Husband Always Walks Way in Front of Me

[Anonymous]

I disagree. I think the op is just as rude. The daughter and husband likely have a longer stride because they are tall. They cover more space in a shorter time even if they are walking at the same pace as the op.

The op needs to get over it. Just walk at your pace and arrive when you arrive. You are asking them to walk awkwardly/unnaturally. Just as you don't want to run they don't want to stride unnaturally. They could fall.

My husband often walks ahead of me. Im not bothered by it. I often walk ahead of my friends as a taller woman.

[Anonymous]

It is very hard to remember to walk at a really slow pace. Our bodies naturally have a set walk pace. Trying to override that all the time is challenging, not impossible but requires constant thought / effort and if you get distracted by a conversation or some other thought, it is easy for your brain just to take over and resume your natural stride.

[Anonymous]

OP— why did you marry a man who is a foot taller than you?! Of course his stride is going to be so much longer. You made a mistake. Suck it up or divorce.

[Anonymous]

My kids are teens and now we just make fund of him. We call him the big dog. It’s so foolish.

[Anonymous]

I don't get why you marry people like this. Height and gait are variable for everyone. It's such a small thing to accommodate other people's stride. Forcing smaller people to jog to keep up is such a petty and pathetic thing to do. We can all extrapolate that the rest of the marriage sucks too. Why marry someone like this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a complete lack of respect. I dated a guy like this once and when I told him it’s annoying and makes me felt shiity, he tried to gaslight me about it. This general disrespect was a good enough reason for me to break up with him and I’m glad I dodged that bullet.

Imagine what it’s like when you first fall in love with someone. If you’re walking somewhere together, you wouldn’t even think about walking ahead. That kind of basic consideration needs to be how you treat people you love all the time. Your kids, your spouse, friends, heck even colleagues.

I was married to a guy like this. We're both tall. There was no reason for it. It drove me insane. I'm not a slow walker. In the waning years of our marriage I would just slow my pace and see how long it would take him to notice. I learned after we split up that this walking ahead is very common with narcissists.

[Anonymous]

Walking pace is an indicator of health and life expectancy:

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/walking-speed-survival/

OP - how fit are you? Do you have any health issues that make you walk at a slower pace? Illnesses, injuries, extra weight, etc?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Walking pace is an indicator of health and life expectancy:

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/walking-speed-survival/

OP - how fit are you? Do you have any health issues that make you walk at a slower pace? Illnesses, injuries, extra weight, etc?

This isn’t about walking pace. It’s about relationships.

[Anonymous]

I’m a fast Walker and my husband isn’t. I often get out in front and he will joke about meeting me later. I’m sure he gets a bit annoyed but not enough for it to be a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m the wife. My father used to do this. Now I’m doing it. I’m a fast walker. I try to rein it in but it’s hard.

+1 I'm the wife too. I can't stand going slow. I try to slow down, but it's hard.

+@ It is hard, and actually uncomfortable for me.

You're being rude and inconsiderate. It isn't hard, you are just too important.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Walking pace is an indicator of health and life expectancy:

https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/walking-speed-survival/

OP - how fit are you? Do you have any health issues that make you walk at a slower pace? Illnesses, injuries, extra weight, etc?

What difference does that make? She's made it clear she is much shorter and slower. Anyone who is out walking with someone else other than for exercise and acts like her dh does is a selfish azz with no respect for their partner. It shows disdain and that is a relationship killer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I disagree. I think the op is just as rude. The daughter and husband likely have a longer stride because they are tall. They cover more space in a shorter time even if they are walking at the same pace as the op.

The op needs to get over it. Just walk at your pace and arrive when you arrive. You are asking them to walk awkwardly/unnaturally. Just as you don't want to run they don't want to stride unnaturally. They could fall.

My husband often walks ahead of me. Im not bothered by it. I often walk ahead of my friends as a taller woman.

Just because you tolerate rude behavior doesn't mean other people should. You dh is showing you how much he thinks of you.