Did You Wish For Certain Gender With Second Child?

[Anonymous]

I preferred a boy first, because DH really wanted a boy, and because I always thought it would have been nice to have an older brother. Got a boy. For the 2nd, I wanted a girl, and got a boy, which turned out to be wonderful of course. For the 3rd, I was really hoping for a girl, to get to experience one, and got another boy, which of course was also wonderful and also made the older ones and DH so excited. When we decided to go for a 4th, I wanted a boy since that was all I knew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's not "gender," it's "sex." The child's gender will be made known to you in the future (maybe).

No. Only idiots think this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, it's not "gender," it's "sex." The child's gender will be made known to you in the future (maybe).

Not OP but we don’t feed it not that BS and I’m sure many other families don’t either. If my child ever does experience this, we will get them help from a qualified specialist who has experience with mental illness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wanted boys and my first was a boy. Second is incoming and a girl. I’m sad about it. I just love little boys. I love their dinosaurs and trucks tacky yet adorable clothes and how active they are. I don’t want to style hair or deal with the emotional drama of girls. I love my mother but we don’t have the closest relationship and I think that’s part of my hesitation.

I have two boys but my niece love cars and is bro a girly girl. All kids are different.

[Anonymous]

No but I do find the women who want girls to be weird sometimes. I’ve know several who talked about having a girl to dress up and put bows on as if their child was a doll. Your kid is not an accessory.

[Anonymous]

My first is a boy, and I had preference for second one but I kept my mouth around people. Because I knew that we are done with 2 kids, so I wanted a second one girl. If we plan to have 3 kids, I prefer second one is boy and third one girl. It would be nice that 2 boys play together and share things growing up.

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Anonymous wrote:I will admit I wanted a second girl - my sister is my best friend and I had such a good childhood playing together that that was my dream for my daughter too. Of course I got a boy. He’s amazing and I’m so glad we have him. And I now realize he’s his own person and is much more than just a sibling for my older kid but that’s harder to picture before they exist, I think

I'm glad to hear this. Also only have a sister, and I really wanted a second girl for the same reasons. We're expecting a boy and I am nervous! I know nothing about boys, and also we had so much girly stuff that we could have reused (hah, we still might). Your post is super reassuring.

[Anonymous]

I wanted a boy first (got it) and a girl second (got it) two years apart (got it).

No clue why I saw that as my ideal family but did.

[Anonymous]

Preference for a boy first, strong preference for a boy with my second, kind of wanted a girl with my third but got a boy, if we have a fourth I hope it’s a boy.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will admit I wanted a second girl - my sister is my best friend and I had such a good childhood playing together that that was my dream for my daughter too. Of course I got a boy. He’s amazing and I’m so glad we have him. And I now realize he’s his own person and is much more than just a sibling for my older kid but that’s harder to picture before they exist, I think

I'm glad to hear this. Also only have a sister, and I really wanted a second girl for the same reasons. We're expecting a boy and I am nervous! I know nothing about boys, and also we had so much girly stuff that we could have reused (hah, we still might). Your post is super reassuring.

I posted above — I wanted girls because I’m super close with my sisters, don’t have brothers, and don’t have a male partner. My second’s a boy and I adore him now. You’ll figure it out, PP! I hope all our brother-sister duos have the same good relationships we do with our respective sisters.

[Anonymous]

DH wanted a girl for DC1...and we had a girl. He was a doting dad even before my DD was born, and he is basically a softie.

When I was pregnant with DC2, DH panicked. He wanted a girl again and when we found out that we were going to have a boy, he wondered if he could love another baby as much as DD and if he could love a boy. He was heads over heel in love with my DS as soon as he was born.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally. I wanted my first to be a boy because I liked having an other brother. I got a girl. I wanted my second to be a girl because I thought girls in matching outfits were so cute. I got a boy.

I'm not ashamed of my dumb reasons. I'm a bit of a radical feminist but not everything I think has to be feminist.

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Me too.
I have older brothers and they are so loving and protective, so I wanted my firstborn to be a son too. I loved the idea of DC1 being a protective older brother to his siblings. My DH and ILs wanted a girl because there were no girls in their family in our generation. My MIL was ecstatic with a granddaughter and DH was thrilled because he believes that daughters love their dads forever.

For the second kid, we found out it was a boy. I was very happy because it was one of each. DH wanted a girl but then became happy with the idea of having another baby.

I have to say that it is wonderful to have a DD for the firstborn. Mainly because they help to regulate the environment of the household. Everyone becomes more pleasant because a DD will not allow others to get away with hard behavior. It is fantastic. My DD tamed my FIL who was used to being the strict disciplinarian father of two boys. Also, love it when she calls out my DH for generally clueless male behavior that I sometimes tolerate.

DD is very protective of her younger brother and dotes on him. They are best friends. She is quite bossy to him but will not let anyone else boss him around. I think maybe it is normal for older siblings to be protective of their younger siblings, regardless of the gender.

[Anonymous]

Yes, a repeat of my first. Didn't happen and I love that it didn't.

[Anonymous]

I want a second girl because I grew up with only brothers and want my first daughter to have the chance to be close to a sister. I love my brother but men just don’t relate emotionally the same as women.

[Anonymous]

Thought I was ambivalent but actually wanted a Dd first- got a Ds who is just wonderful. Wanted a Dd for #2 and got it. The clothes and bows are fun, but it is fun to have both!