous]

As a father, I signed my daughter up for GOTR and ran the 5ks with here several times.

My son was not allowed to join GOTR. There was not (and still isn’t) a running club for boys.

I signed him up for cub scouts and later Boy Scouts. But there is no longer a Boy Scouts. It doesn’t exist. It has been replaced with the co-educational group “Scouts-BSA” for girls and boys.

Meanwhile, my daughter’s Girl Scout troop is exclusively girls-only.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a father, I signed my daughter up for GOTR and ran the 5ks with here several times.

My son was not allowed to join GOTR. There was not (and still isn’t) a running club for boys.

I signed him up for cub scouts and later Boy Scouts. But there is no longer a Boy Scouts. It doesn’t exist. It has been replaced with the co-educational group “Scouts-BSA” for girls and boys.

Meanwhile, my daughter’s Girl Scout troop is exclusively girls-only.

I think someone posted once that there is somewhat of an equivalent for boys for GOTR (my daughter was also in it).

But, ITA about the Boy Scouts. They should've kept it just boys. My kids were in Girls and Boys scouts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many women are realizing that being single is much better than putting up with a disrespectful, selfish, entitled man. Sure, having a good, empathetic, helpful husband is great for women. But studies have shown that an unhappy marriage has a horrible effect on women's health in particular, because women end up taking on most of the household burdens. A lot of women are realizing that the juice simply isn't worth the squeeze! Especially when you make your own money!

They take up 100% of the household burdens if they are alone. That doesn’t make any sense.

I've been both married and a single mom. Being a single mom is WAY easier because you don't have to also care for an adult male, clean up his messes, clean his stuff, cook for him, etc. I also moved to a much smaller place, so less cleaning and more money.

There's just fewer chores overall. And you're not managing someone - xH would "handle dinner", but I had to micromanage and make sure he found a recipe, got the groceries, started cooking on time, etc or else he would just shrug his shoulders and say "we don't have anything to cook, oh well!"

PP. A story to illustrate my point: xH wanted to do a Whole30 to lose weight. Great. I planned all the dinners, plus my own breakfasts and lunches, wrote the grocery list, we went grocery shopping together to get everything we needed.

Day 1, he broke the Whole30 by getting takeout at lunch. When I asked why, he said he didn't have anything to take to work for lunch. When I asked why he didn't buy anything when we were at the grocery store together, he didn't really have an answer other than he thought I would do it.

This is the problem. He didn't take any responsibility, just came up with an idea and then expected me to execute it. So it was an additional burden on me, because I had to research recipes, come up with a meal plan for myself AND him, buy groceries for myself AND him, pack his lunch, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a father, I signed my daughter up for GOTR and ran the 5ks with here several times.

My son was not allowed to join GOTR. There was not (and still isn’t) a running club for boys.

I signed him up for cub scouts and later Boy Scouts. But there is no longer a Boy Scouts. It doesn’t exist. It has been replaced with the co-educational group “Scouts-BSA” for girls and boys.

Meanwhile, my daughter’s Girl Scout troop is exclusively girls-only.

Yes there is, it's called Let Me Run. But don't let reality get in the way of your narrative.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a father, I signed my daughter up for GOTR and ran the 5ks with here several times.

My son was not allowed to join GOTR. There was not (and still isn’t) a running club for boys.

I signed him up for cub scouts and later Boy Scouts. But there is no longer a Boy Scouts. It doesn’t exist. It has been replaced with the co-educational group “Scouts-BSA” for girls and boys.

Meanwhile, my daughter’s Girl Scout troop is exclusively girls-only.

I think someone posted once that there is somewhat of an equivalent for boys for GOTR (my daughter was also in it).

But, ITA about the Boy Scouts. They should've kept it just boys. My kids were in Girls and Boys scouts.

There are several. Our GOTR program is parent run, maybe PP should have volunteered to run one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a father, I signed my daughter up for GOTR and ran the 5ks with here several times.

My son was not allowed to join GOTR. There was not (and still isn’t) a running club for boys.

