S/O family all sharing one room in vacation

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Leaving aside the sleeping arrangements, how do you get any privacy in a shared hotel room with one bathroom? Not even talking about sex (that gets rehashed in every one of these threads), but just privacy for changing clothes, etc. I hate getting dressed in a steamy bathroom after a shower. When kids are little it doesn’t matter so much, but at some point, doesn’t everyone need a bit more privacy, especially if you have boy/girl kids that aren’t toddlers?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

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The people on the other side are just as strongly voicing their opinions. I didn’t see anyone who seems “legit angry”. Stop being defensive.

The posters calling people cheap, or poor? What is their motivation? Again, why do they care?

When you tell me that your family truly needs 2 rooms to enjoy a vacation, I believe you. Why can't you believe me that my family can quite easily enjoy our vacation in one room?

Again it’s a message board with various viewpoints. I never called out cheap or poor but several people brought up cost (including the OP who said that’s why they were doing one room). It is, in fact, usually cheaper to have one room than two.
It is no more offensive than the poster who responded “what is wrong with your kids?” to the person that said they wanted two rooms. So, equal vitriol coming from both sides. You personally may be respectful of people wanting two rooms, but some people weren’t. And so they got fired back at.

Its classic DCUM rich person judginess. And DCUM must make other parents feel WRONG because its the only way to validate their own parenting choices. Its the same as working/SAH, breast/bottle feeding etc. Everyone just mind their business.

OP said her hotel is $1K per night. It’s funny you are bent out of shape about this - it doesn’t make any sense. Other people have said they’d rather do a cheaper resort and be able to get two rooms. Again, OP is hardly slumming it.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

+1
The people on the other side are just as strongly voicing their opinions. I didn’t see anyone who seems “legit angry”. Stop being defensive.

The posters calling people cheap, or poor? What is their motivation? Again, why do they care?

When you tell me that your family truly needs 2 rooms to enjoy a vacation, I believe you. Why can't you believe me that my family can quite easily enjoy our vacation in one room?

Again it’s a message board with various viewpoints. I never called out cheap or poor but several people brought up cost (including the OP who said that’s why they were doing one room). It is, in fact, usually cheaper to have one room than two.
It is no more offensive than the poster who responded “what is wrong with your kids?” to the person that said they wanted two rooms. So, equal vitriol coming from both sides. You personally may be respectful of people wanting two rooms, but some people weren’t. And so they got fired back at.

+1 There’s smugness and defensiveness on both sides of this fence. “Sorry you don’t enjoy your family” vs. “sorry you’re poor.”

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Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

+1
The people on the other side are just as strongly voicing their opinions. I didn’t see anyone who seems “legit angry”. Stop being defensive.

The posters calling people cheap, or poor? What is their motivation? Again, why do they care?

When you tell me that your family truly needs 2 rooms to enjoy a vacation, I believe you. Why can't you believe me that my family can quite easily enjoy our vacation in one room?

Again it’s a message board with various viewpoints. I never called out cheap or poor but several people brought up cost (including the OP who said that’s why they were doing one room). It is, in fact, usually cheaper to have one room than two.
It is no more offensive than the poster who responded “what is wrong with your kids?” to the person that said they wanted two rooms. So, equal vitriol coming from both sides. You personally may be respectful of people wanting two rooms, but some people weren’t. And so they got fired back at.

Its classic DCUM rich person judginess. And DCUM must make other parents feel WRONG because its the only way to validate their own parenting choices. Its the same as working/SAH, breast/bottle feeding etc. Everyone just mind their business.

OP said her hotel is $1K per night. It’s funny you are bent out of shape about this - it doesn’t make any sense. Other people have said they’d rather do a cheaper resort and be able to get two rooms. Again, OP is hardly slumming it.

Ok great! I'd rather have twice as many nights of vacation a year. Both choices are valid. Why is my preference less valid?

