S/O family all sharing one room in vacation

[Anonymous]

I like resorts with resort amenities. I don't want to cook or clean on my vacation, so AirBnBs are a no. We aren't rich - we budget and save for family vacations including meals out. We prefer 2 rooms or a suite with a door that closes but when that's not affordable at a place we want to be, we all share. Nobody gets the best sleep in those instances but I'm trying to raise my kids to be adaptable and non-snowflakey.

Growing up, my family of 5 never stayed in hotels. Too expensive. Camping or road trips to visit relatives was all there was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Incredibly weird.

Once your kids hit the teen years you will not want to share a room with them. I can 100% guarantee they won't want to share with you.

You can't 100% guarantee anything. Just back from a trip to NYC where we had a blast and *gasp* shared a tiny room with our 18yo. He's planning our next trips.

[Anonymous]

For resorts like Coconut Point or staying at a fancy resort in hawaii we all cram in one room and will continue to do so. if it gets to the point where we don't want to share one room, we will have to skip going to resorts like that - they are already about $1K/night! For a trip to a city where we are just sleeping in the room, we try to get a one bedroom airbnb.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Incredibly weird.

Once your kids hit the teen years you will not want to share a room with them. I can 100% guarantee they won't want to share with you.

You can't 100% guarantee anything. Just back from a trip to NYC where we had a blast and *gasp* shared a tiny room with our 18yo. He's planning our next trips.

Amen. My 16 yo DD just shared the bed with me the other night while DH was traveling. Her, me, and the dog. She was in a funk and didn't want to be alone.

I also don't care all that much if she didn't want to share a room with us on vacation -- but it's just the 3 of us, so a second room seems super indulgent -- we'd probably put DH in it by himself to be honest! I've been married 23 years -- a short break from the snoring is not a big deal. Not luck we cuddle or do anything in on vacation anyway. I would feel to weird about that if DD was in an adjoining room anyway.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Incredibly weird.

Once your kids hit the teen years you will not want to share a room with them. I can 100% guarantee they won't want to share with you.

My teens are happy to go on vacation. They aren't going to complain about sharing a room when they realize a vacation is already a luxury.

-- normal not rich person.

Well consider yourself lucky to have hit the grateful teen lottery!
Also a normal non rich person and my teens complain. Often times they don’t even want to go and would rather be home hanging out with their friends.
My guess is your teens probably just don’t complain out loud because you’ve reminded them so many times what a luxury it is.

This. Your teens just don’t complain to you. No teen wants to share a hotel room with their parents. They just won’t tell you to your face.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I like resorts with resort amenities. I don't want to cook or clean on my vacation, so AirBnBs are a no. We aren't rich - we budget and save for family vacations including meals out. We prefer 2 rooms or a suite with a door that closes but when that's not affordable at a place we want to be, we all share. Nobody gets the best sleep in those instances but I'm trying to raise my kids to be adaptable and non-snowflakey.

Growing up, my family of 5 never stayed in hotels. Too expensive. Camping or road trips to visit relatives was all there was.

A week of sharing a hotel room isn’t going to make or break a snowflake.

[Anonymous]

Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

[Anonymous]

How do you all sleep? In two queen beds? My husband is really tall and it's not fun for us to share a queen and since I haven't found a room with two kings in it we have always gotten a suite or two rooms since our twins were a few years old. Also, they're loud sleepers and I hate not sleeping on vacation.

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Anonymous wrote:We are currently at a resort. Kids are 10 and 8. How long can we keep sharing one room? I’d prefer to do it until college, but not sure if that’s weird.

I have three kids with a ten year age span from oldest to youngest. We never stopped sharing rooms. Our last trip was when they were 12-22. There is no way I’m wasting money on a second room. We take air mattresses and sleeping bags if there isn’t enough sleeping space.

For some people having a luxury room where they spend time is important but that’s not us. And we all really enjoy each other. So it works.

This is so bizarre. With an Air BnB, a suite, or two adjoining rooms, you are literally spending the same amount of awake time together. My family immensely enjoys each other but we don't need to sleep next to each other to prove that.

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Anonymous wrote:Um my kids are 8 and 10 and the only time we’ve shared a room is when we got the last hotel room when the power went out during the derecho. I would rather not go on vacation than spend a week in one room sleeping next to my kids.

A lot of people make a different calculation there. And I think if you were truly faced with sharing a room vs no vacation at all, you might make a different choice.

We go on fewer vacations so that we can do them the way we want to, which is not to have someone in a sleeping bag on the floor.

[Anonymous]

My ILs have this weird thing where they shared hotel rooms with my FIL's sister *and her teenage-then-later-college-age son* until FIL's sister passed away a few years ago.

My ILs have also tried to get my husband and I to share hotel rooms with them before we had kids to "save money" and we were like UH NO. We don't even like to get adjoining rooms, which they always beg for. It's so freaking weird.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are currently at a resort. Kids are 10 and 8. How long can we keep sharing one room? I’d prefer to do it until college, but not sure if that’s weird.

I have three kids with a ten year age span from oldest to youngest. We never stopped sharing rooms. Our last trip was when they were 12-22. There is no way I’m wasting money on a second room. We take air mattresses and sleeping bags if there isn’t enough sleeping space.

For some people having a luxury room where they spend time is important but that’s not us. And we all really enjoy each other. So it works.

This is so bizarre. With an Air BnB, a suite, or two adjoining rooms, you are literally spending the same amount of awake time together. My family immensely enjoys each other but we don't need to sleep next to each other to prove that.

+100. This is just the kind of thing people without money say to make it seem more fun/closeness-indicative than it actually is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Um my kids are 8 and 10 and the only time we’ve shared a room is when we got the last hotel room when the power went out during the derecho. I would rather not go on vacation than spend a week in one room sleeping next to my kids.

A lot of people make a different calculation there. And I think if you were truly faced with sharing a room vs no vacation at all, you might make a different choice.

We go on fewer vacations so that we can do them the way we want to, which is not to have someone in a sleeping bag on the floor.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ILs have this weird thing where they shared hotel rooms with my FIL's sister *and her teenage-then-later-college-age son* until FIL's sister passed away a few years ago.

My ILs have also tried to get my husband and I to share hotel rooms with them before we had kids to "save money" and we were like UH NO. We don't even like to get adjoining rooms, which they always beg for. It's so freaking weird.

That is weird for sure!!