What's Behind the Rise of Lonely, Single Men

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Anonymous wrote:Women will always think they’re superior to men. They want equality but they want none of the consequences. Notice how women don’t have to work as hard, many get by on their looks, they can physically abuse men and get away with it, they can make false reports about abuse or SA and nothing ever happens to them, they get awarded custody and alimony, they don’t get drafted into wars, they don’t do any of the jail time a man does for the same crime, etc.

A 15 year old boy got expelled and out on house arrest for two claims of SA against him by 5 girls. In the end, they admitted they lied and made it up because they “ didn’t like him”. No school suspension, no jail time, lawsuit was dropped, etc. Many women make false claims like this but they are never charged. You can ruin a mans career and reputation and get away with it.

Look at all the women teachers being charged with SA of make students. Many are only getting probation or 2-3 years in jail, when men get 20.

Women can’t handle equality and don’t want real equality. They want men to be inferior to them.

Only a handful of women get by on looks, and do you know why? Men. If men didn’t place women’s value solely on their appearance, no woman would be able to get by on looks.

I always worked twice as hard as the men in my field because I knew the double standards and that I would have to prove myself more competent. I could t just join the boys club like the guys could.

Default custody is 50/50 in every state. Every man I know who had less than 50%, did because he didn’t want more custody, and usually moved away from his kids for work. They just wanted to be weekend or Christmas break dads. The custody argument is invalid and tiresome.

Very few *men* are drafted. When was the last draft? The 60s? So 60 years ago. Certainly none of the young, single, lonely incels who complain have ever been drafted. And it’s always been men who want to keep women out of the military. When women were allowed in combat all the guys argued that it would destroy teams if women were present because they can’t bond the same way as men and would be a sexual distraction.

Female sexual predators should absolutely be given the same sentences. I don’t know anyone who disagrees with that.

For every boy who is falsely accused, there are dozens of females who are assaulted and never get justice. Every woman I know has been assaulted in some way, and hardly any of those men were held accountable.

All the things men complain about, they brought on themselves. Don’t want women to get by on their looks? Great, stop making looks your top priority. Want women in war? Great, allow women in combat, special forces, and in higher ranks. Want 50/50 custody? No problem, move back to where your kids are and get them 50% of the time.

So it’s basically okay women get away with this behavior because men have done the same or more? You’re crazy.

Get away with what behavior?

If a man gives a woman a promotion or she receives more male attention because of her looks, what exactly is she supposed to do? Turn it down? Date men she’s not into? Wear a hijab?

Are women supposed to demand they get drafted into wars most don’t even support in the first place? Men are the ones who start those wars. Most women want nothing to do with it.

I’m talking about abuse, SA, and false claims of abuse and SA.

Is sexual assault committed by women an issue that you’re passionate about that or do you only bring it up when people talk about men committing sexual assault?

Passionate because I know men who were abused sexually and physically by women and nothing was ever done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our world would crash if we didn’t have men. That’s the truth women like to ignore.

Agreed, but it also crashes when men get out of hand. See Russia right now. Many other examples. Women help manage men's passions.

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Anonymous wrote:Our world would crash if we didn’t have men. That’s the truth women like to ignore.

To fertilize eggs or like to do stuff? We don't need them to go away; we just don't want to interact with them if it's the latter. I get the fertility issue.

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Anonymous wrote:The fact is women can do all these things, be lazy/out-of-shape/heavy/uneducated/dead-end-job/gross homes and still find a mate.

Not arguing that men with these traits should be excused or given a pass, but these comments come from some imaginary world where women descend on angel wings to uplift men.

Except women arent as lazy as men and that's why theyre blowing men out of the water in college and the workplace afterwards. Statistically speaking, it's not even up for debate that women do the vast majority of the household labor. So find another cope to explain things.

Yes but many women are getting degrees in fields that are utterly useless. They don’t work as many hours or make as much money as man because of it. Men work far more hours and harder than most women.

I’m not talking about doctors and lawyers. When has a woman ever become a plumber, electrician, blue collar worker doing dangerous jobs everyday, etc. I don’t see women lining up for the coal mines or to work on bridges and skyscrapers. Men work harder and do way dirtier jobs than women ever will.

LOL. Okay, dude.

I worked a blue collar job at a farm doing manual labor in my 20s.

I take my car to a shop that is owned by a woman and all the mechanics are women.

My nanny is in school to be a mechanic.

The vast majority of men DON’T work those types of jobs. How many men do you know who worked in COALMINES??

The reason men work longer hours is because they are less likely to participate in childcare, and someone has to pick up the kids by 6pm. My H literally refuses to adjust his work hours around our kids, he just shrugs his shoulders and says “my hours are my hours! I can’t help it!” So I had to take a job working fewer hours that I don’t like so I can be finished by 430, while he gets to work his dream job with zero flexibility.

