WaPo: Virginia will block schools from accommodating transgender students

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a moderate Democrat who supports this. Those of you who are up in arms about this policy are either blind at what is going on in our middle and high schools with an overwhelming number of kids claiming to be trans or non-binary or are brainwashed by the far left. These issues are pushing people to vote for people like Youngkin. Rather than call us transphobes, why not listen to our concerns? The left has no idea what’s going to hit them with a red wave if they go on like this.

Yeah and who cares? If 9th graders want to go by a different name and wear shapeless sweatshirts, what difference does it make? It’s either a phase, in which case humor them and get on with our lives, or it’s not a phase, in which case it’s important to take it seriously.

I want to know if my 13 year old gets a tattoo or has sex or takes drugs. I do not want the school protecting my daughter from me by hiding any references to this information.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is wonderful news!

NO IS NOT. IT COST $0 TO RESPECT EVERY STUDENT!!!
CANT WAIT FOR THE PROTEST

That's right. Thank you for caring about respecting my two daughters, who do not want to have to deal with males in their restrooms and locker rooms, and on their sports teams.

I just want to know if my daughter is telling everyone else she's a son except me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't agree with all these policies, but the notion that telling parents that their child is experiencing a gender identity crisis and wants to adopt a new gender identity is cruelly "outing the child" can also be interpreted as "not allowing the school to make major life decisions affecting a minor without parental knowledge." Which is a bad thing... If my boy decides to be a girl at school (or vice versa), and the school wants to go along with it, as a parent I not only *should* know about it before the school "transitions" my kid, but I should *have the right to know about it.* The only exception I can see is if the school has a genuine reason to believe that revealing this information would put the child in danger, and by danger I don't mean "parent will be resistant to the gender change" but abuse and the like.

This. I have a right to know what’s going on at school. That’s all the legislation says, fundamentally.

You really think schools have the resources to update all parents on each student’s personal life? Some large public schools are so crowded they can’t possibly keep track of each child’s sexuality/gender identity. How do you suggest the info would be tracked and reported? Why can’t you figure out yourself what’s going on in your own child’s life?

Our high school is the size of a small college, with over 4,000 enrolled. No way can this be prioritized over everything else teachers and admin are managing already on a daily basis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a moderate Democrat who supports this. Those of you who are up in arms about this policy are either blind at what is going on in our middle and high schools with an overwhelming number of kids claiming to be trans or non-binary or are brainwashed by the far left. These issues are pushing people to vote for people like Youngkin. Rather than call us transphobes, why not listen to our concerns? The left has no idea what’s going to hit them with a red wave if they go on like this.

Yeah and who cares? If 9th graders want to go by a different name and wear shapeless sweatshirts, what difference does it make? It’s either a phase, in which case humor them and get on with our lives, or it’s not a phase, in which case it’s important to take it seriously.

I want to know if my 13 year old gets a tattoo or has sex or takes drugs. I do not want the school protecting my daughter from me by hiding any references to this information.

You think your child’s school is keeping track of who has sex or gets a tattoo? You have no clue!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't agree with all these policies, but the notion that telling parents that their child is experiencing a gender identity crisis and wants to adopt a new gender identity is cruelly "outing the child" can also be interpreted as "not allowing the school to make major life decisions affecting a minor without parental knowledge." Which is a bad thing... If my boy decides to be a girl at school (or vice versa), and the school wants to go along with it, as a parent I not only *should* know about it before the school "transitions" my kid, but I should *have the right to know about it.* The only exception I can see is if the school has a genuine reason to believe that revealing this information would put the child in danger, and by danger I don't mean "parent will be resistant to the gender change" but abuse and the like.

This. I have a right to know what’s going on at school. That’s all the legislation says, fundamentally.

You really think schools have the resources to update all parents on each student’s personal life? Some large public schools are so crowded they can’t possibly keep track of each child’s sexuality/gender identity. How do you suggest the info would be tracked and reported? Why can’t you figure out yourself what’s going on in your own child’s life?

Our high school is the size of a small college, with over 4,000 enrolled. No way can this be prioritized over everything else teachers and admin are managing already on a daily basis.

Any paperwork involving a change with the child should include the parents. These are situations where the school is actively hiding information from a parent.

