Grandparent names picked without my consent

[Anonymous]

I'm so annoyed and just need to vent. My sister just had a baby. I'm due in just a few months. There are already two grandchildren who are older so my parents "grandparent" names were already chosen, or so I thought. (Think traditional, like Grandma and Grandpa).

I just saw photos posted online and my mom is now going by a different funky "Grandma" name, which I was never asked about and frankly I refuse to have my kids call her (think "Glitter").

I'm so annoyed that nobody ran this by me since our kids will be 4 months apart. At this point I'll just pick our own name to call her since it seems like every family gets to pick what they call my parents. I don't know why nobody thought to ask me or at least tell me before they started posting her new "name" online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so annoyed and just need to vent. My sister just had a baby. I'm due in just a few months. There are already two grandchildren who are older so my parents "grandparent" names were already chosen, or so I thought. (Think traditional, like Grandma and Grandpa).

I just saw photos posted online and my mom is now going by a different funky "Grandma" name, which I was never asked about and frankly I refuse to have my kids call her (think "Glitter").

I'm so annoyed that nobody ran this by me since our kids will be 4 months apart. At this point I'll just pick our own name to call her since it seems like every family gets to pick what they call my parents. I don't know why nobody thought to ask me or at least tell me before they started posting her new "name" online.

You need to grow up. You can have your kids call your parents whatever you'd like. If the cousins want to call her Glam-ma and your kid wants to call her Nana, so be it.

[Anonymous]

You don’t think your mom gets to pick her own name? Wow.

[Anonymous]

This is not an issue. Different kids in the same family use different names for grandparents. Happens all the time.. Presumably your mom got a say in this, and she is okay with the name? It's a decision that gets made between your sister and your mother, and then again between your mother and you.
And then kids will come up with their own names in 2 years!

[Anonymous]

A story for you, OP: before our oldest was born my MIL made a big deal about wanting to be called a cute grandma name like her sisters. All of my grandparents just went by grandma/grandpa, so this seemed odd and kind of irritated me, but I said nothing. Fast forward to chatty baby who ONLY said grandpa for months and months…MIL was thrilled when baby finally said Grammy and took it.

[Anonymous]

You sound nuts

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don’t think your mom gets to pick her own name? Wow.

"Hey, I think I want the kids to call me Glitter. What do you think?" would be nice. It should be a conversation.

[Anonymous]

My kids and my brother’s kids call my mom different names. I let her pick. My brother makes them call her Granny X which is horrific and she hates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t think your mom gets to pick her own name? Wow.

"Hey, I think I want the kids to call me Glitter. What do you think?" would be nice. It should be a conversation.

It’s her name. Not yours.

[Anonymous]

It's fine for kids to call them different things. If it confuses the grandparents (it might!) then they should speak up.

My mom wanted to be called something different from my MIL, for petty reasons. Then my BIL's family wanted to call my MIL (his mom) by the name my mom uses, so MIL tried to standardize it across families which got my mom in a huff ... You can't control all these people. Just worry about your own kids.

For laughs -- Growing up, my cousin's family called our grandmother "Grandma Cheryl." Her name is not Cheryl or anything close to it, and nobody knows why they did this. We just rolled with it.

[Anonymous]

This is a really strange post. You don’t get a vote on what your sister and mom decide on what her kids will call her. And you don’t get to make a unilateral decision about what your kids call your mom. If it’s a name she doesn’t like, then she can ask them to call her something else. The fact you are mad and posting about this reflects really poorly on you. You sound bratty and selfish. I hope you do some work on yourself before becoming a mother. There are much bigger things you will have to deal with in a short time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t think your mom gets to pick her own name? Wow.

"Hey, I think I want the kids to call me Glitter. What do you think?" would be nice. It should be a conversation.

Why? Seriously, why do you think you should get a vote in this?

[Anonymous]

It's up to her, not you. The exception being my FIL who picked a name with sexual connotations and we said hard pass, try again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm so annoyed and just need to vent. My sister just had a baby. I'm due in just a few months. There are already two grandchildren who are older so my parents "grandparent" names were already chosen, or so I thought. (Think traditional, like Grandma and Grandpa).

I just saw photos posted online and my mom is now going by a different funky "Grandma" name, which I was never asked about and frankly I refuse to have my kids call her (think "Glitter").

I'm so annoyed that nobody ran this by me since our kids will be 4 months apart. At this point I'll just pick our own name to call her since it seems like every family gets to pick what they call my parents. I don't know why nobody thought to ask me or at least tell me before they started posting her new "name" online.

[raises hand] I'm pretty sure I know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's up to her, not you. The exception being my FIL who picked a name with sexual connotations and we said hard pass, try again.

Fellaty?