S/O family all sharing one room in vacation

[Anonymous]

This is why we generally go for airbnb rentals over hotel rooms if we can help it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ILs have this weird thing where they shared hotel rooms with my FIL's sister *and her teenage-then-later-college-age son* until FIL's sister passed away a few years ago.

My ILs have also tried to get my husband and I to share hotel rooms with them before we had kids to "save money" and we were like UH NO. We don't even like to get adjoining rooms, which they always beg for. It's so freaking weird.

That's kind of beyond. I feel bad for the teenage version of that guy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My ILs have this weird thing where they shared hotel rooms with my FIL's sister *and her teenage-then-later-college-age son* until FIL's sister passed away a few years ago.

My ILs have also tried to get my husband and I to share hotel rooms with them before we had kids to "save money" and we were like UH NO. We don't even like to get adjoining rooms, which they always beg for. It's so freaking weird.

That's kind of beyond. I feel bad for the teenage version of that guy.

My then fiancé, now husband and I traveled across country to attend his brother’s wedding. It was two weeks before our wedding. I’d been studying for the bar so we hadn’t seen each other in weeks at that point. We rented a hotel room for the two of us. My now MIL threw a fit. She wanted me to come share a room with her and FIL. Apparently that would protect my “virtue” since my now husband wouldn’t be able to sneak into the room but if I was by myself and he stayed with them he could sneak out and come see me. It was all I could do not to laugh in her face. She paid for none of our plane tickets, the room we rented, the food we ate while there, etc. I’ve subsequently learned that they believe we should all share all space if we are going anywhere together (family reunion, wedding, funeral, vacation). We’ve learned our lesson well and make our own accommodations for all such family get togethers.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

This. We just aren't cheap.

[Anonymous]

Anyone can do whatever they want and I don't know what's weird or not weird. All I can say is I can afford to have my kids in a separate room from us and have always done so. With the exception of when my first was an infant and we would do things like set up the pack n play in the bathroom.

I think it makes a big difference for me personally in terms of enjoying my vacation. I would sleep terribly with all 4 of us in one room and we don't go to bed or wake up at the same times. But if that's all I could afford (sharing one room), that's what we would do.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

This. We just aren't cheap.

See? Name-calling. Why? Why do you care?

[Anonymous]

Really funny for me to look back on now. When I was in my late 20s and engaged to DH, my inlaws invited us on a vacation and said they'd booked hotel rooms. I didn't inquire further and just assumed I'd be paying for my hotel room. When I got there and checked in, they'd booked ONE room. I slept in the bed with my future MIL and dh slept in the bed with his dad. Probably the most awkward sleeping arrangements of my life.

A few years later my FIL said he'd booked rooms for us on a vacation. I clarified that we were getting our own room. We get there and FIL had booked the hotel at market rate and hadn't even asked the price. I kid you not, I stayed at a Holiday Inn for $375 a night. This crummy hotel goes for like $85 on Hotwire. FIL had already checked us in and we couldn't cancel the room. I remember crying because there went our vacation budget for the rest of the year. We couldn't afford $1500 and I'd budgeted about $400 for the 4 night stay.

Every time they bring up vacationing together, I decline now. I've been burned.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

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The people on the other side are just as strongly voicing their opinions. I didn’t see anyone who seems “legit angry”. Stop being defensive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

+1
The people on the other side are just as strongly voicing their opinions. I didn’t see anyone who seems “legit angry”. Stop being defensive.

The posters calling people cheap, or poor? What is their motivation? Again, why do they care?

When you tell me that your family truly needs 2 rooms to enjoy a vacation, I believe you. Why can't you believe me that my family can quite easily enjoy our vacation in one room?

[Anonymous]

I don't mind sharing a room with my kids but my DH is a horrible sleeper and gets up multiple times a night to pee. Half the time he ends up waking kids up so we don't get much sleep. Everyone sleeps much better with separate rooms. We get one week of a destination vacation a year and the other weeks are spent visiting family with room-sharing situations so whenever possible I prefer my "real" vacation week be spent actually feeling like I'm on vacation. Kids sleeping well, me sleeping well (within reason), in as comfortable and luxurious of accommodations as we can reasonably afford. A little jealous of families who can have snuggly cozy time but that just isn't us.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

+1
The people on the other side are just as strongly voicing their opinions. I didn’t see anyone who seems “legit angry”. Stop being defensive.

The posters calling people cheap, or poor? What is their motivation? Again, why do they care?

When you tell me that your family truly needs 2 rooms to enjoy a vacation, I believe you. Why can't you believe me that my family can quite easily enjoy our vacation in one room?

Again it’s a message board with various viewpoints. I never called out cheap or poor but several people brought up cost (including the OP who said that’s why they were doing one room). It is, in fact, usually cheaper to have one room than two.
It is no more offensive than the poster who responded “what is wrong with your kids?” to the person that said they wanted two rooms. So, equal vitriol coming from both sides. You personally may be respectful of people wanting two rooms, but some people weren’t. And so they got fired back at.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

+1
The people on the other side are just as strongly voicing their opinions. I didn’t see anyone who seems “legit angry”. Stop being defensive.

The posters calling people cheap, or poor? What is their motivation? Again, why do they care?

When you tell me that your family truly needs 2 rooms to enjoy a vacation, I believe you. Why can't you believe me that my family can quite easily enjoy our vacation in one room?

Again it’s a message board with various viewpoints. I never called out cheap or poor but several people brought up cost (including the OP who said that’s why they were doing one room). It is, in fact, usually cheaper to have one room than two.
It is no more offensive than the poster who responded “what is wrong with your kids?” to the person that said they wanted two rooms. So, equal vitriol coming from both sides. You personally may be respectful of people wanting two rooms, but some people weren’t. And so they got fired back at.

Its classic DCUM rich person judginess. And DCUM must make other parents feel WRONG because its the only way to validate their own parenting choices. Its the same as working/SAH, breast/bottle feeding etc. Everyone just mind their business.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

+1
The people on the other side are just as strongly voicing their opinions. I didn’t see anyone who seems “legit angry”. Stop being defensive.

The posters calling people cheap, or poor? What is their motivation? Again, why do they care?

“Rich person judginess.”

Pot, meet kettle.
When you tell me that your family truly needs 2 rooms to enjoy a vacation, I believe you. Why can't you believe me that my family can quite easily enjoy our vacation in one room?

Again it’s a message board with various viewpoints. I never called out cheap or poor but several people brought up cost (including the OP who said that’s why they were doing one room). It is, in fact, usually cheaper to have one room than two.
It is no more offensive than the poster who responded “what is wrong with your kids?” to the person that said they wanted two rooms. So, equal vitriol coming from both sides. You personally may be respectful of people wanting two rooms, but some people weren’t. And so they got fired back at.

Its classic DCUM rich person judginess. And DCUM must make other parents feel WRONG because its the only way to validate their own parenting choices. Its the same as working/SAH, breast/bottle feeding etc. Everyone just mind their business.