It's totally fine for my daughter to change her name. It's disturbing that this gets hidden. Parents don't even have a chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a moderate Democrat who supports this. Those of you who are up in arms about this policy are either blind at what is going on in our middle and high schools with an overwhelming number of kids claiming to be trans or non-binary or are brainwashed by the far left. These issues are pushing people to vote for people like Youngkin. Rather than call us transphobes, why not listen to our concerns? The left has no idea what’s going to hit them with a red wave if they go on like this.

Yeah and who cares? If 9th graders want to go by a different name and wear shapeless sweatshirts, what difference does it make? It’s either a phase, in which case humor them and get on with our lives, or it’s not a phase, in which case it’s important to take it seriously.

I want to know if my 13 year old gets a tattoo or has sex or takes drugs. I do not want the school protecting my daughter from me by hiding any references to this information.

You think your child’s school is keeping track of who has sex or gets a tattoo? You have no clue!

No, but let's say she's caught having sex in a bathroom, and gets suspended, and I ask why she is suspended, they shouldn't hide that information because it might embarrass her.
She's a teenager. She needs guidance

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't agree with all these policies, but the notion that telling parents that their child is experiencing a gender identity crisis and wants to adopt a new gender identity is cruelly "outing the child" can also be interpreted as "not allowing the school to make major life decisions affecting a minor without parental knowledge." Which is a bad thing... If my boy decides to be a girl at school (or vice versa), and the school wants to go along with it, as a parent I not only *should* know about it before the school "transitions" my kid, but I should *have the right to know about it.* The only exception I can see is if the school has a genuine reason to believe that revealing this information would put the child in danger, and by danger I don't mean "parent will be resistant to the gender change" but abuse and the like.

This. I have a right to know what’s going on at school. That’s all the legislation says, fundamentally.

You really think schools have the resources to update all parents on each student’s personal life? Some large public schools are so crowded they can’t possibly keep track of each child’s sexuality/gender identity. How do you suggest the info would be tracked and reported? Why can’t you figure out yourself what’s going on in your own child’s life?

Our high school is the size of a small college, with over 4,000 enrolled. No way can this be prioritized over everything else teachers and admin are managing already on a daily basis.

Any paperwork involving a change with the child should include the parents. These are situations where the school is actively hiding information from a parent.

It's totally fine for my daughter to change her name. It's disturbing that this gets hidden. Parents don't even have a chance.

You think schools have official forms for all nicknames used by students during the day? A lot of nicknames evolve naturally with time. It’s not as formal as many of you suspect. Again, no clue about day-to-day realities in a busy school environment. I use the name kids go by, focus on teaching and that’s that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a moderate Democrat who supports this. Those of you who are up in arms about this policy are either blind at what is going on in our middle and high schools with an overwhelming number of kids claiming to be trans or non-binary or are brainwashed by the far left. These issues are pushing people to vote for people like Youngkin. Rather than call us transphobes, why not listen to our concerns? The left has no idea what’s going to hit them with a red wave if they go on like this.

Yeah and who cares? If 9th graders want to go by a different name and wear shapeless sweatshirts, what difference does it make? It’s either a phase, in which case humor them and get on with our lives, or it’s not a phase, in which case it’s important to take it seriously.

I want to know if my 13 year old gets a tattoo or has sex or takes drugs. I do not want the school protecting my daughter from me by hiding any references to this information.

You think your child’s school is keeping track of who has sex or gets a tattoo? You have no clue!

No, but let's say she's caught having sex in a bathroom, and gets suspended, and I ask why she is suspended, they shouldn't hide that information because it might embarrass her.
She's a teenager. She needs guidance

Getting caught having sex and school and using a certain nickname aren’t even close.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't agree with all these policies, but the notion that telling parents that their child is experiencing a gender identity crisis and wants to adopt a new gender identity is cruelly "outing the child" can also be interpreted as "not allowing the school to make major life decisions affecting a minor without parental knowledge." Which is a bad thing... If my boy decides to be a girl at school (or vice versa), and the school wants to go along with it, as a parent I not only *should* know about it before the school "transitions" my kid, but I should *have the right to know about it.* The only exception I can see is if the school has a genuine reason to believe that revealing this information would put the child in danger, and by danger I don't mean "parent will be resistant to the gender change" but abuse and the like.

