I hate having friends’ kids over

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I’ve also noticed it’s American kids who act like this.

We have friends from India, New Zealand, China, South America and their manners are AMAZING. They are always very polite and never act like this.

Why???

So just keep having those people over. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I’ve also noticed it’s American kids who act like this.

We have friends from India, New Zealand, China, South America and their manners are AMAZING. They are always very polite and never act like this.

Why???

A better question is: Why do you continue doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result? Sounds like you might need some therapy to get to the bottom of that. You keep inviting them and getting angry, changing nothing, and then inviting and getting angry again. Hmm, a therapist will have a field day trying to work through what satisfaction or pleasure you get from this repeated, negative dynamic that you and only you have control over.

Why the big reaction?

Why the need to defend ugly generalizations about all Americans? Why the need to indulge the OP in her self-created drama when she could simply stop inviting them over?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um, hello, why don’t YOU hire a babysitter? Have the babysitter supervise pizza and a movie in the basement.

Why don't you, then?

Let’s walk through this slowly so that you can understand: OP wants to talk and hang out with the parents, but the parents can’t afford a sitter, so the kids have to come to OP’s house, too. OP takes a shot at what her friends cannot afford, which means she must be smugly, rich and superior. If so, she can hire a sitter to watch the kids at her home. [b]Da dee![/i]

WTF is “da dee?” Do you mean “ta da” or “voila,” but are poorly educated, perhaps?

[Anonymous]

Major sock puppetry going on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.

I’ve also noticed it’s American kids who act like this.

We have friends from India, New Zealand, China, South America and their manners are AMAZING. They are always very polite and never act like this.

Why???

I ca!! B.S. My kid is American and better behaved than you are OP. These over generalizations are standard fare on DCUM. Some kids from XYZ know how to behave and some do not. Maybe show some grace and model the behavior you want to see.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You tried, OP. There is just no winning with some people. Are they the entitled type?

No. They are kids who don’t want to act like furniture.

There is a big range between furniture and acting like were you raised with wolves.

[Anonymous]

There is a big range between furniture and acting like were you raised with wolves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a big range between furniture and acting like were you raised with wolves.

X100000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Both moms are stay at home moms. So it can’t be justified with working full time.

They want a break and they see coming to your place as a break. It’s annoying when other people’s kids misbehave. If their parents won’t call them out, then you can do it in a nice way.”Hey, guys, we don’t jump on the couch at our house” etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Both moms are stay at home moms. So it can’t be justified with working full time.

They want a break and they see coming to your place as a break. It’s annoying when other people’s kids misbehave. If their parents won’t call them out, then you can do it in a nice way.”Hey, guys, we don’t jump on the couch at our house” etc.

We ALL need a break. Each and every one of us. This situation is no break for OP - terribly one way and selfish.

[Anonymous]

Nanny here- I hate parents like this. My boss is friends with a sahm and the kids are like wild animals. When the sahm comes over, she expects free childcare and just walks away. I bring her kids right back to her, and inform her that this house has an unfenced pool, and I’m not able to supervise her kids (who won’t listen) outside. Every time she looks so shocked, because the first time she did come over, she successfully dumped her brats on me, and I told myself no ma’am, never again. I don’t understand parents who allow their kids to jump on couches, run and scream in other peoples homes, and just behave terribly in other peoples homes. Makes me wonder what they do all day, staying home, when I’m a nanny 60 hours a week and in the past 25 years none of my nanny kids have acted like that.

[Anonymous]

If you have not spoken up, perhaps they think you think it is fine.

From the start you should have said no jumping in furniture for example. (That is dangerous and disrespectful.)

If you have allowed the free for all up to now, it will be hard to crack down at this point.

(They are in the wrong, mind you. But you need to communicate, especially if you know you differ from them in this respect)

[Anonymous]

We have house rules. I enforce them. Bedrooms are off limits, no jumping on furniture, all food and drink stay in the kitchen, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have not spoken up, perhaps they think you think it is fine.

From the start you should have said no jumping in furniture for example. (That is dangerous and disrespectful.)

If you have allowed the free for all up to now, it will be hard to crack down at this point.

(They are in the wrong, mind you. But you need to communicate, especially if you know you differ from them in this respect)

+1

Seems when families are NOT out of control, and others which are take them by surprise, the ones that are out of control tend to take advantage. Don’t let them, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here- I hate parents like this. My boss is friends with a sahm and the kids are like wild animals. When the sahm comes over, she expects free childcare and just walks away. I bring her kids right back to her, and inform her that this house has an unfenced pool, and I’m not able to supervise her kids (who won’t listen) outside. Every time she looks so shocked, because the first time she did come over, she successfully dumped her brats on me, and I told myself no ma’am, never again. I don’t understand parents who allow their kids to jump on couches, run and scream in other peoples homes, and just behave terribly in other peoples homes. Makes me wonder what they do all day, staying home, when I’m a nanny 60 hours a week and in the past 25 years none of my nanny kids have acted like that.

+1

Why do they bother having kids, since they so obviously don’t enjoy them.