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Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

+1
The people on the other side are just as strongly voicing their opinions. I didn’t see anyone who seems “legit angry”. Stop being defensive.

The posters calling people cheap, or poor? What is their motivation? Again, why do they care?

When you tell me that your family truly needs 2 rooms to enjoy a vacation, I believe you. Why can't you believe me that my family can quite easily enjoy our vacation in one room?

Again it’s a message board with various viewpoints. I never called out cheap or poor but several people brought up cost (including the OP who said that’s why they were doing one room). It is, in fact, usually cheaper to have one room than two.
It is no more offensive than the poster who responded “what is wrong with your kids?” to the person that said they wanted two rooms. So, equal vitriol coming from both sides. You personally may be respectful of people wanting two rooms, but some people weren’t. And so they got fired back at.

Its classic DCUM rich person judginess. And DCUM must make other parents feel WRONG because its the only way to validate their own parenting choices. Its the same as working/SAH, breast/bottle feeding etc. Everyone just mind their business.

OP said her hotel is $1K per night. It’s funny you are bent out of shape about this - it doesn’t make any sense. Other people have said they’d rather do a cheaper resort and be able to get two rooms. Again, OP is hardly slumming it.

Oh, to suffer OP’s poverty…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leaving aside the sleeping arrangements, how do you get any privacy in a shared hotel room with one bathroom? Not even talking about sex (that gets rehashed in every one of these threads), but just privacy for changing clothes, etc. I hate getting dressed in a steamy bathroom after a shower. When kids are little it doesn’t matter so much, but at some point, doesn’t everyone need a bit more privacy, especially if you have boy/girl kids that aren’t toddlers?

You just change quickly and family members give you the courtesy of not staring. It's just a body.

[Anonymous]

DCUM likes to pretend the choices here are one room at the Ritz or two rooms at the Hampton Inn. For many outside this bubble, it’s one room at the Hampton Inn (or camping, or a 12 hour drive to your relatives’ house) or nothing.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

+1
The people on the other side are just as strongly voicing their opinions. I didn’t see anyone who seems “legit angry”. Stop being defensive.

The posters calling people cheap, or poor? What is their motivation? Again, why do they care?

When you tell me that your family truly needs 2 rooms to enjoy a vacation, I believe you. Why can't you believe me that my family can quite easily enjoy our vacation in one room?

Again it’s a message board with various viewpoints. I never called out cheap or poor but several people brought up cost (including the OP who said that’s why they were doing one room). It is, in fact, usually cheaper to have one room than two.
It is no more offensive than the poster who responded “what is wrong with your kids?” to the person that said they wanted two rooms. So, equal vitriol coming from both sides. You personally may be respectful of people wanting two rooms, but some people weren’t. And so they got fired back at.

Its classic DCUM rich person judginess. And DCUM must make other parents feel WRONG because its the only way to validate their own parenting choices. Its the same as working/SAH, breast/bottle feeding etc. Everyone just mind their business.

OP said her hotel is $1K per night. It’s funny you are bent out of shape about this - it doesn’t make any sense. Other people have said they’d rather do a cheaper resort and be able to get two rooms. Again, OP is hardly slumming it.

Ok great! I'd rather have twice as many nights of vacation a year. Both choices are valid. Why is my preference less valid?

It’s not. You do you. You are the one booking your vacation. Keep scrolling if you don’t like the responses - that is the beauty of DCUM. There is some really nasty stuff posted on here. This isn’t it. If this offends you so much, time to shut the browser.

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Anonymous wrote:Why do the people who get two rooms care what the rest of us do? I certainly don’t care what you do, or think about it at all. We are happy.

I’m gonna have to refer you back to the Original post on this one. It is literally what she asked and the entire point of the post.

I wasn't refering to OP, but all of the PP's who seem legit angry that some families share a hotel room? What's it to them? Its totally fine if you don't want to do that - doesn't bother me in the least. Its your money! I'm not sure why our choice should bother some strangers so much? Its weird.

