Husband Always Walks Way in Front of Me

[Anonymous]

I don’t think this is a height thing. Some people are slow walkers.

My husband and I are the same height and he just walks too slow.

Walking too slowly is PAINFUL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re jerks. b

My aspie spouse does this to everyone- me, the kids, the grandparents.
Starts walking and just shuts his brain off like he’s the only one on the outing. It’s rude and self centered. Or aspie too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a respect issue, not a pace or height issue.

This

[Anonymous]

I’m a fast walker and often walk places with slower people. I slow my pace but then it seems my co-walkers slow their pace EVEN MORE. It is so painful.

[Anonymous]

My ex-husband did this. I said it bothered me when we were dating. He dismissed my feelings about this and everything else. Took me too long to divorce him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:End result of only 6’ tall guys need apply.

x10000000

I'm know you're both feeling great about rushing in with this awesome zinger, but unfortunately you are both also incorrect. My ex-DH was 5'7" and he was ALL about doing this. (New partner never, he is 5'10 btw.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They’re jerks. b

My aspie spouse does this to everyone- me, the kids, the grandparents.
Starts walking and just shuts his brain off like he’s the only one on the outing. It’s rude and self centered. Or aspie too.

No, it is not "aspie".


-"Aspie" who never does this.

[Anonymous]

I have been grouching at my DH about this for 20 years. I don’t understand why he can’t remember to slow down and stay with his family. Absolutely hate it and I do think it’s disrespectful as hell but he swears it’s not a respect thing at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I find it very telling that when men walk alone they meander very slowly like they have all the time in the world, yet when they’re walking with a female partner, they are always a foot ahead. It’s a sign of disrespect.

+1 if that is the case, absolutely. I assume OP's DH used to walk next to his wife in the early years.

I have never seen a man meander when alone.

I notice it all the time. Women walking alone always seem to be carrying things and on their way somewhere. Men just kind of wander.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:5’4” woman here who hates slowing down for my insanely slow spouse. It is hard to walk more slowly than is comfortable, just as I’m sure it’s hard to walk more quickly than ever s comfortable. Try holding hands with him (my husband does this, but still walks super slow so I feel like I’m lugging him along, like a recalcitrant giant toddler, lol).
My point is that I wouldn’t frame it in terms of disrespect, but more of comfort for each person. Tell him you’ll speed up (once you’re healed) and f he will slow down so you can try to meet me in the middle).

It is much easier to slow down than speed up. Come on. They aren't equivalent.

It really isn't, it's painful, especially when you have naturally longer stride, it hurts my hips to slow down for slow people. That said given that OP is currently recovering, her husband she at least make an effort to match her pace.

What a ridiculous amount of drama to excuse being rude. "Painful." How absurd.

[Anonymous]

Not kind at all.

I think you should have a heart to heart about HOW THIS MAKES YOU FEEL (not focused on what this says about him).

Ask, nicely, calmly that he try to be nicer because he cares how you feel.

Ask if there could be a word you both agree on, that you might use to remind him that he is doing it.

I am sorry that he is like that. It would hurt me too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a fast walker and often walk places with slower people. I slow my pace but then it seems my co-walkers slow their pace EVEN MORE. It is so painful.

It is not actually "painful" drama queen.

You are just selfish and impatient.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a fast walker and often walk places with slower people. I slow my pace but then it seems my co-walkers slow their pace EVEN MORE. It is so painful.

It is not actually "painful" drama queen.

You are just selfish and impatient.

+1

[Anonymous]

My wife, who is 6', does this all the time with me. When I see her way in fron of me, I say to myself: here I am married to a beautiful, tall, athletic woman who keeps herself in shape & who love the outdoors. I am a pretty lucky guy. Can you see yourself as a lucky woman?

[Anonymous]

Mine does too. It annoys me and I refuse to take walks and other stuff as it sucks.