I signed him up for cub scouts and later Boy Scouts. But there is no longer a Boy Scouts. It doesn’t exist. It has been replaced with the co-educational group “Scouts-BSA” for girls and boys.

Meanwhile, my daughter’s Girl Scout troop is exclusively girls-only.

So start one.

There are things for girls because women recognize the need for them and put it together. Men just sit around complaining that clubs for them don't exist.

Which is ultimately the issue - women take action. Men sit around complaining about why women aren't taking action on their behalf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Many women are realizing that being single is much better than putting up with a disrespectful, selfish, entitled man. Sure, having a good, empathetic, helpful husband is great for women. But studies have shown that an unhappy marriage has a horrible effect on women's health in particular, because women end up taking on most of the household burdens. A lot of women are realizing that the juice simply isn't worth the squeeze! Especially when you make your own money!

They take up 100% of the household burdens if they are alone. That doesn’t make any sense.

I've been both married and a single mom. Being a single mom is WAY easier because you don't have to also care for an adult male, clean up his messes, clean his stuff, cook for him, etc. I also moved to a much smaller place, so less cleaning and more money.

There's just fewer chores overall. And you're not managing someone - xH would "handle dinner", but I had to micromanage and make sure he found a recipe, got the groceries, started cooking on time, etc or else he would just shrug his shoulders and say "we don't have anything to cook, oh well!"

PP. A story to illustrate my point: xH wanted to do a Whole30 to lose weight. Great. I planned all the dinners, plus my own breakfasts and lunches, wrote the grocery list, we went grocery shopping together to get everything we needed.

Day 1, he broke the Whole30 by getting takeout at lunch. When I asked why, he said he didn't have anything to take to work for lunch. When I asked why he didn't buy anything when we were at the grocery store together, he didn't really have an answer other than he thought I would do it.

This is the problem. He didn't take any responsibility, just came up with an idea and then expected me to execute it. So it was an additional burden on me, because I had to research recipes, come up with a meal plan for myself AND him, buy groceries for myself AND him, pack his lunch, etc.

Oh my gosh. And it's so unattractive. They literally turn themselves into children, then act surprised when women dont want to have sex with them. Women dont want to have sex with kids! And when you act like a child that's what it feels like! It's gross!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men exploited their power over women for centuries and now you see a backlash. Today's men aren't to blame for it, but unfortunately that's just how it goes. No one wants to deal with their bullshit anymore. I was a landlord for a while and only rented to women. I try to work with women and I basically only deal with my DH and my brother as far as straight men go. I am just at a point in my life where I don't have to listen to their yammering anymore in general so I limit my contact to good ones who I trust. Sorry not sorry.

I'm a landlord to a male tenant and I can't even get him to change out the lint trap and I had to cover up the bathtub because there is more hair than a woman would ever shed. I have to go down there daily to clean this stuff up. Won't do anything to help out beyond paying the rent. Has absolutely no skills that a man should have.

Well, it wasn't just because they are incompetent/entitled; more that I did't want to have to get my husband involved if they decided to get violent/difficult. I literally only rented to young professional women in late 20s. I furnished the house so they would want it which made it easy to get the right tenants. Never had a problem with any of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a father, I signed my daughter up for GOTR and ran the 5ks with here several times.

My son was not allowed to join GOTR. There was not (and still isn’t) a running club for boys.

I signed him up for cub scouts and later Boy Scouts. But there is no longer a Boy Scouts. It doesn’t exist. It has been replaced with the co-educational group “Scouts-BSA” for girls and boys.

Meanwhile, my daughter’s Girl Scout troop is exclusively girls-only.

Yes there is, it's called Let Me Run. But don't let reality get in the way of your narrative.

LOL for centuries everything was only for boys. That's why we had to invent all the girls-only stuff. Then while you were asleep at the wheel hoping the world would still cater to boys, the world changed. Sort of sucks for you but it was in the works for a long time and now we are just done catering to you all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a father, I signed my daughter up for GOTR and ran the 5ks with here several times.

My son was not allowed to join GOTR. There was not (and still isn’t) a running club for boys.