I see equally smug “we enjoy spending time together” from those advocating to share one room implying those who don’t want to sleep with their children in the room or bed somehow love their family less.

+1
The people on the other side are just as strongly voicing their opinions. I didn’t see anyone who seems “legit angry”. Stop being defensive.

The posters calling people cheap, or poor? What is their motivation? Again, why do they care?

When you tell me that your family truly needs 2 rooms to enjoy a vacation, I believe you. Why can't you believe me that my family can quite easily enjoy our vacation in one room?

Again it’s a message board with various viewpoints. I never called out cheap or poor but several people brought up cost (including the OP who said that’s why they were doing one room). It is, in fact, usually cheaper to have one room than two.
It is no more offensive than the poster who responded “what is wrong with your kids?” to the person that said they wanted two rooms. So, equal vitriol coming from both sides. You personally may be respectful of people wanting two rooms, but some people weren’t. And so they got fired back at.

Its classic DCUM rich person judginess. And DCUM must make other parents feel WRONG because its the only way to validate their own parenting choices. Its the same as working/SAH, breast/bottle feeding etc. Everyone just mind their business.

OP said her hotel is $1K per night. It’s funny you are bent out of shape about this - it doesn’t make any sense. Other people have said they’d rather do a cheaper resort and be able to get two rooms. Again, OP is hardly slumming it.

Ok great! I'd rather have twice as many nights of vacation a year. Both choices are valid. Why is my preference less valid?

I’m not quite certain what you’re looking for. There have been opinions on both sides. No clear winner chosen.
I hope you all have wonderful vacations in whatever manner you choose because thank god we are allowed to travel now!!!! (I’m sure someone will be offended by that too)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Incredibly weird.

Once your kids hit the teen years you will not want to share a room with them. I can 100% guarantee they won't want to share with you.

Our girls are teens and truly don’t care.

Same!

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Anonymous wrote:Leaving aside the sleeping arrangements, how do you get any privacy in a shared hotel room with one bathroom? Not even talking about sex (that gets rehashed in every one of these threads), but just privacy for changing clothes, etc. I hate getting dressed in a steamy bathroom after a shower. When kids are little it doesn’t matter so much, but at some point, doesn’t everyone need a bit more privacy, especially if you have boy/girl kids that aren’t toddlers?

We have a 1000 square foot house and one bathroom. No big deal.

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Anonymous wrote:Leaving aside the sleeping arrangements, how do you get any privacy in a shared hotel room with one bathroom? Not even talking about sex (that gets rehashed in every one of these threads), but just privacy for changing clothes, etc. I hate getting dressed in a steamy bathroom after a shower. When kids are little it doesn’t matter so much, but at some point, doesn’t everyone need a bit more privacy, especially if you have boy/girl kids that aren’t toddlers?

You just change quickly and family members give you the courtesy of not staring. It's just a body.

+1. Not an issue at all.

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Anonymous wrote:Incredibly weird.

Once your kids hit the teen years you will not want to share a room with them. I can 100% guarantee they won't want to share with you.

The only thing incredible weird is your response.

This. Teens with us and there aren’t any issues. Oldest is 19.

[Anonymous]

We are booking suits/connected rooms with a door open since kids were toddlers.
Those who share a single room, what do you do after kids are in bed at 9:00pm? Sit silently in a dark room?

My budget is not even close to $1K/night but if I can't afford two rooms for $X each, I will go to a $X/2 place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are booking suits/connected rooms with a door open since kids were toddlers.
Those who share a single room, what do you do after kids are in bed at 9:00pm? Sit silently in a dark room?

My budget is not even close to $1K/night but if I can't afford two rooms for $X each, I will go to a $X/2 place.

We would only do this if we actually did want to fall asleep that early. Like if there are jet lag reasons, or getting up really early for a flight or something, or because we're really tired from skiing.