Oh, and I’ve seen him work “hard” when he WFH. He sleeps in until 10, drinks coffee until noon, spends an hour writing a report, then putters around the house. Meanwhile I’m up at 5am every day so I can get in a full 8 hours around taking the kids to school and picking them up.

The only silver lining is I outearn him by a lot, and keep my finances separate from him, so I get to enjoy that extra money.

There 62,345 coal miners in the U.S. and 96.2% are men.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our world would crash if we didn’t have men. That’s the truth women like to ignore.

To fertilize eggs or like to do stuff? We don't need them to go away; we just don't want to interact with them if it's the latter. I get the fertility issue.

https://m.youtube.com/shorts/knq-Ld5pk7U


https://m.youtube.com/shorts/3XmDIQK13Es

You act so smug because you have everything because men have already built this world. Try going to a poor third world country and see how you get by without men to do the hard work and hard jobs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our world would crash if we didn’t have men. That’s the truth women like to ignore.

Agreed, but it also crashes when men get out of hand. See Russia right now. Many other examples. Women help manage men's passions.

An entire country going under because of some guy's mad brain due to Parkinson's and cancer.

Like the U.S. We have a president who can’t even string a coherent sentence together or remember where he is.

The people we elect are a representation of us. Before we had an abuser. I agree he and Trump are both weak in their own way but at least in the US we have more freedom and more representatives to stop behavior like Putin's. Putin can't even get the men in his country to fight for him.

There would be no war if Trump was in office. Too many countries were afraid because he had balls.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Our world would crash if we didn’t have men. That’s the truth women like to ignore.

To fertilize eggs or like to do stuff? We don't need them to go away; we just don't want to interact with them if it's the latter. I get the fertility issue.

https://m.youtube.com/shorts/knq-Ld5pk7U


https://m.youtube.com/shorts/3XmDIQK13Es

You act so smug because you have everything because men have already built this world. Try going to a poor third world country and see how you get by without men to do the hard work and hard jobs.

Oh no--they are great at that! So big and strong! I want them to keep up the hard work! Go, men! I just don't want to have to talk to them because they are simple-minded and want to be in charge (and it gets old pretending that they always are).

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Anonymous wrote:Like all DCUM posts, what started as thoughtful posts on pages 1-3 turned into man-haters and misogynists yelling at each other for the rest of the thread....

there is a massive rise in lonely, single people in the USA. Men and women. Massive numbers of women who want to be married with kids that aren't. That becomes a demographic problem which is a long-term issue. The problem with lonely single men becomes a violence problem which is a problem now.

It is a problem. But I have two boys and I actually blame women partly for not holding them to higher standards when raising them. Unfortunately, there are a lot of men that were not raised well by their mom or dad and are just living poor lives and then someone like Trump comes along and says hey it's another gender's fault you aren't well-liked and don't have a job or a good job rather than say China competing with them or their lazy behavior and so they all jump on the bandwagon.

They are your kids. Why didn’t you raise them better?

I meant the boys who grow up to be lonely single men. I meant boys in general and saying I have boys so I follow their friends and boys around the nation. There is a lot of push from both women and men not to gain skills or to manage behavior.

the man who shot up the school in MO said he did so because he had no family, no friends, no GF.

People in general need need a social circle, whether it's one person or several. And this applies to men and women, but women don't generally become violent because of their loneliness.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Like all DCUM posts, what started as thoughtful posts on pages 1-3 turned into man-haters and misogynists yelling at each other for the rest of the thread....

there is a massive rise in lonely, single people in the USA. Men and women. Massive numbers of women who want to be married with kids that aren't. That becomes a demographic problem which is a long-term issue. The problem with lonely single men becomes a violence problem which is a problem now.

It is a problem. But I have two boys and I actually blame women partly for not holding them to higher standards when raising them. Unfortunately, there are a lot of men that were not raised well by their mom or dad and are just living poor lives and then someone like Trump comes along and says hey it's another gender's fault you aren't well-liked and don't have a job or a good job rather than say China competing with them or their lazy behavior and so they all jump on the bandwagon.

They are your kids. Why didn’t you raise them better?

I meant the boys who grow up to be lonely single men. I meant boys in general and saying I have boys so I follow their friends and boys around the nation. There is a lot of push from both women and men not to gain skills or to manage behavior.

the man who shot up the school in MO said he did so because he had no family, no friends, no GF.

People in general need need a social circle, whether it's one person or several. And this applies to men and women, but women don't generally become violent because of their loneliness.

But then dont you think it would benefit men to have better groups they could belong to? Build up America or something? Learn some interpersonal skills and talk about other things beyond abusing and hating women and doing drugs and video games?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Like all DCUM posts, what started as thoughtful posts on pages 1-3 turned into man-haters and misogynists yelling at each other for the rest of the thread....

there is a massive rise in lonely, single people in the USA. Men and women. Massive numbers of women who want to be married with kids that aren't. That becomes a demographic problem which is a long-term issue. The problem with lonely single men becomes a violence problem which is a problem now.

