I hate having friends’ kids over

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP?

I do. My kid is older and well behaved.

Only child.

[Anonymous]

I hear you, OP. What the hell is with the wall touching?! WHY?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP?

I do. My kid is older and well behaved.

Older than 12? There’s your sitter!

How much you paying them?

Sounds like maybe you don’t enjoy these people’s company so much after all. Just don’t invite then. Easy!

[Anonymous]

Don't host people who are entitled, OP - poor or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP?

I do. My kid is older and well behaved.

Older than 12? There’s your sitter!

How much you paying them?

Sounds like maybe you don’t enjoy these people’s company so much after all. Just don’t invite then. Easy!

OP wouldn't know if she enjoys them or not because she has to watch other people's kids at her own house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP?

I do. My kid is older and well behaved.

Older than 12? There’s your sitter!

How much you paying them?

Sounds like maybe you don’t enjoy these people’s company so much after all. Just don’t invite then. Easy!

OP wouldn't know if she enjoys them or not because she has to watch other people's kids at her own house.

The kids are clearly part of the package, though. Again, either say adults-only or don’t invite them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP?

I do. My kid is older and well behaved.

Older than 12? There’s your sitter!

I don’t really want to hire a babysitter for guests.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP?

I do. My kid is older and well behaved.

Older than 12? There’s your sitter!

I don’t really want to hire a babysitter for guests.

Then don’t. In that case, your options are:

1) Don’t invite them over.
2) Invite them over, but explicitly ask the parents to watch their kids because they are out of control.
3) Invite them over, but be prepared to supervise the kids yourself (or you and DH if DH agrees to do so).

Those are your choices. Whining on the internet about something you keep doing over and over is not a choice, because you have control over whether you invite them or not, etc. Make your pick from the list above and then shut up.

[Anonymous]

Pre-covid I stopped hosting most families we were friends with, because of this kind of combination of behaviors. Kids totally out of control, and parents totally disinterested in curbing their own kids' behavior, and showing an array of reactions to my own attempts to 'save my house from destruction' going from weak support 'yes Larla, you heard her, she doesn't let children stand on her couch', to amused 'oh, that stain? I'll loan you the product my cleaner uses, it's really no big deal, but I can try and ask Larla to stay in the dining room with [messy food] I guess."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pre-covid I stopped hosting most families we were friends with, because of this kind of combination of behaviors. Kids totally out of control, and parents totally disinterested in curbing their own kids' behavior, and showing an array of reactions to my own attempts to 'save my house from destruction' going from weak support 'yes Larla, you heard her, she doesn't let children stand on her couch', to amused 'oh, that stain? I'll loan you the product my cleaner uses, it's really no big deal, but I can try and ask Larla to stay in the dining room with [messy food] I guess."

You all need to find new friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pre-covid I stopped hosting most families we were friends with, because of this kind of combination of behaviors. Kids totally out of control, and parents totally disinterested in curbing their own kids' behavior, and showing an array of reactions to my own attempts to 'save my house from destruction' going from weak support 'yes Larla, you heard her, she doesn't let children stand on her couch', to amused 'oh, that stain? I'll loan you the product my cleaner uses, it's really no big deal, but I can try and ask Larla to stay in the dining room with [messy food] I guess."

We stopped too. We had some damage done to our basement twice by different boys during nerf gun battles. Tore doors off hinges, broke lamps. I thought it was kid proofed, but no. Both sets of parents apologized and offered to pay, but really? My son actually said it was too stressful having people over. Outside only now!

[Anonymous]

You sound like a bore and a mean person. Relax and stop being so uptight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like a bore and a mean person. Relax and stop being so uptight.

Found OP’s friends.

[Anonymous]

Only for restaurants - I now tip 25-30%, because I can’t imagine how low wage earners are surviving right now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you have kids, OP?

I do. My kid is older and well behaved.

Older than 12? There’s your sitter!

How much you paying them?

Sounds like maybe you don’t enjoy these people’s company so much after all. Just don’t invite then. Easy!

OP wouldn't know if she enjoys them or not because she has to watch other people's kids at her own house.

The kids are clearly part of the package, though. Again, either say adults-only or don’t invite them.

+1

Try just going out for dinner (somewhere cheap, as most of us probably do anyway) - parents only, see if they are interested. If not, you know you were just free childcare.