Did You Wish For Certain Gender With Second Child?

[Anonymous]

I wanted a second boy. Mostly for practical reasons - wanted to get use out of all the clothes and stuff. I would have been happy with a girl, though I'm sure.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I do not share that kind of personal info since people will judge you. Since we have 2 girls already (did not find out the sex ahead of the birth) we only want a boy this time. We are finding out the sex this time as soon as possible so if it is a girl we can have an early, safe termination. We do not want to have a 4th child in our attempt to have a boy. Our friends did this and ended up with 5 girls.

You have serious issues. I feel sorry for your children.

Omg, what? As someone who wanted two boys and got them, I would never terminate a healthy pregnancy just because of the gender. I would have had some disappointment but I would have never aborted my child because they were a girl. People like you don’t deserve kids. Evil.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I do not share that kind of personal info since people will judge you. Since we have 2 girls already (did not find out the sex ahead of the birth) we only want a boy this time. We are finding out the sex this time as soon as possible so if it is a girl we can have an early, safe termination. We do not want to have a 4th child in our attempt to have a boy. Our friends did this and ended up with 5 girls.

People aren't judging you for your preference. Lots of people have preferences. They're judging you because your preference is so strong you think that you would literally terminate the life of your fetus if it's not your preferred gender. That's not preference, it's femicide.

So you’re just going to terminate future pregnancies until you get a boy? You’re not fit to be a mother of any child.

[Anonymous]

I really try not to be a judgmental person, but this issue always gets me.

I don't have a preference, I could never have a preference. I could have 11 of one sex-- I couldn't wish for the 12th to be another. I just want the child I am supposed to have. Then again, I do not have 11 children so who the heck knows, maybe I would feel differently.

But I don't want to imply that having a preference necessarily means you will be sad if you get the other! We're only human and I get sometimes we have these kinds of feelings. Idk I guess it just goes with my spirituality and philosophy that it's hard to imagine having a preference.

[Anonymous]

I was really upset when my first was a boy (I only have a sister and just couldn’t picture it!). Even though I actually really enjoyed having a boy, I wanted a girl for our second and got one.

[Anonymous]

I knew we'd have 3 kids. I wanted Girl, girl, boy. I got Girl, boy, girl. I'm very happy with it! I will say that we got a lot of pushback from people who thought we shouldn't have a 3rd because we already had both sexes. 3 was always the plan.

I will say that if I had 3 girls, we would not have tried for a boy. If I had 3 boys... I might have still tried for a girl.

[Anonymous]

I have three boys, and love it. I didn’t really have a strong preference ever though. I just feel like my kids are the ones I was meant to have.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s another boy!

Congrats, OP!!

I wanted same-sex siblings, but got opposite sex ones. All good, though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t care. Can I ask why you prefer a boy?

A lot of time,s women who prefer sons are the same kind of women who say it’s so much easier to be friends with men.

I’ve heard that women who want boys do so because they have a bad relationship with their mother. True for my SIL (who btw has close female friends). She ended up getting one of each and unfortunately does not have a great relationship with her DD

I wanted a boy first because my older sister has always been insanely competitive and controlling of me (my relationship with my mom is great, other than her enabling my sister and not preventing her abuse of me for complicated reasons). I am pregnant with a girl and after some initial disappointment I am extremely excited for her to come. That being said, I am hoping for a boy when we have a second child for the same reasons. Growing up I also just always felt awkward around boys since I didn't have any close males in my life other than my father and grandfathers so I think it will be helpful to my daughter to have a brother. If I had a son first I would've wanted a daughter second - having one of each is the dream for me.

[Anonymous]

I thought I'd really want a boy, after having a girl. But really I wanted to re-use all her clothes so I was maybe secretly hoping for another girl. It was a boy and once we found out I never really cared again. He's a delight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I knew we'd have 3 kids. I wanted Girl, girl, boy. I got Girl, boy, girl. I'm very happy with it! I will say that we got a lot of pushback from people who thought we shouldn't have a 3rd because we already had both sexes. 3 was always the plan.

I will say that if I had 3 girls, we would not have tried for a boy. If I had 3 boys... I might have still tried for a girl.

NP, and same! It was so odd. We have girl, boy, boy, and I love them all to pieces, and the dynamics of that order of sexes.

I didn't have a gender preference with any of them, but I feel like that wasn't the norm. So many people care, which is a perfectly human thing to care about.