It is a problem. But I have two boys and I actually blame women partly for not holding them to higher standards when raising them. Unfortunately, there are a lot of men that were not raised well by their mom or dad and are just living poor lives and then someone like Trump comes along and says hey it's another gender's fault you aren't well-liked and don't have a job or a good job rather than say China competing with them or their lazy behavior and so they all jump on the bandwagon.

They are your kids. Why didn’t you raise them better?

I meant the boys who grow up to be lonely single men. I meant boys in general and saying I have boys so I follow their friends and boys around the nation. There is a lot of push from both women and men not to gain skills or to manage behavior.

the man who shot up the school in MO said he did so because he had no family, no friends, no GF.

People in general need need a social circle, whether it's one person or several. And this applies to men and women, but women don't generally become violent because of their loneliness.

But then dont you think it would benefit men to have better groups they could belong to? Build up America or something? Learn some interpersonal skills and talk about other things beyond abusing and hating women and doing drugs and video games?

How about women do more than shopping and laying on their backs for a free meal?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like all DCUM posts, what started as thoughtful posts on pages 1-3 turned into man-haters and misogynists yelling at each other for the rest of the thread....

there is a massive rise in lonely, single people in the USA. Men and women. Massive numbers of women who want to be married with kids that aren't. That becomes a demographic problem which is a long-term issue. The problem with lonely single men becomes a violence problem which is a problem now.

It is a problem. But I have two boys and I actually blame women partly for not holding them to higher standards when raising them. Unfortunately, there are a lot of men that were not raised well by their mom or dad and are just living poor lives and then someone like Trump comes along and says hey it's another gender's fault you aren't well-liked and don't have a job or a good job rather than say China competing with them or their lazy behavior and so they all jump on the bandwagon.

They are your kids. Why didn’t you raise them better?

I meant the boys who grow up to be lonely single men. I meant boys in general and saying I have boys so I follow their friends and boys around the nation. There is a lot of push from both women and men not to gain skills or to manage behavior.

the man who shot up the school in MO said he did so because he had no family, no friends, no GF.

People in general need need a social circle, whether it's one person or several. And this applies to men and women, but women don't generally become violent because of their loneliness.

But then dont you think it would benefit men to have better groups they could belong to? Build up America or something? Learn some interpersonal skills and talk about other things beyond abusing and hating women and doing drugs and video games?

How about women do more than shopping and laying on their backs for a free meal?

Isnt the labor and the domestic force majority women now?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:The fact is women can do all these things, be lazy/out-of-shape/heavy/uneducated/dead-end-job/gross homes and still find a mate.

Not arguing that men with these traits should be excused or given a pass, but these comments come from some imaginary world where women descend on angel wings to uplift men.

Except women arent as lazy as men and that's why theyre blowing men out of the water in college and the workplace afterwards. Statistically speaking, it's not even up for debate that women do the vast majority of the household labor. So find another cope to explain things.

Yes but many women are getting degrees in fields that are utterly useless. They don’t work as many hours or make as much money as man because of it. Men work far more hours and harder than most women.

I’m not talking about doctors and lawyers. When has a woman ever become a plumber, electrician, blue collar worker doing dangerous jobs everyday, etc. I don’t see women lining up for the coal mines or to work on bridges and skyscrapers. Men work harder and do way dirtier jobs than women ever will.

LOL. Okay, dude.

I worked a blue collar job at a farm doing manual labor in my 20s.

I take my car to a shop that is owned by a woman and all the mechanics are women.

My nanny is in school to be a mechanic.

The vast majority of men DON’T work those types of jobs. How many men do you know who worked in COALMINES??

The reason men work longer hours is because they are less likely to participate in childcare, and someone has to pick up the kids by 6pm. My H literally refuses to adjust his work hours around our kids, he just shrugs his shoulders and says “my hours are my hours! I can’t help it!” So I had to take a job working fewer hours that I don’t like so I can be finished by 430, while he gets to work his dream job with zero flexibility.

Oh, and I’ve seen him work “hard” when he WFH. He sleeps in until 10, drinks coffee until noon, spends an hour writing a report, then putters around the house. Meanwhile I’m up at 5am every day so I can get in a full 8 hours around taking the kids to school and picking them up.

The only silver lining is I outearn him by a lot, and keep my finances separate from him, so I get to enjoy that extra money.

There 62,345 coal miners in the U.S. and 96.2% are men.

coal is going the way of the doo doo bird

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like all DCUM posts, what started as thoughtful posts on pages 1-3 turned into man-haters and misogynists yelling at each other for the rest of the thread....

there is a massive rise in lonely, single people in the USA. Men and women. Massive numbers of women who want to be married with kids that aren't. That becomes a demographic problem which is a long-term issue. The problem with lonely single men becomes a violence problem which is a problem now.

