Husband Always Walks Way in Front of Me
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Anonymous
| I am 5'1 with short legs, and my husband is 6'2 with long legs. During the first few years of marriage, he would slow down his pace so that we could walk together when we were out in public. However, over the last twenty years, he consistently has walked about fifteen feet ahead of me whenever we go somewhere. I either have to jog to keep up or accept walking behind alone. Now, our teenage daughter (who also is tall) is doing the same thing, and I feel doubly left out as I watch them chatting, etc. I have told him dozens of times that I feel left out walking by myself, but he says that I am a slow walker and that he shouldn't have to slow down his pace. This weekend, we were all walking in the downtown area of another city. It was late at night, and there were a number of sketchy-looking people around. I am recovering from foot surgery and have an even slower pace currently. They would cross streets without me and leave me behind for the next light to change. I kept explaining that the doctor said that I was not allowed to run on my foot and that I was afraid of slipping in the rain because I can't entirely feel my foot right now. Am I wrong that I think they should slow their pace to allow me to keep up with them? |
Anonymous
| Same. And Dh and I are the same heights as yours. I don’t have any solution. My Dh is walking way faster than the speed of traffic on sidewalks too. It’s just annoying. I have a toddler though who walks at the same speed as me thankfully. |
Anonymous
| You are not wrong. If he can’t understand that someone a foot taller isn’t walking faster but just has a longer stride, then he’s another that bright . Talk to your daughter about what she’s doing. |
Anonymous
| I would sit down on a bench and wait for him to notice. |
Anonymous
| They’re jerks. b |
Anonymous
| Prince Charles’ Syndrome |
Anonymous
| What a dick. |
Anonymous
| Explain how inconsiderate it is to your daughter, so that she knows not to do it to others. Ask how she would feel if it was done to her. |
Anonymous
| Mine does this. We’re divorcing. |
Anonymous
| Because he walks in front of you? Or was that just one of many signs of disrespect? |
Anonymous
| End result of only 6’ tall guys need apply. |
Anonymous
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He used to be willing to slow his pace.
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Anonymous
I’d disappear and let him think something happened to me. |
Anonymous
I said the same thing and my comment was canceled. I would drive home. Leave him. Make a bold statement to get his attention. If he can’t walk with you, then aren’t interested in walking alone. He should learn quickly if he arrives at his destination and you never show up. |
Anonymous
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Mine does the same thing and it’s really inconsiderate. Our kids aren’t tall enough yet to keep with him either, so the end result is that we walk and talk as a family and my DH effectively removes himself from the family. If their pace shifts down the road to match his, that will suck. Im sorry, OP. It’s bad enough when your spouse ignores you like that. It’s another thing when you’re excluded from family engagement because they don’t bother to make sure you’re included.
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