Scientific American on Decline in Sex Across the Board

[Anonymous]

Sex requires in-person contact. Young people can't even call a pizza place and order delivery. How would they take their clothes off in front of someone??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the woman in the relationship and have the higher drive and I don’t want a hall pass, I just want DH. I desperately need physical intimacy. It feels so weird to have the opposite problem of so many other people! I blame porn and general tiredness. His health is good.

I have the normal / not opposite problem: wife rarely interested. Sometimes says ‘just get it over with.”

Took this forums advice and did more housework, dates, encouraged her to have girls night / weekends out, took on even more responsibility for kid raising. Got to my own doctor, followed her advice and I am in the best shape of my life.

Listened to my wife and responded. Renovated the house. Took her on vacays. Encouraged her on every idea she came up with.

Still nope.

Turns out: she is not interested after all I did; she just does not want sex with me or anyone anymore; and she is not happy with her own body/weight after 2 kids (but she doesn’t want to cut back on eating or to do enough hard exercise combined with fewer calories).

Women’s libido crashing in late 40s is a thing, I guess.

It makes a lot of sense not to want sex when one is beyond childbearing age if you think about it. Unsure why people feel weird about saying this out loud. I like sex still, but I never think about it when I am not having it (with DH). My body is not telling me to reproduce anymore...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely porn and video games. But for the life of me I cannot understand how men would not want the real thing. Maybe it's just plain laziness.

The concept of satisfying a woman sexually may be a recent phenomenon. Women are aware of what an orgasm feels like due to oral, masturbation and sex toys. Women are also watching porn and the disappointemnt with the size of men's cock and stamina in real life is rampant. Earlier, men could just do a bam, slam, thank you ma'am - and not worry about if the woman got off or not. Finally, the obesity epidemic is also playing a part in shrinking the man's appendage and playing havoc with the level of testerastone etc,

In short, men are not up to the task of giving satisfaction to a woman sexually because they are not fit or adept or both. Also, due to the fact that women are financially emancipated, they also have the choice to leave a macho man who is abusive even if he is good in bed.

Is the concept that recent? How about the Kama Sutra or the Song of Songs? The Kama Sutra involves all kinds of kissing, oral, different embraces, foreplay and after play… Song of Songs is very erotic from the woman’s perspective. Probably among certain social classes women always had the expectation of pleasure.

[Anonymous]

Make testosterone levels are plummeting per each generation. Plastics!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish DH would get hooked on porn. Then he would not bother me as much for sex. 2x a week and he is petulant when I turn him down.

Grant him a hall pass and you won't be "bothered for sex"

I feel for her DH. He must have no self esteem. Begging for sex only to be turned down. I seriously doubt they are having sex twice a week…bet it’s more like 2 x a year.

Why do you doubt they have sex 2x a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Make testosterone levels are plummeting per each generation. Plastics!

Testosterone levels in modern teens/men have dropped. I am not aware of solid science proving the definite cause.

2 probable causes are:

- tap water containing treated waste water, which often contains birth control pill hormones (google it if you doubt it). Or

- soy. Soybeans have a demonstrated negative effect on T levels in men.

There may be other food-borne chemicals at work, but that’s probably true for all sorts of “modern” trends, like earlier first menses in girls, ADHD, allergies, etc. have you read the ingredient labels on processed foods lately?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely porn and video games. But for the life of me I cannot understand how men would not want the real thing. Maybe it's just plain laziness.

The concept of satisfying a woman sexually may be a recent phenomenon. Women are aware of what an orgasm feels like due to oral, masturbation and sex toys. Women are also watching porn and the disappointemnt with the size of men's cock and stamina in real life is rampant. Earlier, men could just do a bam, slam, thank you ma'am - and not worry about if the woman got off or not. Finally, the obesity epidemic is also playing a part in shrinking the man's appendage and playing havoc with the level of testerastone etc,

In short, men are not up to the task of giving satisfaction to a woman sexually because they are not fit or adept or both. Also, due to the fact that women are financially emancipated, they also have the choice to leave a macho man who is abusive even if he is good in bed.

Is the concept that recent? How about the Kama Sutra or the Song of Songs? The Kama Sutra involves all kinds of kissing, oral, different embraces, foreplay and after play… Song of Songs is very erotic from the woman’s perspective. Probably among certain social classes women always had the expectation of pleasure.

Seneca wrote of the importance of bringing a woman to the o. Roman men bragged of their skills in pleasing women. Japanese and Chinese men did the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely porn and video games. But for the life of me I cannot understand how men would not want the real thing. Maybe it's just plain laziness.

The concept of satisfying a woman sexually may be a recent phenomenon. Women are aware of what an orgasm feels like due to oral, masturbation and sex toys. Women are also watching porn and the disappointemnt with the size of men's cock and stamina in real life is rampant. Earlier, men could just do a bam, slam, thank you ma'am - and not worry about if the woman got off or not. Finally, the obesity epidemic is also playing a part in shrinking the man's appendage and playing havoc with the level of testerastone etc,

In short, men are not up to the task of giving satisfaction to a woman sexually because they are not fit or adept or both. Also, due to the fact that women are financially emancipated, they also have the choice to leave a macho man who is abusive even if he is good in bed.

