Husband Always Walks Way in Front of Me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a fast walker and often walk places with slower people. I slow my pace but then it seems my co-walkers slow their pace EVEN MORE. It is so painful.

It is not actually "painful" drama queen.

You are just selfish and impatient.

It is actually patient, but if you don't have long legs you wouldn't know that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a fast walker and often walk places with slower people. I slow my pace but then it seems my co-walkers slow their pace EVEN MORE. It is so painful.

It is not actually "painful" drama queen.

You are just selfish and impatient.

It’s not “painful,” but walking fast is a very very difficult urge to contain. Almost like if you have an impulsive child (I do), I imagine it being very hard to contain in a similar way. You can walk slow for a bit…but it’s hard to do for blocks on end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a fast walker and often walk places with slower people. I slow my pace but then it seems my co-walkers slow their pace EVEN MORE. It is so painful.

It is not actually "painful" drama queen.

You are just selfish and impatient.

It is actually patient, but if you don't have long legs you wouldn't know that.

DP. You and the other posters claiming it’s physically painful are downright ridiculous. Everyone in my family has long legs. There is nothing painful about slowing down for the slow pokes, it’s just boring and can make you feel a bit antsy. But you do it if you have the minimum level of respect for the people you are with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a fast walker and often walk places with slower people. I slow my pace but then it seems my co-walkers slow their pace EVEN MORE. It is so painful.

It is not actually "painful" drama queen.

You are just selfish and impatient.

It’s not “painful,” but walking fast is a very very difficult urge to contain. Almost like if you have an impulsive child (I do), I imagine it being very hard to contain in a similar way. You can walk slow for a bit…but it’s hard to do for blocks on end.

Agree, but with others this hyperactivity, impulsivity and unawareness to walk fast and leave family members half a block or more behind you is truly odd. Same for those people who wolf down their food in three minutes tops, barely tasting it. Then sit there twitching or simply get up next walk around/check phone/leave the room.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a fast walker and often walk places with slower people. I slow my pace but then it seems my co-walkers slow their pace EVEN MORE. It is so painful.

It is not actually "painful" drama queen.

You are just selfish and impatient.

It is actually patient, but if you don't have long legs you wouldn't know that.

DP. You and the other posters claiming it’s physically painful are downright ridiculous. Everyone in my family has long legs. There is nothing painful about slowing down for the slow pokes, it’s just boring and can make you feel a bit antsy. But you do it if you have the minimum level of respect for the people you are with.

+1

I'm tall and find these people claiming it is "painful" to be ridiculous drama queens.

[Anonymous]

He doesn't care about you. I'd leave him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the wife. My father used to do this. Now I’m doing it. I’m a fast walker. I try to rein it in but it’s hard.

+1 I'm the wife too. I can't stand going slow. I try to slow down, but it's hard.

+2 woman here too. Slow walkers are in my top 5 annoyances in life. It doesn’t sound like op is picking up her pace either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the wife. My father used to do this. Now I’m doing it. I’m a fast walker. I try to rein it in but it’s hard.

+1 I'm the wife too. I can't stand going slow. I try to slow down, but it's hard.

+2 woman here too. Slow walkers are in my top 5 annoyances in life. It doesn’t sound like op is picking up her pace either.

She's injured ffs. What is the matter with you?

[Anonymous]

Maybe it's involuntary. I'm pretty tall and notice my stride is monger than most of my friends. I try very hard to slow down for them but often I end up hurting myself because I'm walking in an unnatural manner. They should wait for you and make sure you are safe however

[Anonymous]

Yep. Mind does this and it drives me bananas. The thing is, he isn’t that much taller than I am and I’m the faster walker of the two of us. However, when I’m wrangling a couple small children lace slows because little kids are slow, and stop, and may have a meltdown, or need to stop and look at a bird…something. But then there he is, way up ahead while I’m back with the kids. Totally rude. I’ve brought it up, but doesn’t seem to think it is a big deal or even notice that he does it. I hate nagging so I’ve stopped saying anything, but yes I find it very inconsiderate.

[Anonymous]

Hold his hand.

[Anonymous]

I'm sure if you lived in a part of the world full of land mines, he'd walk slower than you. DTMFA. He doesn't like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re jerks. b

My aspie spouse does this to everyone- me, the kids, the grandparents.
Starts walking and just shuts his brain off like he’s the only one on the outing. It’s rude and self centered. Or aspie too.

NP. My cousin's aspie DH and aspie DD both do this to her. They get way out ahead of her and never look back to make sure she's ok. I was with them recently when they did this, and she told me they do it all the time and that it really bums her out. She doesn't understand much about Asperger's (which is probably the only way their marriage has lasted, since she keeps hoping he'll be nicer one day), but the connection seems obvious to me. Zero empathy.

That said, not everyone who does this is an aspie. My dad did this to my mom, with me, the only child, walking in between them, trying desperately to keep tabs on both, privately seething at my dad for being such an a-hole but also impatiently barking at my mom to hurry up. I'm not exaggerating when I say it's really my strongest memory of our trips to Europe. So much for experiencing a new culture; I was stressing about not losing one of my parents.

Yeah. You hit a nerve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine does this. We’re divorcing.

My ex does this. My son is starting to do that too but I am very much not ok with it. It must be something genetic!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine does this. We’re divorcing.

My ex does this. My son is starting to do that too but I am very much not ok with it. It must be something genetic!

And yes they do have slight aspie tendencies