Grandparent names picked without my consent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so annoyed and just need to vent. My sister just had a baby. I'm due in just a few months. There are already two grandchildren who are older so my parents "grandparent" names were already chosen, or so I thought. (Think traditional, like Grandma and Grandpa).

I just saw photos posted online and my mom is now going by a different funky "Grandma" name, which I was never asked about and frankly I refuse to have my kids call her (think "Glitter").

I'm so annoyed that nobody ran this by me since our kids will be 4 months apart. At this point I'll just pick our own name to call her since it seems like every family gets to pick what they call my parents. I don't know why nobody thought to ask me or at least tell me before they started posting her new "name" online.

[raises hand] I'm pretty sure I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous[b wrote:]My Korean-American babysitter thinks it's hilarious how much drama there is in (white) US culture over grandparent names. M[/b]y DH is super low-drama but freaked out that my dad wanted to be called Papa. It is a common grandpa name (and never a dad name) where I'm from in the US, but DH is from a different part of the country and has spent a lot of time in Europe where Papa means Daddy. So as a compromise -- an admittedly passive-aggressive one -- I've started teaching DD German, which I speak, and calling her Dad "Papa" and Grandpa "Opa."

Oh yes how funny to make broad generalizations about a group of people! HA HA. Btw, neither side of my family made any fuss at all ( all white) so proved your theory wrong.

How would your Korean-American babysitter like it if we say.."Isn't it funny how ALL Koreans do X, Y and Z?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Korean-American babysitter thinks it's hilarious how much drama there is in (white) US culture over grandparent names. My DH is super low-drama but freaked out that my dad wanted to be called Papa. It is a common grandpa name (and never a dad name) where I'm from in the US, but DH is from a different part of the country and has spent a lot of time in Europe where Papa means Daddy. So as a compromise -- an admittedly passive-aggressive one -- I've started teaching DD German, which I speak, and calling her Dad "Papa" and Grandpa "Opa."

That's interesting. I know some families where everybody including the grandkids call Grandma and Grandpa "Mom and Dad". Their differentiate with their own parents by saying "Mommy and Daddy".

Yep, my great-grandparents were “Mom and Dad Smith,” and my dad & siblings call their own parents “Mama and Daddy.”

This is super-interesting, where are they from?

I’m the bolded PP. Appalachia—Smokey Mountains, with ancestry from Scotland, Ireland, England.

I'm the other PP - Delco area - PA

[Anonymous]

11 grandkids called our grandmother Anna-nana. It was awesome, she had no say at all. She really looked more like Grand-mère because she was very elegant.

[Anonymous]

I did not read the whole thread but I think you can introduce them as Grandma and Grampa if you like and refer to them that way. Older cousins may give up on Glitter or your kids might start using it. Chances are they will follow your lead though.

My nephew is currently called my mom Banannny. He is 2. Bananas are his favorite. It is very cute. None of the other cousins say it. I doubt it will last as he grows up.

[Anonymous]

Um - what? You sound nuts. Good luck with that crazy need to control.

[Anonymous]

You are a crazy woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[b wrote:]My Korean-American babysitter thinks it's hilarious how much drama there is in (white) US culture over grandparent names. M[/b]y DH is super low-drama but freaked out that my dad wanted to be called Papa. It is a common grandpa name (and never a dad name) where I'm from in the US, but DH is from a different part of the country and has spent a lot of time in Europe where Papa means Daddy. So as a compromise -- an admittedly passive-aggressive one -- I've started teaching DD German, which I speak, and calling her Dad "Papa" and Grandpa "Opa."

Oh yes how funny to make broad generalizations about a group of people! HA HA. Btw, neither side of my family made any fuss at all ( all white) so proved your theory wrong.

How would your Korean-American babysitter like it if we say.."Isn't it funny how ALL Koreans do X, Y and Z?

It's all about tendencies, not meant to be offensive, like saying "Germans tend to be outdoorsy" (they do). Lighten up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so annoyed and just need to vent. My sister just had a baby. I'm due in just a few months. There are already two grandchildren who are older so my parents "grandparent" names were already chosen, or so I thought. (Think traditional, like Grandma and Grandpa).

I just saw photos posted online and my mom is now going by a different funky "Grandma" name, which I was never asked about and frankly I refuse to have my kids call her (think "Glitter").

I'm so annoyed that nobody ran this by me since our kids will be 4 months apart. At this point I'll just pick our own name to call her since it seems like every family gets to pick what they call my parents. I don't know why nobody thought to ask me or at least tell me before they started posting her new "name" online.

Your parents not you, get to choose what they wish to be called. You are really a spoiled jerk brat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so annoyed and just need to vent. My sister just had a baby. I'm due in just a few months. There are already two grandchildren who are older so my parents "grandparent" names were already chosen, or so I thought. (Think traditional, like Grandma and Grandpa).

I just saw photos posted online and my mom is now going by a different funky "Grandma" name, which I was never asked about and frankly I refuse to have my kids call her (think "Glitter").

I'm so annoyed that nobody ran this by me since our kids will be 4 months apart. At this point I'll just pick our own name to call her since it seems like every family gets to pick what they call my parents. I don't know why nobody thought to ask me or at least tell me before they started posting her new "name" online.

Your parents not you, get to choose what they wish to be called. You are really a spoiled jerk brat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm so annoyed and just need to vent. My sister just had a baby. I'm due in just a few months. There are already two grandchildren who are older so my parents "grandparent" names were already chosen, or so I thought. (Think traditional, like Grandma and Grandpa).

I just saw photos posted online and my mom is now going by a different funky "Grandma" name, which I was never asked about and frankly I refuse to have my kids call her (think "Glitter").

I'm so annoyed that nobody ran this by me since our kids will be 4 months apart. At this point I'll just pick our own name to call her since it seems like every family gets to pick what they call my parents. I don't know why nobody thought to ask me or at least tell me before they started posting her new "name" online.

[raises hand] I'm pretty sure I know.

LOL!

Maybe your mom doesn't want to be called Grandmother or Granny. My MIL chose Nana, which in my culture is what you cal your maternal Grandfather, but we adjusted. My FIL wanted to be called another European name that is impossible to pronounce, so we vetoed and asked if Grandpa would be okay.

[Anonymous]

You can have your kids call your parents whatever you want, Drama Queen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous[b wrote:]My Korean-American babysitter thinks it's hilarious how much drama there is in (white) US culture over grandparent names. M[/b]y DH is super low-drama but freaked out that my dad wanted to be called Papa. It is a common grandpa name (and never a dad name) where I'm from in the US, but DH is from a different part of the country and has spent a lot of time in Europe where Papa means Daddy. So as a compromise -- an admittedly passive-aggressive one -- I've started teaching DD German, which I speak, and calling her Dad "Papa" and Grandpa "Opa."

Oh yes how funny to make broad generalizations about a group of people! HA HA. Btw, neither side of my family made any fuss at all ( all white) so proved your theory wrong.

How would your Korean-American babysitter like it if we say.."Isn't it funny how ALL Koreans do X, Y and Z?

rEvErSe racISm is BAD!!!!

[Anonymous]

On my side, my mom tried to pick her name, but the grandkids rejected it. DH is Indian, so his parents' names are dictated by their culture/language, but are not the same for all their grandkids. If you can, I would try to let this go. The name may not stick and, in any event, it's fine if grandkids call their grandma by different names; it's actually standard in large swaths of the world.

[Anonymous]

OP has to be trolling.

And Glitter sounds like an awesome name to call a grandparent!