It is a problem. But I have two boys and I actually blame women partly for not holding them to higher standards when raising them. Unfortunately, there are a lot of men that were not raised well by their mom or dad and are just living poor lives and then someone like Trump comes along and says hey it's another gender's fault you aren't well-liked and don't have a job or a good job rather than say China competing with them or their lazy behavior and so they all jump on the bandwagon.

They are your kids. Why didn’t you raise them better?

I meant the boys who grow up to be lonely single men. I meant boys in general and saying I have boys so I follow their friends and boys around the nation. There is a lot of push from both women and men not to gain skills or to manage behavior.

the man who shot up the school in MO said he did so because he had no family, no friends, no GF.

People in general need need a social circle, whether it's one person or several. And this applies to men and women, but women don't generally become violent because of their loneliness.

But then dont you think it would benefit men to have better groups they could belong to? Build up America or something? Learn some interpersonal skills and talk about other things beyond abusing and hating women and doing drugs and video games?

oh absolutely. But, how do you force young men to do that? There are groups that you can join to go do things together like Habitat for Humanity; churches; hobbies, activities... but how do you force a guy to go join those groups?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact is women can do all these things, be lazy/out-of-shape/heavy/uneducated/dead-end-job/gross homes and still find a mate.

Not arguing that men with these traits should be excused or given a pass, but these comments come from some imaginary world where women descend on angel wings to uplift men.

Except women arent as lazy as men and that's why theyre blowing men out of the water in college and the workplace afterwards. Statistically speaking, it's not even up for debate that women do the vast majority of the household labor. So find another cope to explain things.

Yes but many women are getting degrees in fields that are utterly useless. They don’t work as many hours or make as much money as man because of it. Men work far more hours and harder than most women.

I’m not talking about doctors and lawyers. When has a woman ever become a plumber, electrician, blue collar worker doing dangerous jobs everyday, etc. I don’t see women lining up for the coal mines or to work on bridges and skyscrapers. Men work harder and do way dirtier jobs than women ever will.

LOL. Okay, dude.

I worked a blue collar job at a farm doing manual labor in my 20s.

I take my car to a shop that is owned by a woman and all the mechanics are women.

My nanny is in school to be a mechanic.

The vast majority of men DON’T work those types of jobs. How many men do you know who worked in COALMINES??

The reason men work longer hours is because they are less likely to participate in childcare, and someone has to pick up the kids by 6pm. My H literally refuses to adjust his work hours around our kids, he just shrugs his shoulders and says “my hours are my hours! I can’t help it!” So I had to take a job working fewer hours that I don’t like so I can be finished by 430, while he gets to work his dream job with zero flexibility.

Oh, and I’ve seen him work “hard” when he WFH. He sleeps in until 10, drinks coffee until noon, spends an hour writing a report, then putters around the house. Meanwhile I’m up at 5am every day so I can get in a full 8 hours around taking the kids to school and picking them up.

The only silver lining is I outearn him by a lot, and keep my finances separate from him, so I get to enjoy that extra money.

There 62,345 coal miners in the U.S. and 96.2% are men.

There are 6.5 million people in the metro DC area. I care about coal miners too. No saying they don't matter. But it's hardley a large majority of workers in the US of any sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Like all DCUM posts, what started as thoughtful posts on pages 1-3 turned into man-haters and misogynists yelling at each other for the rest of the thread....

there is a massive rise in lonely, single people in the USA. Men and women. Massive numbers of women who want to be married with kids that aren't. That becomes a demographic problem which is a long-term issue. The problem with lonely single men becomes a violence problem which is a problem now.

It is a problem. But I have two boys and I actually blame women partly for not holding them to higher standards when raising them. Unfortunately, there are a lot of men that were not raised well by their mom or dad and are just living poor lives and then someone like Trump comes along and says hey it's another gender's fault you aren't well-liked and don't have a job or a good job rather than say China competing with them or their lazy behavior and so they all jump on the bandwagon.

They are your kids. Why didn’t you raise them better?

I meant the boys who grow up to be lonely single men. I meant boys in general and saying I have boys so I follow their friends and boys around the nation. There is a lot of push from both women and men not to gain skills or to manage behavior.

the man who shot up the school in MO said he did so because he had no family, no friends, no GF.

People in general need need a social circle, whether it's one person or several. And this applies to men and women, but women don't generally become violent because of their loneliness.

But then dont you think it would benefit men to have better groups they could belong to? Build up America or something? Learn some interpersonal skills and talk about other things beyond abusing and hating women and doing drugs and video games?

How about women do more than shopping and laying on their backs for a free meal?

how about men stop blaming women for all their problems?

-signed a woman who hates shopping