Is the concept that recent? How about the Kama Sutra or the Song of Songs? The Kama Sutra involves all kinds of kissing, oral, different embraces, foreplay and after play… Song of Songs is very erotic from the woman’s perspective. Probably among certain social classes women always had the expectation of pleasure.

Seneca wrote of the importance of bringing a woman to the o. Roman men bragged of their skills in pleasing women. Japanese and Chinese men did the same.

Lol the dudes who brag about it are the ones who have no idea what they’re doing. Lotta faking going on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the woman in the relationship and have the higher drive and I don’t want a hall pass, I just want DH. I desperately need physical intimacy. It feels so weird to have the opposite problem of so many other people! I blame porn and general tiredness. His health is good.

I have the normal / not opposite problem: wife rarely interested. Sometimes says ‘just get it over with.”

Took this forums advice and did more housework, dates, encouraged her to have girls night / weekends out, took on even more responsibility for kid raising. Got to my own doctor, followed her advice and I am in the best shape of my life.

Listened to my wife and responded. Renovated the house. Took her on vacays. Encouraged her on every idea she came up with.

Still nope.

Turns out: she is not interested after all I did; she just does not want sex with me or anyone anymore; and she is not happy with her own body/weight after 2 kids (but she doesn’t want to cut back on eating or to do enough hard exercise combined with fewer calories).

Women’s libido crashing in late 40s is a thing, I guess.

no, that's just your wife's problem. Or maybe she doesn't like you anymore? IDK. But, not all 40s women who have good looking DHs, and who are sweet to their wives, lack sex drives.

If my DH was hot and sweet to me and a good person, I'd be all over him.

My DH is not hot, but he is good to me; I like him as a person, and I love him. We still have sex, and we're in our 50s. When I was in my late 30s, early 40s, and, I was stressed out, frustated with DH, young kids, working FT, commuting 1+ hour, then no, I didn't want to have sex with him. I'd rather sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely porn and video games. But for the life of me I cannot understand how men would not want the real thing. Maybe it's just plain laziness.

The concept of satisfying a woman sexually may be a recent phenomenon. Women are aware of what an orgasm feels like due to oral, masturbation and sex toys. Women are also watching porn and the disappointemnt with the size of men's cock and stamina in real life is rampant. Earlier, men could just do a bam, slam, thank you ma'am - and not worry about if the woman got off or not. Finally, the obesity epidemic is also playing a part in shrinking the man's appendage and playing havoc with the level of testerastone etc,

In short, men are not up to the task of giving satisfaction to a woman sexually because they are not fit or adept or both. Also, due to the fact that women are financially emancipated, they also have the choice to leave a macho man who is abusive even if he is good in bed.

Bingo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Definitely porn and video games. But for the life of me I cannot understand how men would not want the real thing. Maybe it's just plain laziness.

The concept of satisfying a woman sexually may be a recent phenomenon. Women are aware of what an orgasm feels like due to oral, masturbation and sex toys. Women are also watching porn and the disappointemnt with the size of men's cock and stamina in real life is rampant. Earlier, men could just do a bam, slam, thank you ma'am - and not worry about if the woman got off or not. Finally, the obesity epidemic is also playing a part in shrinking the man's appendage and playing havoc with the level of testerastone etc,

In short, men are not up to the task of giving satisfaction to a woman sexually because they are not fit or adept or both. Also, due to the fact that women are financially emancipated, they also have the choice to leave a macho man who is abusive even if he is good in bed.

Is the concept that recent? How about the Kama Sutra or the Song of Songs? The Kama Sutra involves all kinds of kissing, oral, different embraces, foreplay and after play… Song of Songs is very erotic from the woman’s perspective. Probably among certain social classes women always had the expectation of pleasure.

Seneca wrote of the importance of bringing a woman to the o. Roman men bragged of their skills in pleasing women. Japanese and Chinese men did the same.

Seneca?? Seriously? I’m going to look this up, this is news to me.

If you like sex at all then it makes sense you’d want your partner to enjoy it too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am the woman in the relationship and have the higher drive and I don’t want a hall pass, I just want DH. I desperately need physical intimacy. It feels so weird to have the opposite problem of so many other people! I blame porn and general tiredness. His health is good.

I have the normal / not opposite problem: wife rarely interested. Sometimes says ‘just get it over with.”

Took this forums advice and did more housework, dates, encouraged her to have girls night / weekends out, took on even more responsibility for kid raising. Got to my own doctor, followed her advice and I am in the best shape of my life.

Listened to my wife and responded. Renovated the house. Took her on vacays. Encouraged her on every idea she came up with.

Still nope.

Turns out: she is not interested after all I did; she just does not want sex with me or anyone anymore; and she is not happy with her own body/weight after 2 kids (but she doesn’t want to cut back on eating or to do enough hard exercise combined with fewer calories).

Women’s libido crashing in late 40s is a thing, I guess.

Pp you are responding to: my husband’s behavior is largely irrelevant. I just love having sex. It feels great and I have no hang ups about it. I am late 30s and I have been like this since I was a teen. I can’t even imagine being any other way.

[Anonymous]

Seeing people on the Internet confidently recommend horse paste to cure COVID has made a little skeptical about the quality of their opinions about sex and how other people can improve their sex lives.

[Anonymous]

Your average American woman is like 170 lbs. Very unattractive.

[Anonymous]

Americans of both sexes are, as a whole, fat and unattractive.