This. I have a right to know what’s going on at school. That’s all the legislation says, fundamentally.

You really think schools have the resources to update all parents on each student’s personal life? Some large public schools are so crowded they can’t possibly keep track of each child’s sexuality/gender identity. How do you suggest the info would be tracked and reported? Why can’t you figure out yourself what’s going on in your own child’s life?

Our high school is the size of a small college, with over 4,000 enrolled. No way can this be prioritized over everything else teachers and admin are managing already on a daily basis.

Any paperwork involving a change with the child should include the parents. These are situations where the school is actively hiding information from a parent.

It's totally fine for my daughter to change her name. It's disturbing that this gets hidden. Parents don't even have a chance.

You think schools have official forms for all nicknames used by students during the day? A lot of nicknames evolve naturally with time. It’s not as formal as many of you suspect. Again, no clue about day-to-day realities in a busy school environment. I use the name kids go by, focus on teaching and that’s that.

This. Most people on DCUM have no clue. Youngkin and his team have no clue. Most Superintendents have no clue.

See the thread about a teacher who was verbally assaulted. DCUM was shocked. It happens all the time though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So will a student be free to call a teacher whatever they want if the teacher decides to call them whatever they want?

And whatever happened to parents being the ones in charge? If a parent tells a school that their child has a name change, why does the school get to say nope to that?

+1

My kids want to call their teachers by their first names. It's in my rights as a parent to allow this. Teachers have to do as they are told.

? I’ll call students whatever they prefer, they’ll call me what I prefer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a moderate Democrat who supports this. Those of you who are up in arms about this policy are either blind at what is going on in our middle and high schools with an overwhelming number of kids claiming to be trans or non-binary or are brainwashed by the far left. These issues are pushing people to vote for people like Youngkin. Rather than call us transphobes, why not listen to our concerns? The left has no idea what’s going to hit them with a red wave if they go on like this.

Yeah and who cares? If 9th graders want to go by a different name and wear shapeless sweatshirts, what difference does it make? It’s either a phase, in which case humor them and get on with our lives, or it’s not a phase, in which case it’s important to take it seriously.

I want to know if my 13 year old gets a tattoo or has sex or takes drugs. I do not want the school protecting my daughter from me by hiding any references to this information.

You think your child’s school is keeping track of who has sex or gets a tattoo? You have no clue!

Yes some of these parents sound completely unhinged and really ill prepared for dealing with the late teen years when your children are pulling away and getting ready to launch into adulthood. My advice start preparing yourselves for the inevitable as early as the first day of Kindergarten. Each year brings a lessening of your complete and total control and influence.

You can’t stop it, if you think you can or should then become one of those crazy fundy homeschoolers. Well adjusted adults don’t have time to worry or care about such nonsense.

[Anonymous]

I don’t want the school system concealing anything from me. If Sally tells the school she wants to be known by Sam, I want to know this information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a moderate Democrat who supports this. Those of you who are up in arms about this policy are either blind at what is going on in our middle and high schools with an overwhelming number of kids claiming to be trans or non-binary or are brainwashed by the far left. These issues are pushing people to vote for people like Youngkin. Rather than call us transphobes, why not listen to our concerns? The left has no idea what’s going to hit them with a red wave if they go on like this.

Thank you. Pushing the party to the extreme fringe with tolerating and advocating for these concerns will ensure another Trump or worse. White, progressive moms are not helping their kids by accommodating their every whim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a moderate Democrat who supports this. Those of you who are up in arms about this policy are either blind at what is going on in our middle and high schools with an overwhelming number of kids claiming to be trans or non-binary or are brainwashed by the far left. These issues are pushing people to vote for people like Youngkin. Rather than call us transphobes, why not listen to our concerns? The left has no idea what’s going to hit them with a red wave if they go on like this.

Thank you. Pushing the party to the extreme fringe with tolerating and advocating for these concerns will ensure another Trump or worse. White, progressive moms are not helping their kids by accommodating their every whim.

I would argue that tolerating/encouraging party leaders who appropriate the language and tactics of segregationists is what makes a party extreme, but republicans are definitely the far right party these days.

[Anonymous]

The issue is not telling the parents when they ask.

If I ask what my child is called in school, I should be told. . that's all this does