Grandparent names picked without my consent

[Anonymous]

You sound controlling and a little unhinged. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

I would let it go. Especially if there are already other grandchildren in the family, whatever weird name she's trying to establish probably will not stick. And, kids can use different names. My kids called their paternal grandparents Grandma/Grandpa but their much-older cousins always just called them by their first names. They were pretty young when that batch was born so I guess MIL didn't like being a "grandma." I thought it was a bit weird but that's what they preferred.

[Anonymous]

I called my grandmas different things than my cousins did. NBD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's up to her, not you. The exception being my FIL who picked a name with sexual connotations and we said hard pass, try again.

Fellaty?

I bet his name is Richard whose friends call him Dick and he wanted the grandkids to call him something like “Big Dick”

Or Rod. Call me Thick Rod, kids, because your other grandfather is known as Little Rod.
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[Anonymous]

This is a really stupid boomer thing. They can call themselves whatever they want but I’m going to train my kids to say grandma and grandpa

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend's parents wanted to be Grandma and Grandpa. Their oldest grandchild named them Mimi and Pop-pop. The more they attempted to dig in against it, the more that sweet little feisty toddler dug in. It's been 15 years and guess what? They are Mimi and Pop-pop.

Then again, the oldest grandchild in our family mispronounced a given name and called someone Ninny ... that one did not stick. You teach the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Korean-American babysitter thinks it's hilarious how much drama there is in (white) US culture over grandparent names. My DH is super low-drama but freaked out that my dad wanted to be called Papa. It is a common grandpa name (and never a dad name) where I'm from in the US, but DH is from a different part of the country and has spent a lot of time in Europe where Papa means Daddy. So as a compromise -- an admittedly passive-aggressive one -- I've started teaching DD German, which I speak, and calling her Dad "Papa" and Grandpa "Opa."

FYI...Opa in Korean means big brother. This term (Opa) is used from a female to a male. There is a different word for big brother from a male to another male.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My Korean-American babysitter thinks it's hilarious how much drama there is in (white) US culture over grandparent names. My DH is super low-drama but freaked out that my dad wanted to be called Papa. It is a common grandpa name (and never a dad name) where I'm from in the US, but DH is from a different part of the country and has spent a lot of time in Europe where Papa means Daddy. So as a compromise -- an admittedly passive-aggressive one -- I've started teaching DD German, which I speak, and calling her Dad "Papa" and Grandpa "Opa."

FYI...Opa in Korean means big brother. This term (Opa) is used from a female to a male. There is a different word for big brother from a male to another male.

...but that PP is talking about German not Korean

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Korean-American babysitter thinks it's hilarious how much drama there is in (white) US culture over grandparent names. My DH is super low-drama but freaked out that my dad wanted to be called Papa. It is a common grandpa name (and never a dad name) where I'm from in the US, but DH is from a different part of the country and has spent a lot of time in Europe where Papa means Daddy. So as a compromise -- an admittedly passive-aggressive one -- I've started teaching DD German, which I speak, and calling her Dad "Papa" and Grandpa "Opa."

I think it's weird too. I'm German as well.

We have 1 Oma, 1 Opa, and Grandma/Grandpa. And Papa/Mutti/Mama/Mom. No idea why my kids call me 3 different things?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is a really stupid boomer thing. They can call themselves whatever they want but I’m going to train my kids to say grandma and grandpa

It has nothing to do with boomers and everything to do with people wanting to be called what they want. Do you want someone else to decide what your kids call you? That's no different. YOu're really a piece of work.

--another millennial who thinks grandparents can pick.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think mom or grandma picks. Kids pick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's up to her, not you. The exception being my FIL who picked a name with sexual connotations and we said hard pass, try again.

Fellaty?

Big Daddy

[Anonymous]

What I would give to have so few problems in my pregnancy that THIS is an issue that actually upsets me.

[Anonymous]

You're really gonna need to learn to let some sh*t go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's up to her, not you. The exception being my FIL who picked a name with sexual connotations and we said hard pass, try again.

Fellaty?

Big Daddy

Papa Thick