I signed him up for cub scouts and later Boy Scouts. But there is no longer a Boy Scouts. It doesn’t exist. It has been replaced with the co-educational group “Scouts-BSA” for girls and boys.

Meanwhile, my daughter’s Girl Scout troop is exclusively girls-only.

I think someone posted once that there is somewhat of an equivalent for boys for GOTR (my daughter was also in it).

But, ITA about the Boy Scouts. They should've kept it just boys. My kids were in Girls and Boys scouts.

So I'm in one of these and they did it because the current parents wanted to ease their driving to two different programs. So they have different troops but one overall meeting place. There are co-ed activities but speaking from the people saying that men need to learn to socialize I'd say this was a plus. There has been no detriment to the club other than the fact that it's sometimes hard to get a female parent volunteer so sometimes there are just boy-led activities. In reverse sometimes they can't get a male parent volunteer and then those are only female led activities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And now it all clicks of why men wanted women to stay subordinated for so long. Because when women have a choice we don't want them! 🤣

This is so true - there is no point in taking on a dud of a man that doesn't contribute financially and is just an uber driver for your kids. Easier to do it all on your own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a father, I signed my daughter up for GOTR and ran the 5ks with here several times.

My son was not allowed to join GOTR. There was not (and still isn’t) a running club for boys.

I signed him up for cub scouts and later Boy Scouts. But there is no longer a Boy Scouts. It doesn’t exist. It has been replaced with the co-educational group “Scouts-BSA” for girls and boys.

Meanwhile, my daughter’s Girl Scout troop is exclusively girls-only.

I think someone posted once that there is somewhat of an equivalent for boys for GOTR (my daughter was also in it).

But, ITA about the Boy Scouts. They should've kept it just boys. My kids were in Girls and Boys scouts.

Boy Scouts letting in girls is a desperate move brought on by bankruptcy and declining participation. Too many pedophilia scandals I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a father, I signed my daughter up for GOTR and ran the 5ks with here several times.

My son was not allowed to join GOTR. There was not (and still isn’t) a running club for boys.

I signed him up for cub scouts and later Boy Scouts. But there is no longer a Boy Scouts. It doesn’t exist. It has been replaced with the co-educational group “Scouts-BSA” for girls and boys.

Meanwhile, my daughter’s Girl Scout troop is exclusively girls-only.

I think someone posted once that there is somewhat of an equivalent for boys for GOTR (my daughter was also in it).

But, ITA about the Boy Scouts. They should've kept it just boys. My kids were in Girls and Boys scouts.

Boy Scouts letting in girls is a desperate move brought on by bankruptcy and declining participation. Too many pedophilia scandals I guess.

Fine but it's ended up a positive for both genders. At least in the DC area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As a father, I signed my daughter up for GOTR and ran the 5ks with here several times.

My son was not allowed to join GOTR. There was not (and still isn’t) a running club for boys.

I signed him up for cub scouts and later Boy Scouts. But there is no longer a Boy Scouts. It doesn’t exist. It has been replaced with the co-educational group “Scouts-BSA” for girls and boys.

Meanwhile, my daughter’s Girl Scout troop is exclusively girls-only.

I think someone posted once that there is somewhat of an equivalent for boys for GOTR (my daughter was also in it).

But, ITA about the Boy Scouts. They should've kept it just boys. My kids were in Girls and Boys scouts.

Boy Scouts letting in girls is a desperate move brought on by bankruptcy and declining participation. Too many pedophilia scandals I guess.

+1 BSA bankrupted itself protecting pedophiles, so obviously this is being interpreted as . . . girls' fault somehow and this guy thinks girls are robbing boys of boy-only spaces. This is the mindset. Encounter non-ideal scenario, blame women. If no women nearby, blame girls. Repeat.

[Anonymous]

A mom at a school my daughters went to when they were younger for a year after a move invited some speaker to come talk about boys and what all we needed to do for them in light of all the "new" challenges they are facing (um everything women have been dealing with since the dawn of time). It cost money to go and she was like really marketing it as something we ALL needed to be a part of.

It was basically a private school for little rich kids (so little rich white boys). I literally couldn't think of a cause I was less interested in spending time and money on. What an eyeroll.